I am a grad student and have one year left until i graduate. My boyfriend of a year and a half is graduating this may. He has applied to firms all over the country in really exciting places. I am so excited for him but they are no where near me and I still have a year to go. He is the sweetest, most considerate, and goofy (which i love!) guy I have ever been with and I see myself with him forever.
I am worried though. I am worried about how it will work with us being apart. We are much better when we are together and this distance for a year worries me. Does anyone have suggestions on ways to prevent problems from arising in a long-distance relationship? Tips? Advice? It has been so good for this year and a half - i dont want anything to hurt that!
2007-01-18 15:17:17 · 8 answers · asked by rachie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The make or break for the relationship is going to be up to the two of you. If you both love each other and are willing to put in the time and extra effort needed for the relationship then it can survive a year with you being apart. Find ways to keep in touch and do things together. My marriage has survived us being apart for 18 months but we both work very hard at keeping close to each other even when we can't. Love can survive anything as long as it is sincere and mutual.
2007-01-18 15:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl, i know where you are coming from, and although i'm a little younger than you, i have the same worries and feelings. my boyfriend and i are both freshman in college and we are 300 miles apart from each other. we dated for 3 years before we went off to college. the beginning of this new relationship was kinda rocky, and took a little getting used to. but i've learned that trust, understanding, and communication are 3 of the most important things that you can do to make your relationship last. you must trust each other because if you dont, you'll drive each other and yourselves crazy. if you love eachother so much, then this shouldn't be an issue b/c you are mature and you know how to treat each other. understanding: while you have to make time to talk to eachother, you have to be understanding that plans may change, you guys might get caught up in a lot of work or other stuff. don't get upset when all of your plans don't go accordingly. also, pick and choose your arguments. dont spend your time fighting about stupid little things~ in the end, they don't matter..lastly, you have to communicate. always tell the each other whats on your mind, and keep them updated in your life so that they still feel like they are a part of it. if you guys want to make it work and want to be with each other, it will work out! it just requires some work~ OH! and also! make sure you see each other every time that you have an opportunity to do so. good luck!
2007-01-18 15:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by sugar56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm in the military and when i left for boot camp and then my first station, i was more then 1000 miles away from my girlfriend. we dated for 2 1/2 years before i left. It worked very well for the first year and a half, she would come out and visit every 2-3 months, ai would go home in the summe and winter when i could.
Though i am a very honest person, my girlfriend ended up cheating on me....sooo both parties have to be honest with each other and it will work, just make sure he's not the type to cheat.
2007-01-18 15:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by REMY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find a phone service that does not charge for long distance calls. I have AT&T it runs about 45 a month with no charge for long distant calls. On breaks try and get together.
Send Thinking of you cards. Spend Holidays together. You can hope this will work but if it doesn't, brace yourself for it was not meant to be. You can only try knowing you did your best. God Bless You and Good Luck!
You can also ask God for his assistance. He decides what is best.
2007-01-18 15:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key because my Mum and Dad were ina similar situation he work on oil rigs she stayed at home and looked after me and they used to write long letters to each other and record tapes for each other like with them talking no i know i said they used to not because they broke up but because he died and they had a very strong relationship with no regrets i am also in a long distance relaionship and we have a very good thing going
2007-01-18 15:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by Missty Rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its meant to be it will be. it takes a lot to survive a long distance relationship
2007-01-18 15:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry i hope it doesn't break! im kinda in one now 2 so hope everything goes well with you
2007-01-18 15:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by ghetto fabolous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if yours is a true love it will become much more stronger..
try to talk to him quite often ...that's it..
2007-01-18 15:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by Suresh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋