when i was 9 years old i went on a week cruise were i became good friends with a 12 year old girl (i am a girl also). we hung out a lot, but one night she invited me to come to her cabin room thing on the boat. she asked if i wanted to play "house", and being a little kid, of course i agreed. but her version of house was way different then mine. she had me lay on her bunk, and she layed on top of me (cloths on), panting and yelling "more babies, more babies!". after about 10 min of this, she would roll off, and wait a bit before starting again. after about 40 min of this, we switched, and she made me lay on top of her. i never really told her not to, but i did say things like "lets play something else" , "enough babies", and finally " i got to go now". for years i have laughed at it, but know i m almost 15, and am wondering if this is sexual harassment. is it?!?!?!
2007-01-18 17:18:00 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
well its not like it has affected me. i had totally forgotten about it untill a couple months ago. i was just wondering if it was sexual harassment.
2007-01-18 17:33:27 · update #1
no, i havent talked to her since that week we spent on the cruise when i was 9
but to make this clear. I AM NOT AFFECTED BY IT AT ALL. i told a couple friends, we laughed at it for a long time, then i forgot about it till my friend reminded me a couple weeks ago
and Teema, there is not "hurt" or "cold" inside me. i am straight, and havent thought about being lesbian. and no, i havent "played" with any girls like that
2007-01-20 04:04:37 · update #2
Talk about bad influence.
These days children will just pick up anything they saw.
2007-01-18 17:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by Chelsea 2 · 14⤊ 0⤋
I remember doing experimental things when i was a child. we lived on a farm and animals were doing it and i wanted to try too.
i wouldn't have tried it with a person who didn't want to play with me . I didn't have intercourse until i was 18 but I sure played a lot as a kid.... it's not sexual harassment because she had no holds on you and you could have gotten up anytime at all and walked out the door . P.S. i'm very much heterosexual but playing with girls when young was cause they were there and we all were curious and loved huggings .... yes some of us are kinkier than others but that doesn't make us bad , that doesn't make us lesbians, it makes us human
2007-01-26 11:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by jay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she was actually doing anything that was really sexual...She did come in contact with you and it might have been uncomfortable but I seriously doubt that this girl was intending to have any form of sex with you.
More than likely she was just being stupid and retarded like a lot of kids are at that age (notice I said a lot not all).
It can be because of the nature of the thing she was saying and because you kept telling her no, but she probably didn't understand it as that.
2007-01-19 04:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Pancake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not harassment. Harassment means to keep up an unwanted action, over a period of time.
It WAS sexual. That girl was acting out what she thought was a sexual encounter.
Do you still know this girl, or was it a shipboard friendship that did not continue afterwards? It may be that this girl was/is confused on sexual matters, and may need some help.
2007-01-19 12:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why people say over and over "kids will be kids" I never played house that way, I never saw kids play that way. This girl obviously saw something that taught her that. I don't know if it was harassment but at the time you could have reported her to the police. And no, they would not have taken it as "Kids will be kids' Jesus, where is the line drawn between being kids and being abusive? Appartently there is no line for a lot of these people here.
2007-01-19 12:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually, I think not. I'm guessing that she was just young and naive, not harrassing you. I can understand why you would think that, because if it were any other circumstance, like if she were 15 or 16, it might be harrassment. Of course, since i wasn't there I won't be one to judge. Either way, don't dwell on it. The other girl probably looks back on that with more than a little embarrassment after she goes through her sex-ed class anyway.
2007-01-19 01:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by buster d 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds like that kid was a tad bit wierd, but all in all it did not cross any lines that would turn it into sick or creepy. Let that just be an example that you dont always have to play the games others are playing, just because others are doing it doesnt mean that it is the right thing to do.
2007-01-19 01:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by proud mommy and wife 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not so much on your side. What she was doing was releasing her anger at having been played with by either a guy or girl. She being some three years older than you was at an age were her sexual awakening was more advanced and so she wanting to be close to you expressed that closness in the way someone may have expressed their closeness to her. Herassment is of cause any act that makes you feel uncomfortaberl about yourself as a result of that act. *SO yes you were harrased). But, why i feel coming from you is that you may have played with a girl also as now you are fifteen. This is normal anthe earlier event has not turned you into a Lesbeian.
Women are negative at the pubic region and posative at the head. This generates a polarity about your bodyand generate the colours in your aura and also rotates the chakras. If you had reversed polarity, they your body would like girls and not guys. Being accepting of your sexuallity helps you to accept yourself and thus, accept the life you live. Sex is a body food and is a part of being at your age. However, id the earlier event has upset you andyou find that youare attracting girls into your sex life, know that what you think-is and if you are letting this pastevent control you, then girls will respond to that thinking. I see you as liking guys and when guys play, you feel unsure about what that girldid to you and what she must have experienced to express her action onto you. How is she handling her experience? Now at eighteen she maybe messed up and at a loss to why she was born a girl and seen by guys as a sex toy. To be happy within, you have to have a high level of selfesteem and a high level of emotional control, that way body is happy and your health is at a high. Mess it up by being harrased and your helth gos down which is why you are asking for help. Mon is the first line of help,she had sex long befor you knew about it and maybethe other girls mother may have said something back then and as you haven't, well mom isn't going to be pusie. She had you because you wanted to come through her in spirit tobe the girl you are. Talk to her as a fifteen year old about it and express how you feel, you may be surprised at just how much she knows about you. If mom is a towering wall, then talk to someone you can trust and released the inner hurt. That experience is like a cold that wont go away and hold you back from enjoying yourself. To get rid of the cold, talk it out of yourself to someone you know. Hope I've be of help to you. Teema
2007-01-19 01:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by teemasday 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Sounds to me as if a 12 year old was attempting to role play what she THOUGHT would be the sex act...nope not sexual harassment...probably sexual embarrassment if you ever met up with her and recounted that moment in time though LOL
as for teemsaday...what a load of CRAP
2007-01-19 02:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It definately was sexual harrasment. But then again, what would a 12 year old know? Yes there are some very sexual knowing kids out there but maybe she was a victim of harrasment herself or saw it in person and thats why she played around like that thinking it was fine.
2007-01-19 01:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Newlywed 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
sounds to me that the 12 year old saw something either at home or on television and was attempting to reinact it. kids do that, they learn by what they see and hear. and you have too. you learned something from this. think about what you leanred from it, then forget it. enjoy life.
2007-01-26 13:58:04 · answer #11 · answered by Xandu N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋