Where do I go now?

Question

I'm a ft student and work ft and I'm the mother of a ten yr old.I found out about 6 weeks ago that I was pregnant.This Fri. would have made me 19 weeks.I moved in with my mom to help her out with the bills and when she found out she was pissed and had a fit.She told me I need another kid like I need a hole in my head and my friends was totally against it since I'm in school.My mom told me to abort it or move out.So I moved in with a friend for awhile and it did'nt work out I tryed calling some shelters but to no avail I had to go back to moms.She made such a stink I went to Raleigh and had it done last Sat.,now I feel empty and depressed and don't look at my mom the same way.I really need some advice on how to move on from this,I wish I could go back to last Sat,my mom keep saying you did the right thing baby.Please help.

Answer 1

If it were my mom I would feel bitterness towards her that she couldn't love me or my child. I would tell her that she is selfish and she needs to really butt out, people have babies and go to school and make it work all the time. I hope that you feel better soon, I am sorry that you feel sad, it makes me sad. Maybe you could go to some counseling and try to find help there since obviously your mother is selfish and doesn't truly care about you, if she did it seems she would have supported you no matter what.

Answer 2

I am not going to tell you what you did was wrong because I do not feel that is my place. I am neither prolife or pro choice. I have 4 childrenand I can only imagine what you must be going through. The only advice I do have for you is to pray a lot. what is done is in the past. The key though is to get through it not over it. your mother never should have put you in that position but you do have a few options. You can search on the internet and find support groups in your area for this kind of situations. they may be hard to find but you can also go to your doctor or to a planned parenthood or pregnancy center or even maturnity ward at any hospital and ask to speak with a case worker and they can help you find support in your area. above all else the best thing that is going to help is to, and I know it sounds corney, find solice in the LORD. pray and he will help good luck

Answer 3

Wow, dear, that's a load on your heart! I had an abortion 10 years ago, and totally relate with the emptiness and hurt you are going through. I found help at my local crisis pregnancy center with their post-abortion group. What you are going through is very real, and very hard. But you know what? There is hope and healing after this. It's going to take time, but for your sake and the sake of your 10-year-old, you need to work through this. God still loves you and there is forgiveness to be found. God bless you as you start this road. I will be praying for you! I looked on the internet and found Raleigh's Pregnancy Life Care center helpline at 919-873-2442 or www.pregnancylifecare.org/post-abortion.html Hope this helps somehow!

Answer 4

Your mom has no business telling you to have an abortion! Especially if you are moving in with her to help her with stuff....Who the hell does she think she is??? You are an adult and should be able to make your own decisions. I wish you the best but I have no idea what advice to give you! I couldnt imagine going through with anything like that. I got pregnant at 21 and my fiancees grandfather tried to push me into an abortion but I am so glad I didnt do it...My daughter is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Good luck! Fallow your heart and do what you think is right!

Answer 5

Well, your mom is right in that you are in no position to raise a baby. You have to be a grownup and take responsibility and do what's right and stop have lovey dovey fantasies about a baby you would have been neglecting because of working and being in school (as you are obviously already neglecting your 10 year old.)

You are too passive. What are you doing risking pregnancy at this point in your life anyway? You are too irresponsible.

So, it might have been the wrong move, but you are so passive and out of control and irresponsible, you want to pretend your mom made you do this. I think it's amazing your mom can look at you.

Stop making excuses, start taking responsibility. Stop pretending that baby would have been anything but a disaster for your family.

Answer 6

I am sorry about your situation, but although what your mother did was wrong, this is your fault. You have a full time job, you could have gotten a place of your own. Even if you were 13 with your first one that would make you 23 now, an adult. Quite capable of making your own decisions.

Answer 7

well.. I have never been in this situation... I am sorry to hear you had to go throught this! I hope you will take better precautions next time! Just try to move on with your life now thats all you can do think of making your 10 year old happy and bettering your future so next time this happens hopefully you will be out of school and can handle it! Sorry to hear the news! God Bless You

Answer 8

Everyone is entitled to their opinion and I feel your mum had your best interests at heart.

Did you consider all your options (keeping it, adopting it out) or was abortion the only option? Could you have kept it and looked after it by yourself?

If you are adult enough to have sex, then your adult enough to deal with the repercussions and making your own decisions. Your mum was in a tough situation and I wouldn't hold it against her. Ask her for support and to help you through. You are in a dificult siuation, but time will make things easier. Good luck.

Answer 9

Wow, all I have to say is that I think your mother is evil and that you need to move away from her a soon as possible and talk/see her as little as possible. NO one has the right to say things like that. Nor was it right for her to try to make your decisions. Get away from her.

Answer 10

I am so sorry that happened to you. I didn't think things like this still happened. I wish I had something helpful to say. Please, just know that your story touched me and I will pass on to sister whose oldest (19) just informed parents of pregnancy, 6 wks. Dad wants her to abort. Mom hasn't decided yet. maybe this will help them. Thank You.