why do my parents favor my LAZY older brother?

Question

My parent have always like my older brother better than me. they would always buy him what ever he wanted but if I wanted some thing that cost LESS than what he got we could "not aford it". my brother is 19 and is legaly old enough to get almost any job he wants, and he talks about getting a job all the time but ALL he does is talk. I am 17 and have been trying to get a job for a long time, doing job searches going to places and aplying... but every place I go says "you are to young" and I WILL NOT work for fast food. but I am trying to get a job and my brother is not. my brother got a car for christmas and gets gas any time he wants it from my parents, but when I want some money to go skiing with the church group they "cannot aford to give me the $30 I need" don't try to say that "he is in college" junk, because I am in college too. I started 2 years early. (note: there is more but I am running out of room) he does not "need" the money any more than I do. my parents will not let

me drive untill I am 18. so I cannot go to the next town to look for work. and 4 diffrent job link places have told me that unless it is fastfood I cannot work in this town because of my age.

my parents complain about giving me any money at all, but will not let me work. my older brother can work and wont, but gets all the money he wants. why do my parents do this to me?

I have tryed over and over agin to "talk to them" they never listen. and I have 2 younger siblings who get whatever they want when ever they want just like my older brother. but the age diffrence is much greater between them and me than for my older brother and I.

Answer 1

believe me i sympathize with you. I'm the baby of the family and my siblings always got things that they wanted and whenever i wanted anything i was made to feel like i was asking for the world. my older brother is lazy too and he gets favored as well. have you ever sat down to talk to your parents and explain to them the way you feel? i know that doesn't always work either. your parents should be proud of you for the accomplishments you've already made at such a young age. unfortunately they may never treat you as an equal to your brother and i know that it is tough to accept but that is sometimes the way parents are. all you can do is sit and talk to them( if you haven't already) and hear what they have to say. it may not be something that they are aware of or it could be that they see the potential in you and their afraid that if they baby you like your brother then you will lose your drive and ambition but if this doesn't help you then you need to stop agonizing over this and just continue to make the achievements that you are making. i hope this works out for you. goodluck!!!

Answer 2

Your better off not trying to understand your parents. Some people should not have had kids and your parents sound just like that type. If you cannot give your kids equal and unconditional love then you shouldn't have kids or shouldn't have more than one child. I was the younger sibling and I too felt that my parents favored my older sister as well and it was because she got all the attention and she took up all their time and she was the first born. When I talked to my mom about it she said she does not favor my sister but my sister had issues and was a pain in the butt and needed help and was basicly a problem child and because I got good grades and did what I was supposed to they thought they didn't need to worry about me. My mom also told me that when the let my sister do things they learned that she was too young or whatnot and that is why I was not allowed to do the same things. Parents are people too who make mistakes and try to learn from them. Talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. Maybe they think your a great person who is self sufficient and they don't need to worry about you and your brother is a slack *** who will never amount to anything unless they ride his *** 24/7.