Am I Wrong For Feeling This Way Or Am I To Sensitive?

Question

OK Here is the situation....my boyfriend and I never seem to have time to hang out with just us....with the kids and him working all the time it is hard...but we agreed that everynight we would go to the gym and tan together.....I arranged for a sitter to come @ 8:30 starting yesterday...well she showed up but we went late and only to tan because he really wanted to finish watching American Idol..tonight he says he is not going to go because he wantd to watch Nashville Star and his white pants aren't clean.. so I went anyway .he has know idea that this hurt my feelings because if I said something he would say I was complaining..now he says I am crazy because I do not want him to see what I am writing until after it is posted...I know he is playing when he says this but still I am sensitive about our time issue....It is he that is always stating that I never make time for him because I am to busy with the kids......I feel I did my part by getting the sitter and he has showed me nothing?

Now he is saying that the girls are B*tches and that computers are stupid and that it ony creates drama like myspace and that we have nothing better to do....

OK now he is really upset and would like for me to add that he got back from the gym at 8:45 because he was late from taking MY son who is 6 to play for like 10 or 15 minutes...hope this helps

Answer 1

YES YOU ARE SENSITIVE, MOST OF US ARE....
SOUNDS LIKE HE IS A TV KINDA GUY (MR. REMOTE)
HE WORKS ALL DAY AND JUST WANTS TO RELAX, SO WHAT ABOUT YOU?

MAYBE PRIME TIME TV SLOT AND TANNING TIME IS NOT WORKING OUT...TRY GETTING A SITTER A LITTLE EARLIER.
IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO MAINTAIN A COMMICATING RELATIONSHIP....THAT MEANS SPENDING TIME ALONE TOGETHER, TANNING, CHATTING, LOOKING T EACH AND ACTUALLY BEING ABLE TO LISTEN TO THE OTHER WITHOUT DISTRACTIONS. YOU ARE RIGHT THIS IS IMPORTANT BUT YOU ALSO HAVE TO COMPROMISE.

FOR YOU MR. REMOTE~
YOU ARE A TYPICAL MAN...LOL
AND YOU NEED TEVO SO YOU CAN SPEND A LITTLE QUALIITY TIME WITH YOUR SWEETIE.....HELLO MCFLY... ARE YOU THERE....A WOMAN NEEDS COMFORT IN KNOWING SHE MATTERS AND ALWAYS COMING 2ND TO A REMOTE CAN REALLY MAKE HER HEAD START GOING IN SUPER SSENSITIVE DIRECTIONS....MY ADVISE TO YOU IS TO THINK OF COMPROMISING....YOU DO NOT WANT TO END UP ALONE AND EVENTUALLY IF YOU GUYS SPEND NO ONE-ON-ONE TIME TOGETHER THAT'S EXACTLY HOW YOU WILL FEEL....DISCONNECTED & ALONE.

PEOPLE WHO SPEND TOO MUCH TIME APART OFTEN CAN'T FIND THEIR WAY BACK....DON'T LET THAT HAPPEN

Answer 2

He should know what piorities are......if he wants to watch his shows on T.V goes to show that he has set his piorities to himself......and that's sellfish if he does it ALL the time. Is he doing this ALL the time? However I don't think you are sensitive, I would feel the same way....annoying really even after you have arranged for a sitter..... but why don't you watch T.V with him? That's still spending time with him right? Maybe he doesn't enjoy going to the gym as much as you do.....Why don't you find something to do that both of you will enjoy doing? We all have to compromise when it comes to relationships....some times we must give in even if do not like the idea but of course it must work both ways.....both of you must compromise.... if he wants to watch American Idol then sit with him but let him know that he has to go to the gym with you another day.......

Answer 3

He was being a jerk and you're not being too sensitive! You went to all the trouble to get a sitter so you two could go out and he basically stood you up for a stupid TV show (don't you have a VCR or TiVo?) And the next night he stood you up for another stupid TV show (again, why not VCR and/or TiVo?)

He doesn't seem to think spending time with you is a priority and that's a SERIOUS problem in your relationship!

Answer 4

You have to give yourselves time for this new routine. Just because the two of you made plans and a commitment to stick by them doesn't mean that it will work when you want it to. How many plans have you made in the past that didn't work out the way you wanted? I don't think you're too sensitive but, try not to put expectations on him or people in general because, people will let you down and who's the one who's upset or sad when their plans don't go as planned? YOU! So, give it some time and fall into a routine with him and don't expect too much and you won't get let down. Hope you two work it out!

Answer 5

Right u did do ur part. Why are men such asses? I found one 3 yrs ago that NEVER wanted to spend a minute away from me and would do everything for me, and plan our time without kids. You just dont find men like that out there anymore. I wish I would have handled things much differently when I look back. I was a fool...oh well. I think u should keep him but for sure keep ur options open :)

Answer 6

Maybe your boyfriend should ease up on the TV watching a bit. It's American Idol, not the Superbowl or breaking news. You're not overreacting. Tell him how you feel even if he cries that you're complaining. So what if you are? Your feelings are hurt and he's putting bad TV before your relationship. A person will only treat you how you allow them to. If you let him do stuff that hurts your feelings and you don't tell him, he'll continue to do it.

Answer 7

Nope your not wrong at all,you arranged for a sitter and you were ready to go,sounds to me like he just want to have something to complain about.Don't worry about that's just a man for you!

Answer 8

you are trying to spend time with him because YOU need it. which isnt bad at all. let him know. if he's a good guy, he'll work with you and the situation

Answer 9

Men are jerks and only care about what they want.

Answer 10

I'd have to agree with you