Ok, well, my girlfriend and I have been together unofficially for a few months now, and we are totally in love, I know we are, she tells me, and I tell her that I love her all the time. I have kiss her on the cheek all the time, and we hug all the time, but any time I try to kiss her like a real kiss on the lips, she avoids me, like she'll move her face away, and anything she can without being to obvious. She's been weird about this stuff before, and she's gotten a little better, but I really want to kiss her, she says that she loves me... so confused, please help, thanks...
2007-01-18 15:59:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you just need to brush your teeth.
2007-01-18 16:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds crazy, but trust me. Kiss her on the cheek, then hold her, look her in the eyes, and ask her, "can I kiss you?" You might get a more favorable response if she's ready for it. If she says no, don't push the issue. Later (like the next day later, not 5 minutes later...I know how guys are!) ask her about boundaries, what is and isn't ok, and eventually get into why she doesn't want to kiss you on the lips. If you're younger or if it's her first serious relationship, it might be as simple as her being really scared and nervous about her first kiss. The bottom line of the issue is that if you two are really in love, then you will be able to have an adult discussion about this and figure out what needs to happen to make the relationship continue to work for both of you. Good luck!
2007-01-18 16:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love each other as much as you say you do then you should have no problem asking her about this issu and talking it through. Don't push for that kiss, or her love will turn into distrust.
Explain your feelings and WHY exactly you want to kiss her. Then see if he is willing to share hers. She may have all sorts of iissues that she has not been able to deal with in the past...she may have been molested, may have seen someone close to her molested and might have a fear of physical contact as she is scared that once she makes that contact, she too, may be in the smae situation (not saying you'd do that...just letting you knwo where she MAY be coming from)......your best option would be to remain 100% understanding and patient until she feels comfortable to take that step with you......
2007-01-18 16:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by doofynic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has never been kissed & is afraid of doing it wrong. Their is nothing a woman likes more than a guy who is easy to communicate to, so just ask her why she avoids kisses on the lips. Be understanding, comforting & respectful
of her desions.
Don't ask her if you can kiss her b/c it will just ruin the moment & definatly have a mint...just in case.
2007-01-18 16:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by nealejess401 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how young you two are, but maybe it's because she is afraid. I waited like almost a year to kiss my first boyfriend. I was really shy and didn't know if I even knew how to kiss. He used to ask me all the time, but I would some kind of way avoid it. I eventually told him why.
2007-01-18 16:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by angie20k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are... 14, 18 or 25. :)
But... there are those who take their sexual responsibility seriously, particularly if they are from a religious home. Some merely wish to avoid further "temptation"; they realize they won't have a problem with sliding into 3rd base if they don't walk to first. There are some who even reserve the first kiss for their wedding day. I know it sounds "old-fashioned", but it really is one way to stay out of trouble.
2007-01-18 16:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by Autumn R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off..u guys are not official so don't call her your "girlfriend". I think u need to have a sit down with this girl. Maybe she doesn't love you the way u love her. She seems like shes on more of a friendship level with you. Also did u ever maybe think that shes seeing someone else on the side and maybe thats why she won't kiss you??..you never know. be careful with that one
2007-01-18 16:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be bad breath.On the other hand, how old are you two? Early teens, mid teens? Maybe she's shy and inexperienced. Maybe she isn't ready for that. Take it easy, go with the Flow. You love her don't you? If you are comfortable with blunt, very truthful answers, sit down and ask her about it, but watch how you ask.
2007-01-18 16:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by Stinging Dragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is she? are you the first guy she's ever dated?
hard to say, maybe she's shy or nervous or yeah maybe your breath is awful, or maybe she's just taking the whole "I'm saving myself for marriage" thing to a whole new level? Just talk to her about it...remember that honest open communication is going to be your best friend throughout your whole life, so get to know it...good luck
2007-01-18 16:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull down her pant and kiss her lips down there . I say try getting her hot and juicy,then everything fall in place. SEE WOMENS ARE JUST LIKE AN OVEN YOU MUST TURN UP THE HEAT BEFORE YOU STICK IN THE MEAT.
2007-01-18 16:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why didnt u sit down and talk to er instread of asking bunch of strangers...maybe she has some personal problems
2007-01-18 16:05:34 · answer #11 · answered by Yana G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋