He is a family friend and since I started college 3 years ago, we have been very close, but just recently started hooking up, we have an amazing bond, and I can't imagine my life without him. He's so sweet to me, and I know that we would be happy together. We haven't come out with our relationship because we're waiting for the right time, when our friends and family's will be accepting. Particularly my family because I have a very wealthy traditional southern family. recently my mother sat me down and said she was concerned with my life choices, and claiming that she would disown me if I was making bad life choices. Then she said she thought they involved him stating that he is too old for me, not good enough, that i could have any guy in the world, blah blah. I assured her we were just friends in order to keep both of our lives intact. I've never felt like this about anyone before, and I know that he feels just as strongely about me. Should I try to work it out, or let him go?
2007-01-18 16:06:41 · 12 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 24 and I've dated 4 women in their thirties.. what's the big deal
2007-01-18 16:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your situation strangely mirrors mine. I was 20 and my husband was 28 when we got married. My family didn't like the situation at all but I loved him so much and we got along so great. We've been married for 4 years now and our marriage is great! My family has since come around and they see that we are meant for each other. They love my husband now almost as much as I do :) Really, age is nothing but a number. Would they rather you be with a 20 year old partier that doesn't have his life together? You are an adult that is capable of making your own decisions. You should do what is best for YOU and if you can't see your life without him in it then don't. If this is the man you love and what to be with then don't worry about what anyone else thinks. I hope you all the best and I hope your family eventually does too. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-18 16:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation that you was in a long time ago. You see I turned 18 and I meet my ex husband and he was 28 and I feel in love with him in Feb. of 87. and then we got married in July of 87 and my mom told me that he was after my money and that he was to old for me. I told her that, how was he after my money when he was making twice the amount then what I was and she always told me that age did not matter as long as you love the person? My mom made me have a long talk with my " boyfriend" about getting me pregnant and living up to his responibilty after we was married.
She said that it was a man's place to support the wife and he better not mistreat me. She did not know that we already talked about everything like that. By the time I was 19, I had one kid and when I was 21, I had two kids. Don't get me wrong I love my kids with all my heart and I will do everything for them, but I wish that I would wait a little longer. We was married for 12 years before we got a divorce. We are still best friends and we talk, but we just dont love each other like we used to.
Listen to your heart. Nobody can give you the correct answer because we don't know how it will work out for you. Good luck!
2007-01-18 16:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by melanie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly he's been in relationships in the previous, so because it is not as huge a purple flag because it may be. they only did not paintings out with those particular females. once you're in touch, take it sluggish... watch how he's around pals and people that at the instant are not capacity romantic companions... how does he communicate approximately his exes? it is a great indicator of who the actual guy is in spite of each thing the early courtship niceties positioned on off.
2016-12-16 08:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...no way is he too old for you...if you were 14 and he was 24 ...it might be different...but now you are both adults....
...I was 16 when I got married to my husband of 26...now the marriage ended after 17 years and 3 kids...BUT it wasn't out age difference that caused the problem...(it was his drinking and physical abuse).
...In saying all this , your mother knows you better then I do so maybe she sees something not quite right and is sighting the age difference as part of the problem...talk with her again - in a mature fashion so she sees that you are old enough!...
...but the bottom line is - you are an adult now...it is your life...you ultimately make your own decisions...
...I pray this will work out for you...
2007-01-18 16:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ruth M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is very important,you need not to tell them every detail but if you do come from a wealthy family i can see why they would be concerned.You can't just trust anyone and sometimes moms know best you only mentioned about his age,age is nothing what are you leaving out?
2007-01-18 16:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by pookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!!!!!! lol j/k..........I say follow your heart on this. As for your Mom..she should respect your decisions & just let you live & learn. I was 21 when i met my husband & he was 28....we are 7 years apart. Its been almost 6 years & we have a 2 yr old & got married Sept.2006. It seems to me that woman muture way faster then men. so actually my husband & i seem to be on the same page for the most part. Hope this helps & good luck w/mom.
2007-01-18 16:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by nealejess401 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, awwww I think age doesn't matter, but I do understand about your situation with your family. I don't think your age difference is that big of a concern at all, maybe that's because i'm 19 and i'm with a man who is 32. I see more in him than I did with my exes that were in their early twenties or close to my age.
Follow your heart :)
2007-01-18 16:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look! age should never be a problem when it comes to true love.My father is older than my mother about 20 years ,yes.and they lead a happy life.tell you what ...this gab in age is very useful,it makes both of you happy and satisfied,you will feel that you are safe with him for he is mature ,he will feel that he is happy and he will not need to love any other woman for you are young and beautiful.Don't forget that TRUE love makes miracles.Just make sure that you really love each other,then do your best to get married to this guy.best wishes.
2007-01-18 16:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by zein_egypt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose your parents over a guy but if you truly do feel that he is the one then go for it if your parents really do love you and respect you then they will be happy for you and accept your decisions.
2007-01-18 16:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by Waythere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋