Last night I wen to a party and I put myself in a situation that should never happened. I got drunk and allowed a guy to dance with me or more like grind on me. Following that I allowed him to drag me into a bathroom which he claimed that he thought I had to throw up but seemed more interested in trying to hook up with me. Nothing happened and anytime he tried to iniate anything I would tell him no that I have a boyfriend. I know that this doesn't seem like a big deal to some but to me I was disgusted that I allowed this situation to get even that far. I ended up telling my boyfriend what happened because I could not keep this hidden. He says he still loves but he just needs to think. What can I do???
2007-01-18 16:59:06 · 23 answers · asked by bzrunner 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At this point, the ball is in your boyfriend's court as to what he will decide he wants to do / how to act.
For yourself, you must keep close tabs on your drinking - you have had a moderate experience with why it is imperative to drink responsibly, as your bathroom encounter could have gone MUCH worse than it did.
2007-01-18 17:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your boyfriend the time to think and do not allow yourself to get into a situation like that again. You are fortunate in that you said no and the guy didn't force himself on you anyway. I have had that happen to male and female friends. If you go to parties where you are going to get drunk have someone keep an eye on you. My friends and I always have buddies to watch over us to make sure we don't get in dangerous situations.
2007-01-19 01:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) if you didn't do anything beside dance, you should have let it go and move on. You didn't cheat.
2) Should not have told the boyfriend.
3) Don't allow yourself to drink more than two drinks in a public situation if you are afraid of getting into situations that shouldn't happen.
2007-01-19 01:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by searious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you. Next time just don't lose your inhibitions when you get drunk or do not drink as much next time. Obviously you didn't lose all of your senses, because you still told him no. Just don't be alone with a guy again and don' t let anyone else grind up on you.
Good for you though for telling him, best of luck! :)
2007-01-19 01:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see. You went to a club, got drunk and then used that drunkeness to excuse the fact that you had a grope with someone. You were clearly not drunk enough to not know what was going on since you could still make choices in the bathroom.
Hopefully your boyfriend has the sense to see that you;re a whore and dump you for a better person.
2007-01-19 01:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing you can do. You already told your boyfriend and he said he needed to think. Give him time. And next time dont get that drunk where you get to lose your head and not think straight. You are lucky nothing serious happened, and trust me, cheating on your boyfriend wouldnt have been the worse.
2007-01-19 01:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by nyenelra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that big of a deal. You confessed right away so hopefully your bf will see that as you being honest and upfront when you could of lied about it. Good for you for not cheating on your bf. Give him some time. Right now he's probably just hurt but he'll see the reality of it and then you two can work it out.
2007-01-19 01:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your man just needs a little time , he probably wants to kick the guys butt. Hes thinking over what he wants to do to him, if anything. Take care. And next time bring him with you to the party.
2007-01-19 01:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait for your boyfriend's answer.You shouldn't allowed him,but you allowed him.Wait for answer.Why you do this?Your boyfriend loves you,but when his answer is no to you,this is your matter that you did it.Don't think every thing is end,when you sad for his answer.You shouldn't told him.Because every boyfreind don't like it.
2007-01-19 01:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him think and the next time you feel like getting drunk bring a friend with you that will stay sober and keep that from happing
2007-01-19 01:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋