Well see there is this guy (my ex) Brian and well we broke up and still liked each other and then one day he said he didn't like me but see he is so pathetic he couldn't even tell me himself and now he's with a pretty, smart, athletic,and big on christanity girl Haley and im only 2 of those things and now im kinda jelouse but if anyone close found out i would be ruined even my BFFL Sarah can't know! I really want him back but i know he won't forgive me because i said some stuff that now i regret. How do i get him back. PLZ HELP!!!!
2007-01-18 17:43:05 · 13 answers · asked by arichardson94 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It looks like he moved on so now its time for you to do the same. If he wants you he will tell you. I know how hard it is to see someone you love with someone else but you can't just go on hoping for him to come back. Theres a man out there for you that you can start fresh with.
2007-01-18 17:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, first off I would not try to get him back. You see now is the time to step back from your previous relationship and not to be jealous of her but, know that maybe you have characteristics that are your own. Don't be evaluating and comparing what she is and your not! Don't think that if you maybe where some the things she was that you would have Brian back! You see he knew that he maybe needed someone a little bit more him, Does he know if that pretty, smart, athletic and big on Christianity girl is going to work out for him? The Answer is No! But he probably realized that he sure needed to find out. But, you are also a beautiful unique person with somethings maybe this girl your jealous of wished she had!? Take a step back and give it some time, and maybe reevaluate the things you have to offer that maybe you would be a little bit more compatible with someone else? Above all else you need to find a guy that is going to honor you for the beautiful person that you are. Ask Yourself some other things like does he?:
1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process.God Bless!
2007-01-18 18:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about that. The trouble with what you want is that it may not be what , "he" wants. In getting angry, we all say things that we either don't mean, or always meant to bring up...but never had the courage. It seems that he is already looking and or maybe found someone else. What you can do, in either case, is apologize for what you said. That is at least a foundation for re-establishing some type of friendship. As for the things that you are or aren't, changing yourself to suit someone else will never do anyone any good! This is also apt to lower your self-esteem. Trust me on this one! If being yourself means, he doesn't want to be with you...okay, there is still someone out there who wants to be with you, for you just the way you are! By the way, I'm only 2 on the list myself, LOL!
Darkrose
2007-01-18 18:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by darkrose1966 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I too am Brian,
See, you said yourself that he is so pathethic, you havent mentioned which of the 2 qualities you possessed that this new found love possesses.
Quit being so negative about yourself. You possess a lot more than 2 qualities!
lets count your blessings,
Your smart, pretty, warm hearted, healthy, well behaved, Pretty cool, etc etc.
And there are plenty of fish in the sea, So hailey got something you rejected, too bad for her.
You just go ahead and get someone nice yourself.
Just a thought is there anything "Christian" about the way your going about?
2007-01-18 17:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by brian p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry miss but the time that u had 2 get him back ended when he found some1 else. now im not say that he & her will b 2gether 4ever cause i just dont know if they do break up somewhere down the road then u could make a try 4 him , but unless that happens on its own ur going 2 have 2 move on & find some1 else . i hope u will find some1 that will make u happy
2007-01-18 18:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess i would tell you to get over him i know it is harsh however you can do better and there are a lot of guys out ther and right nw i knowyou dont want to even think abou thoer guys i am like this too however he now has a girl and it is terrible to try to break things up with them you would not want that to happen with you if anything try to be his friend and after that girl leaves try again maybe it might work good luck
2007-01-18 17:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just try talking to him first and if that doesn't work, don't worry, there are tons of fish in the sea. I know that is blunt but you will find someone else who isn't "pathetic" and will treat you right.
2007-01-18 17:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Paisley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hun...you're better off without him and not trying. harsh as it sounds, he broke it off because he just didn't like you enough...and he has moved on....and most likely any attempt by your part would end up hurting you even more...even if nobody finds out. and hun you don't want to go about trying to win him back and being dissappointed if you don't want to have your friends console you afterwards.
2007-01-18 17:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some relationships are not meant to be. You seem to have little respect for him, and if he wasn't seeing someone else your pain wouldn't be so great. Go out and have fun! He's not your type!
2007-01-18 17:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try to get him back... wat if he doesnt like you anymore........
if i would reverse the question.... "would you prefer to go back which you already hated?
better if he still prefers you.........if not dont be pushy
just accept and move on......
you know i'm experiencing it now too.....
but after i let it go , i realize that being single is more happier
its as if i'm free of the thought that maybe my relationship will not work.....
being single is a gift with no commitment......
2007-01-18 17:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋