somebody out there help?????

Question

I wrote for answer's before, i did everything you could think of, there is no justice.
yet I hear of other boy's getting sexually abused and there's a big fuss and justice is done quick. could it be because were mexican ,that nobody care's I'm starting to wonder about that now.
I wrote about what happened to my son on this web site several month's ago. my son was sexually abused while on an overnite visit at his father's house.
my son is under doctor's care plus counseling at school.
my son is having nightmare's about the guy that sexually abused him. he has alot of fear, his grades went down in school.he's gained 15 pounds from anxiety .
because of christ hosp in oak lawn,il. the guy that sexually abused my son is scott free because the doctor at that hospital said that my son was fine . the hosp said that because they did not examine him all they did was take vital sign's.
the private doc wrote a diagram of a recent tear and an old tear in my son's anus.

Answer 1

Oh my God! I am so sorry this has happened to your son, I hope he will get better soon, although it must be a horrible thing that one just doesn't forget....I don't know what can be done, other than the doctor testifying in behalf of your son, and have your son testify against this animal....don't give up, these cases are hard to prove but if your son is willing to go through with testifying, and will be okay with reliving such a nightmare, than continue with the charges until you get heard....this is happening way too much, someone has to listen to our children....don't give up, ask your doctor and school official, psychiatrist, psychologist, anyone that can help you....God Bless you and your son....may this animal suffer the punishment if not morally, than physically...justice has to be done.

Answer 2

Omg! how horrible for your and your son.. This happened in your son's father's care? Wow..Does he still have vitiation rights with his son? It don't matter if your black,white, Mexican, American, Jew,Hebrew etc, that have nothing to do with why your question was not answered. I can only speak for my self when I say I never saw your question, then again I'm not always in Yahoo answers and when i am I don't always have allot of time so i answer those few that I know the answers too n be gone.Is there any way you can take your son to a new Dr? Does his father have to see his son unsupervised? And by the I do care..just not enough of me to go around.. All I can say is reassure your son that you love him regardless and it was not his fault.Seems like your doing what you can.. I wish there was more I could say..Or do..

Answer 3

You needed to call the police and make a report. I don't know if it is too late for that but Hispanics generally have more legal aid than Anglo's here in America. There are some Hispanic organization that may legally represent you if you are wanting to pursue the case although your son will have to participate in the investigation somewhat.
I am sympathetic to your plight and if I were you I would call the local t.v. station up and see if you can speak with an "investigative" reporter.
Seek an attorney and see what your next step might be. Good Luck!

Answer 4

You need to file a police report immediately. They should do something about it. You also need to get him into counseling quickly. The therapist is a mandated reporter and will also have to report the incident.

The police should do a 1st contact report and then decide then if they will continue with the case.

Have your son examined by a different doctor. They can document the scar tissue to his anus.

If you do nothing do get him help. He will be confused, depressed and scared for a long while.

Answer 5

You do not need to worry about the other abuses. Your immediate attention ought to be with your son and yourself. Get angry over this, not over general injustices. At the same time, get your son to keep sharing with you his fears, thoughts. Keep doing normal things with him, and assure him of his intelligence, and also encourage to take up some physical activity to reduce negative energy buildup. You need to get involved enough as a mother but not over-indulge him. It might backfire. Find a safe older man, (church?), so that he can relate in a positive way how a man ought to behave.

Are you able to get a lawyer to get the court to impose a restriction order on his father, preventing him from going near him in any public place. I assume your home is out of bounds to him. Use that diagram given by the private Dr as evidence.

You need to get help for emotional release as well. Eat sensibly, get sufficient rest/sleep, cry, pray, involve safe friends, get a list from your local hospital for support groups for sexual abuse.

I wish you luck or the protection of God, whichever you believe.

Answer 6

god bless your family...

I believe that you should partake in counseling for both your son and yourself. Medical doctor's help with the physical concerns and aren't too skilled at the mental concerns. I'm surprised that the doctor did not recommend therapy for your son, let alone say that your son is fine.

Although you son is seeking counseling at school, I believe family therapy would be extremely helpful for both you and your son. School counselor's aren't as helpful as private therapist because most of them aren't even licensed.

If you can seek legal advise too, they could also help you with ways to go about this because your son has experienced a serious trauma.

God bless your family and I wish you well with your healing process.

Answer 7

I would take him tom a psychiatrist and tell him the story and the agony and maybe nightmares. you did not say how old he is. But i can feel your pain in this Question. maybe talking to a minister or priest at your local church will help. I can't understand while the Dr. did not do any exams more, maybe he did not want to get involved.Good excuse.That i don't understand.Hope he doesn't have a permanent mental damage done to him. take him to another Dr. soon. good luck.my prayers are with you!

Answer 8

First off I am very sorry you and your son had to go through this. Have you contacted police? I would do so and keep pushing for more answers and I have to ask but what in the h e double L was your husband doing when this happened. That is horrible I hope that loser who raped your son is brought to justice

Answer 9

I dont think it is because you are mexican, I think that you do, however, need to pursue this and never stop trying to seek justice for your son.
I am very proud of you for trying so hard for your child. So many people just treat it as if the child did something wrong and dont even alert the authorities. What you are doing for your son is showing him that he is so important that someone fights for him, no matter what.
Keep it up and you will have one very proud kid one day.
Good luck, and keep up the good work.

Answer 10

My God, that is horrible
I will pray for you....nothing I can really say to that.....
But there has to be someone that could help. If you feel that your family were treated unjustly...then you can always get your story out there. Call your local news station...write to a talk show. Someone will air your story...and that's when more people will look into and get the ball rolling. There is no way that a rapist should be out scotch free. Do your best to bring public awareness to your story.