ATTENTION!!! What would you think...?

Question

So, heres the deal. Last year was my junior year, so september of 2005 I started going out with a girl named stephanie. I didn't think it was anything special at first until we hit the three month spot. Then we started to do the normal teenager things... but she was a sophomore at the time, keep that in mind.

Now when I say normal things, I don't mean sex. I mean make out (did that 2 weeks after we hooked up), you know, grope, that kind of stuff... and then the topic of sex came about around 4 months.... surprisingly not by me. She wanted to know what I thought. I told her that maybe later in the relationship, until then lets have fun. Well, back ground about her. Her dad was a raging alcoholic and died because of it, which drove her to say she'd never ever do anything like that. Well, in may of 06', we broke up because we were growing apart... we still never had sex because I didn't want her to regret anything and she still had two years ahead of her. but now shes drinking... (c)

and shes going out with guys she said she would never date... and she has completely changed who she is and she hangs out with. I feel like part of this is my fault, but then I know somewhere that it's just because she's growing up.... I don't know... what's your idea's on the whole thing?

Answer 1

hey eric. ohk first thing, its gr8 to kno there r sensitive considerate guys out there like you. umm bout ur stephanie problem. well i think that ur decision was a very wise one. and one that might have surprised her too. usually guys r suckers for *** but this time it was diff. so neway i think that you guys might have broken up due to the age difference. or some other issues. but lemme tell you it is definitely not ur fault what shes doin now. she is an independant individual. she must take charge of her own life and not make mistakes at sum1 elses cost. you might wanna consider talkin to her tho since u r obv concerned about her. but goin arnd feelin guilty is not right. you did the right thing. you shud b proud. and judging by the looks of it....she was going to start drinking neway. family history matters a lot in such cases. if shes seen drunkards growing up, theres not goin to be much of a personality turnover for her when shes growing up. but i still maintain that what you did was unusual, thoughtful and wise. keep it up!...n no sweat!=]

Answer 2

Not to be a fatalist, but if she has alcoholism in her family, then she was destined to fight it off at some point herself. Regardless of what got here there, you are not responsible. Understand that biology and psychology are twisted together with this, and its up to her to realize her problem and do something about it. She would have met up with drinking, partying and "bad" people at some point in her life, and unfortunatly you have to let people live their own lives. You can't help someone who won't let you help them. Take care of yourself, and be open if she comes to you for help.

Answer 3

When my Dad died i went off the rails for a while what i needed was someone to care about me the way you care about her talk to her and express your concern for her wellbeing and tell her will be there for her when she needs you

Answer 4

Its not your fault, so dont think it is. But if you care for her as a friend you should tell her that you care for her and that you worried about her. If she doesnt seem to listen then talk to her guardian. You dont want her to get worst then she is so you need to be there for her and help but that is only if you want to be there for her.

Answer 5

maybe you should talk to her and see how shes feeling

Answer 6

i think that its just because she still depressed or somthing