Relationship Issue (age)?

Question

So, I have a boyfriend and he's twenty-two years older than me.
I'm 16 and we don't have sex because we talked over what would happen if we did....obviously.
We kiss and hug and do all that nice stuff.. just less in public.
He doesn't use me and I know that. I absolutley love him but I'm just scared that people will give him a bad name.
I told him that we didnt have to be seen together out in public but he says that he doesn't care..
I seriously feel for him but I'm not getting married or anything because I have a 'career' and I'm not ready for that.
I want to be with him though.
What should I do?

Okay now wait a second.
First, HE was the one who said we shouldnt have sex.
Second, I was the one who asked for a relationship. We've been close friends for a while.
Third, I said we shouldn't be seen in public because of the very reason that PEOPLE WOULD CALL HIM A PEDOPFILE.
He isnt and I F*cking know that okay.
Call me "a child who is blinded" I dont care I know myself and my body.
Finally, my mother knows, my father is dead.

Thank you for the GREAT advice guys =(

Answer 1

Love doesn't have an age. Continue dating him if you really like him. Just remember to be careful and make right decisions. No body can tell you what or what not to do and you shouldn't get caught up with what people think. It is obvious that he loves you and being older than you doesn't make him a pervert or a bad person. If people glace at you, try not to pay attention, the people that criticize are only the ignorant.

Answer 2

This is a HUGE problem! HUGE! OMG, what is he thinking? What are you thinking?! He can get arrested! If anyone accuses him of having sex with you, even if it's not true, he can go to jail.

Really, really, really, this is a big problem. There is such a huge difference in age between you two, and life experiences, too. Why does someone who is 38 date a 16 year old? Have you asked him if he always dates young girls? Because if he does, then he'll dump you as soon as you turn 20.

Look, put the whole thing on hold until you're 18. Then at least he won't be risking jail time by seeing you.

He can get in a big heap of trouble... do you really want him to risk it? If it's right, it will wait until you're 18.

Stop seeing him, make some friends your own age.

Answer 3

I hate to say it, but thats a bit unhealthy of a relationship. Why does a man of that age need to be with a 16 year old? Its illegal for one and perverted for a 2nd. I wouldn't be knocking the age difference if you were at least 18, because I like a guy 17 years older than me. But your a minor and hes a grown man. He could go to jail even if you aren't having sex. You should ask yourself why you want to be with a man that much older and if your parents found out, the crap will hit the fan.

Answer 4

Woah...you're 16, so he's 38?! That's an enormous age difference. Believe me, if this guy can't find a woman his own age, something is wrong. You better be VERY careful, what you're doing is illegal for a reason. It's very easy to be manipulated by a grown man who wants what you have (a childlike body and lower maturity level). What's the point? What do you get out of the relationship that you couldn't get from a guy your own age?? You should be prepared for people to judge him, they wouldn't be paying attention if they didn't.

Answer 5

Unfortunately I can't tell you what you'd like to hear - I don't think anyone can. I would advise cutting off all ties with this guy because the age difference is simply too severe. But if that isn't an option for you, at the very least, wait until you're eighteen to pursue your relationship - it's legal at that point. If you really care for this guy, you'll put things on hold - either temporarily or permanently - because if you don't, he could go to jail for being with you.

Answer 6

In many places your "boyfriend" could go to prison for being a pedophile.

You need to ask yourself why a man of 38 wants to be with a 16 year old girl?

I can understand how you would feel flattered and special to have this daddy substitute, but what you need to understand is that pedophiles know that too and that's what they play on to get to their victims.

Have you brought him home to meet your parents? How about your friends? Do you talk about your relationship with him to anyone? Why not? Could it be because you do know that it's wrong?

You are putting yourself into a very bad situation possibly one where you could end up losing your life and I am serious. You are not being cool you are being foolish.

Answer 7

honey I know what you're going thru im 19 and i am head over heels for my 40 year old friend...a 21 year difference... we hug and hold hands, not so much kissing cause its a bit more complicated. But i say if you love this guy and you trust and believe that he isn't using you, I say go for it. If you're not ready for marriage right now if he really loves you too, he'll wait for you to be ready. Just be honest with im cuz hiding things like that doesnt work out well for you.

Answer 8

It's not "people" who will give him a "bad name" it's himself. You are STILL a minor, he is STILL an adult what he is doing is called contributing to the delinquincy of a minor/endangerment and IS against the law. At 16 I highly doubt you HAVE a career...you probably have a job at best, one that is part time becuase in the U.S. you can't have a fulltime job until you are 18, and in order to have a "career" you would have had to have studied in college and gotten some type of degree that pertains to your "career"...what you want could get him into some major trouble. But obviously you don't care.

Answer 9

Wow.. in other words he is 38, your young and yea its love but he is really old for his age and you should wait it out dont do anythign drastic what ur doing is good but dont give up on others its your future when your 20 in a good prime he will be 42 what happens when u want children ..look at the issue more but its a lil surreal be on the safe side dont let him use you.. though u trust be at your guard.. Just think of the future and what it is life.. :).. Good luck

Answer 10

Oh dear
22 years OLDER than you?
...so he's 38?
I am really not one to judge, especially with age
But this is extreme
I realllyyyy hope that you are being smart
My pedophile radar would be going crazzyyyy
I hope that you have good judgment and know how wack this will sound to everyone
Do your parents know?
He could be your parent...
There is only 20 years between my mom and I.
He will get a terrible name, as will you
I would really not recommend being with him
If your really set on it (and PLEASSSE be smart about it!)
Just wait...18 at least, but I think longer
Then if you still feel the same
Go ahead, at least no legal issues.
Good luck, and BE CAREFUL! :]