What the hell can I do about my 2 brothers. They have this thing with stealing and going through my things EVERYDAY when im at work. One of them is 15 and the other is 10. I have bought several doorknobs for my door because they are busting them while breaking into my room. I have replaced the piece of trim for the door many many times because they are prying it off to get in there. I have yelled, Screamed, Left notes, Trashed their room, Everything!! And yet both of them deny it and blame one another. My dad is lazy he sits on the computer all day when he gets home from work. I have asked him to deal with it several times and he blows it off. What can I do?
2007-01-18 18:11:16 · 12 answers · asked by thugshady06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get a lock, a big one
2007-01-18 18:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by diddlibop 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
I have two smaller brothers too. I have been in fights you would not imagine with my little brothers and now, I look back on it as some of the moments we will never forget.
Although you might think they often are hard to live with, you will notice later on that they love you deeply. Think that they need their elder brother and that you are a role model for them (they learn from you).
If they enter your room without permission, it might be just because you don't allow them and they might think you are hidding something. Curiosity could be a reason...& the fact of forbidding them could be another one (laws are always good to break when young...which they are...15 and 10 is middle & beginning of puberty...the worst phase if I may.....).
In any case, I recommend you let them freely in your room while you are away (i know this is hard !!). In that way, they will gradualy loose the wish to burst into your room.
As per the things you want to keep absolutely private, hide them somewhere else then in your room...
2007-01-18 21:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by Arnaud M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your brothers stuff, like their clothes or ALL their undies. Anyhting thats important to them. Buy a gun case, you can get a large metal/steel standing one for about $100, about 5ft tall and 3 ft wide. Find those at wallmart or any gun store or sports store. They are very hard to get into becuase they are supposed to be used to keep guns safe. They are combination locks, most have 2 different locks on them. Keep your inportant things in their. Next time it happens DO call the police and make a report..have the police talk to your brothers. They will only take them to jail if you insist on it so just call and say you were robbed and when they get their explain it was your brothers. My cousin used to steal my stuff when she would visit so one time my mom called the cops on her and she was only 14, and they came and talked to her about it. SHe never stole again! Scared the crap out of her lol but the gun case seems like the best becasue you tried to do something before about it. Tell you lazy dad that u are going to call the cops next time it happens and then really do it though. Maybe he will reazlie this is a problem
2007-01-18 19:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant keep the room secure then maybe you should try keeping your valuables someplace else (like a trusted friend's house?). Let them rummage through the silly things you dont think necessary. And dont fix the door, your dad should do that. Maybe when he keeps paying for it he'll tell them to stop. However if you are old enough to penalize your brothers (like withholding privileges they value) then do it. I think their challenge is getting the door open, so leave it open.... they might get bored and go look for another interesting challenge! Leaving the house is too drastic a solution I guess. Good luck, cause they really sound like trouble to me!!
2007-01-18 20:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by blueheartz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention your gender but I think you might be female becuse they wouldn't do something an older brother would kick their butts for ,,,, Maybe you need to start leaving a few spring loaded mouse traps in places you know they are going to get into ,,,, Or if your father is as unconcerned as you say he is then maybe it's time to tell the boys that you are going to kick asss the next time you find that they've been in your room or belongings ,,,, Dont just threaten though ,,,, Follow through with what you say you are going to do even if you have to get a club to do it ,,,, Maybe Dad will blow them off the same way he does you when they go to him and tell him what you've done to them ,,,, If he starts raising hell with you about what you've done to them ,,,, then that would be the perfect opportunity to raise the subject of what you've been trying to tell him concerning what they've been doing to you all along ,,,,That you just figured that if he won't dicipline them then you are going to ,,,,, They aren't going to stop if and so long as they have no authority figure to dictate to them ,,,,, If your Dad takes exception to what you are doing to them then suggest ,,,,, again ,,,,,, that he intervene on your behalf ,,,,, that you are going to kick their little buts for them as long as they keep this behavior up ,,,, You shouldn't have to put up with this sort of thing and you aren't asking anything that is unfair to anyone,,,, If you've appealed to your father several times about this matter and nothing is done then it's probably time to take matters into our own hands ,,,, The only way they are going to stop this is when they are offered deterrents that are unacceptable to them ,,,,, The only other option you have is to move out and get your own place if that's possible ,,,, It's for sure that they are getting away with things they shouldh't be allowed to do ,,,, You said that they just blame each other when you talk to them about it ,,,, Well what you need to say is that you know the have both done in the past so it does't 'matter who's done it now ,,,, That the next time it happens regardless of who did it ,,,,, they are both going to pay for it just to make sure the guilty party gets what he deserves ,,,,,This is the stance your father should take ,,,,I would bet that the ransacking of your room and belongings would stop after that ,,,,, Stick to you guns on this and good luck ,,,,,
2007-01-18 19:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Mike,
Tell your little brothers that your going to call the police the next time they break into your room. Just tell them that you are going to report them for burglury and drug abuse and that they will go to prison. Scare them, lie to them, or move out if your old enough. If that don't work, kick their asses until they are black and blue, then just lie about it. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
2007-01-18 18:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mysteri O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, I even have 2 smaller brothers too. I even have been in fights you will not think of with my little brothers and now, i seem returned on it because of the fact the countless moments we can in no way forget. inspite of the reality which you will think of they generally are stressful to stay with, you will see in a protracted time that they love you deeply. think of that they choose their elder brother and which you're a place sort for them (they study from you). in the event that they enter your room without permission, it may be purely considering which you do not enable them and that they could think of you're hidding something. interest could be a reason...& the reality of forbidding them must be yet another one (rules are consistently solid to interrupt whilst youthful...which they are...15 and 10 is center & beginning up of puberty...the worst area if i ought to.....). in spite of everything, i % to advise you enable them to freely on your room once you're away (i be attentive to it fairly is stressful !!). In that way, they are going to gradualy loose the opt to burst into your room. As in line with the failings you % to maintain actual inner maximum, conceal them someplace else then on your room...
2016-10-31 12:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 year old is a grown up person with brains. Just sit and talk to him, if he don't understand then beat him once so that he could get what you said.
no, know his secret and warn him that you will tell his schoolmates about it.
Or warn him that you wil tell his girlfriend, if he has, about his drawbacks.
2007-01-18 20:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys are out of control. If your dad won't deal with it, you really have no hope. Is moving out an option? That is ridiculous for you to live with but I don't see anyway for you to fix it.
2007-01-18 18:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your dad repair the door. He's responsible for the boys and if it hits him in the pocketbook, he'll pay more attention.
2007-01-18 19:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your dad should be the one doing something about it.. but because it keeps happening.. you might have to rent a place to put your stuff or maybe booby trap the room lol... good luck
2007-01-18 18:20:44 · answer #11 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋