if you met this really amazing girl and totally liked her, would you be dissapointed if she said she wanted to wait till marriage to have sex? i think waiting till your married is good because then the whole relationship isnt based on a sexual relationship, but has a deeper meaning to it other than just sex. does anyone agree with me, or am i totally alone on this one?
2007-01-18 16:36:01 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not alone, totally but, most men put sex in a relationship at @75%-80%. Maybe he's not your "soulmate". Stick to your beliefs and the man that respects your beliefs from the start might turn out to be your future husband. I really admire you.
2007-01-18 16:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire your class, and if that is how you feel, your are destined to get a guy who has some class too. But waiting till marriage is not necessarily needed. Why not wait till you get to a level were you are in love with him, and have spent a lot of time with each other. Really get to know each other. At the beginning make sure he knows you want to take it slow.
While a relationship built on sex is never good for long, sex can still be a meaning full part of a relationship, before marriage. But it is true, telling a guy you want to take it real slow or don't believe in sex before marriage, might scare him away. But what kind of guy that you really want, would leave because of that.
Just don't tell him so soon. Wait till you see some potential in some one.
2007-01-19 00:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I are 21 and we have been together for two years. I originally wanted to wait till marriage for sex, but I'm pretty sure I've changed my mind about that. However, when I announced my plans to wait till marriage, fairly early in our relationship, he respected my wishes and has never complained, though he is a virgin as well, so I'm sure that makes it easier. So, there are guys out there who will stay with you when you want to wait, even if it isn't their own preference.
2007-01-19 00:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is the one in our relationship who's so keen on waiting until marriage. I'm not a virgin and I admit that when you're the non-virgin in the relationship, it's kind of frustrating at times. Now you know that there are guys who want to wait out there. Love, trust and communication within our relationship are more important to both of us than sex. Sex adds complications!
2007-01-19 00:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if She happens to be the woman of my dreams and i cared for her i would wait as long as she held out there are other ways to be affectionant than just sex and if you wait longer anyways the better the sexual moment may be.
2007-01-19 00:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by shawn w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree.
I know its hard for men 2 understand that.
But then if u really love the person, then u should respect ur partner choice and opinion.
I think the key is communication.
So dear, if ur partner cant understand that, then he is probably not the right person 4 u.
2007-01-19 01:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by Luke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup,I am in love with a girl who prefer having sex after marraige..Its fine with me...cause there is no single moment when we are together,we dont enjoy.So it keeps me occupied with the heart to heart talk inturns giving me mental satisfaction.I would prefer to respect her feelings and abide by it.Cause finding a person like her is not that easy.
2007-01-19 00:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by Dream Seller 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would wait, this way you get to know each other with out sex blurring you vision...... my 2 cents for what it's worth. I'm looking for someone that's worth the wait.......
2007-01-19 00:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by Charlie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it would make me like her more since im waiting for marriage too. good luck
2007-01-19 00:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you.....sex is not everything......there is more in a relationship such as love,understanding,caring,loyalty,sincere....etc.
2007-01-19 00:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by SATJ12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋