2007-01-18 15:13:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A prenup is basically a contract stating the terms of your marriage and what will happen to your money/possessions/children if you were to get divorced.
It saves a lot of time if you ever get divorced as you have both already agreed upon the terms ahead of time.
Yes it is always a good idea to get a prenup and to discuss it with your other half. Remember though, it isn't just what you will get if you split, it is what you will BOTH get. With that in mind, no one should have any problems signing a prenup... Unless they are a gold digger.
2007-01-18 15:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by cobra2140 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well a prenup (pre-nuptial agreement) is basically a legal document that lays out who gets what if there is a divorce. Whether or not it's out of line to ask someone to sign... well, you'll get different answers from different people.
Personally, I feel that if one or both partners already have divorce that much in the forefront of the mind--to be planning for it before they're even married--well I think that's a problem. I think people who feel that way probably shouldn't be getting married in the first place.
Of all the happy, older couples I know--who have been married for years--none of them had pre-nuptial agreements. Also, the few couples who I'm sure got married with one are no longer together. Does that tell you anything?
Some people say they question the intentions of someone who wouldn't sign one. But I'd question the intentions of someone who'd ask me to. It seems to me like a very self-centered gesture. As in, they're not ready to GIVE all the work and love that marriage requires.
It makes it seem as though he/she isn't intending on "til death do us part" and would give up too easily on the relationship. And on top of that, they want a paper to cover their *** and leave their "loved one" high and dry when chicken out day arrives.
2007-01-19 00:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prenup is for people who have lots of cash or plan to have lots of cash in the future. People sign prenups when they want to keep their assets to themselves and don't want to share if there is a divorce. Also it is an arrangement as to what will happen in the event of a divorce like how much money each person will get, what assets will be divided(who gets what) and arrangements with the kids. Personally, if I made more money than the guy I would have him sign one....and even if he made more money, I still would sign one. This would take care of the divorce. Some divorces can get vicious....
2007-01-18 23:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by mysticmoonprincess01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A prenup is an outline of your financial status and property before entering a marraige! It can state many different things, such as whatever you own before the marraige is yours and in the event of a divorce he is not entitled to any of it. Or it can state, that upon a divorce the groom/bride is only entitled to certain items. Both me and my husband went into our marraige with a large inherritance from our grandparents, including hundreds of acres of family land and trust funds. Our prenup was worded so that if we were to get divorced, he is not entitled to my family's money or land, and vice versa. However, since he was dating me when I went through school, he is entitled to anything that coes from that education. And I am entitled to any money from our family (him, his parents and mine) farm(minus the land), since I put in many hours of work, yes it was from his family, but the livestock (cows & horses) are subject to my taking upon a divorce!
As I said, it just outlines any of your assets that are subject to question in the event of a divorce. If it is written out in a legal prenup before your marriage, then it is very diffcult to dispute the prenup if there is a nasty divorce to come.
Some people are against prenups, because no one plans on getting divorced and it is one of the least romantic things you can discuss and have done before a wedding! However, me and my husband knew that our family land, etc meant alot to our families, not just us, and we wanted to make sure that it could never be taken or questioned. I knew that I didn't marry him for the land, nor would I want it, if I were to split up with him; so I had no problem with signing it, and neither did he!
If you don't have anything that you are concerned with loosing, then there is no reason to discuss a prenup! Good luck and hope this helped a little!
2007-01-18 23:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A prenup is an agreement made prior to getting married and it would not be out of line to ask someone for one - but your spouse to be might think otherwise.
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-18 23:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Prenup" is an agreement between two people who plan to get married to sign, stating that if there is a divorce, and say you have a house together, he or she would have to agree and sign that the house is yours and he or she moves on his/her way. It is basically something you have the other sign agreeing that he leaves the marrage with what he owned and she leaves the marrage with what she owned. Just ask your partner what they think about it.
2007-01-18 23:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by toothfairy.2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A paper that your future mate agrees to in the event you guys divorce. It forces a clean divorce rather than a nasty one. Most celebs agree to keep all their assets and just pay a little money for about half of the duration of the marriage. It won't be out of line because then u know if they are just there for the money or not.
2007-01-18 23:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Niinnaa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Assuming you DO know what one is, it would be a possibility if you are truly loaded with cash up to the eyeballs and you don't trust the person you are marrying 100%! It might also be viewed as a kind of 'sincerity check' of the less-affluent side of the "partnership".
Bet Paul McCartney wishes he had stopped for a moment.....
2007-01-18 23:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by Bart S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A pre-nup is a contract between two people that are going to marry. It is done if one or both parties has accumliated assets that they want to protect in the event there is a divorce.
2007-01-18 23:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope. if you have money then definitely do it! i did & my husband is fine with that. you can always write a will once you are married so that he gets things if you die.
i did it so that if my husband suddenly turns into a total *** that i don't get screwed. he knows that if he treats me right that will be our retirement.
people who won't sign one sound sketchy about their intentions in a marriage... or they are nieve about their odds of divorce these days...
you should generally understand what ones is by now... eh?
2007-01-19 00:05:43 · answer #10 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋