2007-01-18 16:45:47 · 40 answers · asked by Omegle.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's only too late after "I do."
2007-01-18 16:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My first instinct was to shout "NO". Any problems you're having now will only escalate in the future. You don't want the spectre of divorce hanging over you while you exchange vows. If you're having doubts, it would be much wiser and more considerate of the groom to have time to talk through any serious issues that you see as being insurmountable in the future. It might be continuing financial problems, military duty with a long separation coming up, his treatment/attitude towards you--is there existing examples of abuse or suspicions it could be a factor? If you think it's just a "case of nerves" and you can't really pin down what's making you uneasy, maybe just calling him tonight or talking early in the morning before ceremony can ease your mind.
After your fiance, could you talk to a close friend or family member or even the clergyman who's going to marry you for advice?
Your question is intriguing in a lot of ways. I wish you had posted more information so we can help you. Naturally we don't want to pry into personal details, but some clue for this sudden (?) behavior would be nice. Why did you wait until now? Have you checked with close friends who presumably are in the wedding party? Am I presuming this is a formal wedding rather than a civil union before a judge or even at a Vegas chapel? If you feel you're rushing into that kind of situation like Brittany Spears did, yes, reconsider.
Another interesting point comes to mind. Is it your wedding after all? That is the natural assumption, but it could be that of an old boyfriend, your best friend, or even a parent.
I don't feel I gave you any help except to ask you to look at your motives or wanting to do this.
2007-01-18 17:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by goldie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. It will be painful and confusing for some people but, like many responders, I agree that it's better to avoid an unhappy marriage and divorce if you have doubts.
Is is just cold feet/nerves? Speak to clergy or your parents. Speak to your fiance. Decide together to call off the wedding and have the reception anyway since the money is already spent.
Instead of a wedding call it a "not yet ready" celebration.
either way, good luck.
2007-01-18 17:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never too late. It is far better to end a wedding now than a marriage later. I had to call a wedding off after we had paid for everything. It sucked, but it was better than getting a divorce.
2007-01-18 16:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're sure, really sure, REALLY REALLY SURE. Then you should call of the wedding.
Is it a wedding with a reception? If so it is likely you won't get any money back. If that is the case, don't let it go to waste.
It also may be too late to logistically contact everyone and make sure they get the message, you don't want guests showing up to an empty church. If you can't get out of your recpetion contract, your best bet may be to talk to your fiance, and then make an announcement at the church, then go over and party.
But make sure it isn't cold feet. I had cold feet and decided to give the marriage 3 months.
2007-01-18 16:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's too late to call off a wedding. Just remember why you want to call it off, because you know you will have some explaining to do.
Happiness is what's important.
2007-01-18 16:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by ~ Inny & Coors ~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never too late if you just aren't feeling it. Would you rather call of the wedding and suffer for a little bit, or suffer the rest of your life with somebody you don't love or dont feel comfortable with?
2007-01-18 17:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Newlywed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your having doubts now, then chances are you were having doubts long before now too. Calling off a wedding the night before it happens is pretty harsh. Not to mention costly. You should have done something a long time ago, instead of waiting till now.
2007-01-18 17:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's only too late after you say I Do. Cancelling a wedding on such short notice will definately cause many problems especially if you have lots of guests attending, but these problems are minor compared to the problems that WILL arise if you get married to someone that you don't feel 100% right about.
2007-01-18 16:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by QandA 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow. No it is not too late. It is better not to get married then to get married when you don't want to. If you REALLY want out and dont want to be with that man anymore than CANCEL IT NOW. Tonight. Even if he is sleeping call him now and wake him up and tell him what you feel.
Divorce is EXPENSIVE and time consuming. Also you can't be married in a church if you have been divorced because it is frowned upon.
2007-01-18 18:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Just start calling the people. First the Groom then move on from there.
Stoping a wedding is cheaper than divorce or annulment.
2007-01-18 17:02:16 · answer #11 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋