Ever know of anyone who did this? And, WHY? Well, I think I know of someone-but I am not sure. He is my friend's bro......he has friends; he is a very likable person-but a very private one too. He has a facebook and well, he has nothing on it-no info. except his name and hometown and pics. that people have taged him on. And, he hasnt had a girlfriend in a longtime-he's 24. He HAS definitely changed since etnering the military-he goes to a military academy. It seems to me, he's become very introvert; he wasn't the outgoing type-but was liked; know it seems like he is open to friendhsips; but he at the same time keeps a lot to himself-even his close friends have kind of wondered. So, I almost feel like is trying tom communicate withsomeone; but someone he trusts-but in a deeper level-and I feel like I could be it-but it's something I sense; not comfirm. How do I apporach him without offending him? Do you think I could be on to something...and he is trying to say something?
2007-01-18 16:56:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can approach him, start with saying hi, meet him often (you know his bro right ?), and when the time is right, a cup of coffee and a flirt talking if you want a relationship with him.
2007-01-18 17:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Alastair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I joined the military I went through the same thing. In my case I seperated from my friends that I went to school with because we simply grew apart. I grew up very fast, joining at 17 and learned a new way of life. Suddenly my goals changed, and even my outlook on life. When I would come home on leave I would catch up with them but they were at a different place then I was. Even though we grew up togather I felt like I was only visiting and that it wasn't my home any more. It wasn't depressing, only that I had my own cricle of friends, and what bonded us made us alot tighter then hanging out on friday night and drinking. People in the military go through intense training, both mental and physical. You learn to trust the people that you go through the training with, and you end up making very good friends in the process. So that would be my guess. You both are changing, but he is changing faster. He probably doesn't feel any different but everyone can see that he is. You are going to have to get to know your friend for who he is now not who you remember him to be. Hang out with him and talk, that is about the only thing that I can offer.
2007-01-18 17:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by fireguyjay01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people have alot on their mind. he is going through alot of life-changes and this is a turning point in his life,so he may be preoccupied. i am a private person, and dont open up much to people. but this doesnt mean that i am shy.i talk to people and socialize, but i dont feel the need to confide in others too much. i dont think that this is wierd or unusual.people are just different. i dont understand people who are the opposite- they let everyone know everything going on in their lives, and everything that might go on in their lives. but back to him- he actually might be going through something rough, and would appreciate a willing ear.maybe you could start out by telling him something that you have been struggling with(i assume there is something, there usually is for most of us) and then see if you can stear the conversation toward him . if he needs someone to talk to, he will jump at this opportunity,especially if he feels like it is just a natural progression of the conversation. best wishes
2007-01-18 17:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like that need a little breaking down. maybe he feels like someone will make him feel stupid for saying what is on his mind. all i know is he's thinking alot! that you can be sure of. if he doesn't feel like opening up, then don't push it. let him know you care and that whatever he wants to say, he won't feel foolish for doing so. let him know you understand or will try to at least. it takes time for people like that to open up.
2007-01-18 17:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bodhi721 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him, tell him how you feel and that you don't want to offend him and that you are concerned about him, if he doesn't want to answer your questions (he's private right? )then he won't answer you. Good Luck! =)
2007-01-18 17:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know.....I've been building up my wall so long I dont know anything else.
2007-01-18 17:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by thatvegasguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋