i got a friend who is talkin to her cuzins boyfriend and she says that they really liked each other but she dosnt want to tell her cusin. but when she asked me and i told her that it wasnt right she didnt wanna hear what i was sayin but she know im right but how do i tell her in a way that is better for her that its not all about her feelings btu its about her cusins too?
2007-01-18 15:41:13 · 5 answers · asked by Messiah Miss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best way to tell her is to be honest, don't be rude about it but tell her that you are just trying to be her friend and look out for her. and that the reason she might not want to hear it is because maybe you are right. if she still gets mad at you then she for sure knows shes wrong and shes not a good cousin!
2007-01-18 15:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Waythere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can really do is be honest and truthful with her - the rest (whether or not she chooses to listen) is up to her.
Whenever someone asks me what I think about a particular situation they're in, and I end up telling them something they might not want to hear - even in the nicest and most prettiest of manners...and they get upset with me about it or something, I'm just like, well then why ask? If you want the truth, I'm going to give you the truth. If you want B/S or to just say something that you'll definitely agree with - whether I believe it or not - then don't ask.
I've had friends and acquaintances who might have or might have not known that what they were doing was wrong at the given moment...and when they ask me and I tell them, they choose not to listen or they disagree - that's on them. But in the end, you know that you at least played your part as a TRUE FRIEND...which means telling them the absolute truth - the good, the bad, annnd the ugly!
And I know it probably sucks to have a friend who would even consider doing that to anyone - let alone, a cousin....but you shouldn't stress yourself over something you have no control over. In the end, she's going to go with whatever she thinks is best, either way.
One other thing you could try mentioning to her - in addition to the fact that you are telling her the truth because that's what friends do (or at least, are supposed to do) - is that she could really be conjuring up some serious messed-up karma, in taking that route.
One thing my mom has told me several times in my life is that anyone who deliberately gets their happiness at the expense of someone else's unhappiness...is doomed to be unhappy, themselves, in the long-run. And I've seen it happen time and time again - a girl might go for what isn't hers....think it's okay....then, once she's with him or with some other guy later on in life and deeply in love and/or happy, some other chick comes along and sweeps HIM up.
If you put out positiveness, you'll get positiveness. If you put out negativeness....well, you do the math...
Good luck!
2007-01-19 00:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by Meya P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody can sit her and tell you that you should talk to her and what not but you know what, you already tried and she didn't listen. Don't waste your time anymore!!! Let her learn her own life's lessons!!!!! If she wants to be stupid enough to go for it fine let her but she will realize that you were right afterewards because it is sad of her to put a guy before family but thats something she needs to learn!!! Just be there for her when she needs you, you already tried to smack some sense into her but she didn't seem to care to hear it.
2007-01-18 23:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by cHiKiBaBe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her be and tell her cousin, let the two of them solve their problems
2007-01-18 23:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say this....yoyoyo i gotta gibe it up for lil jon that dude puts this site on the map
2007-01-18 23:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by Lady and the Tramp 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋