To do another circumcision or not to???

Question

When my little boy was born he was circumcised in the hospital the day before we left to go home. I guess he either had more than usual amounts of foreskin or it just healed back. His pediatrician says it is up to us if we would like to have it redone or not, but I am worried because my son is much older now (14 months ) I don't know how he will react to it and I am not sure if I want to. His father is adamant on wanting to have it redone. I am at a loss for what I should do any opinions or advice on this????

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Answer 1

I can empathize with your concerns as a mom.

BUT, if you trust your husband - I would defer to him. He knows better the implications your son may face without the procedure.

What does the ped. say about pros/cons of having it/not having it. You should do a little Internet research to form your own opinion on the issue from medical practitioners.

And stand up for your son that it is done with as little pain as possible. And it is only going to get harder as he gets older. (and that isn't meant as a pun).

Answer 2

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First off, what do you want? Because that is what it is going to come down to?

Second, just so that you know, your son will never miss what he never knew he had. (As in the size of his penis or the 'loss' of feeling from being circumcised.)

Third. I know a 73 year old man who wished he was circumcised but refused to do it when h e was an adult because 1) he was already grown and 2) because of the pain.

Fourth. He will more than likely be given a general anesthetic while the procedure is done and probably a mild pain reliever to take afterwards.

Fifth. Don't let the same Doctor who preformed his last circumcision do this one. Call around, research, find a good qualified doctor to do the next one.

Sixth. Maybe listen to your husband. After all, his opinion on the matter does mean something, right? Besides, he is a man and probably has had it done. If he hasn't had it done, then that could be why he is so adamant about getting it done. Which should tell you something.

Also, I have had 3 boys (out of 5 children) And all are circumcised. I would not have it any other way. Why? 2 reasons, Because a lot of women will anticipate their husbands to have been circumcised therefore I do not want my sons to suffer any embarrassment or shame because of not being circumcised. And because of religious beliefs.

There have not been any complications because of being circumcised. "USUALLY" doctors do it right the first time. I'm sorry yours didn't. I know you are probably concerned for your son's well being. I was too when my eldest son had to go in for surgery due to hydrocoele. But all was fine. And I am certain your son will be too.

Best wishes.

Answer 3

We didn't circumcise and don't plan on doing it to any future children because it really isn't a medically necessary surgery. I'm in the US and it's one of the only countries in the world who circumcises for non-religious reasons. For us, there was no necessary, compelling reason to do the surgery.....but that doesn't make us better or worse than anyone else. You have to do what's right for you and him.

It's really up to you. It's a personal choice...if you don't want to do it, then the doctor won't do it...

You could talk to your pediatrician about it. I know that most don't really recommend it as a routine surgery anymore but will certainly do the procedure without a problem if you ask them to. At the very least, your pediatrician can help you figure out whether or not it's the right decision for you.

Either way, your son will be in good company...nationwide 50% of boys being born today are circumcised and 50% are not. So either decision is "normal".

Answer 4

Well if you don't do it now your son might get mad about never having it redone. I would say have it done again I'm sure they could put him under to do it this time being that he is older. I know you may feel wierd about it but we are female and men have a thing about wanting it done.... You have to remember that with forskin you have to make sure that you pull back the skin to clean it it might be a good idea for your son to have to it redone so he doesn't have to worry about not keeping it clean enough.

May father was never circumcised out of all of his borthers and he is upset about it but he is also scared to have it done now because it hurts more when your an adult.

Answer 5

I would have it redone. Even at 14 months, I do not think he has the capacity to be damaged mentally or physically. If your pediatrician deems it safe, it is definitely going to be a decision he will be thankful for when he grows up. The overwhelming majority of parents do get their children circumcised before they leave the hospital. If it were my child, I would do it now instead of waiting until later. Do what is best for him and put your own fears aside. Listen to your husband. In this instance, he is giving a male's point of view(perhaps the feel of 'fitting in' in your sons teenage years since uncircumcision is not the majority) and he realizes the urgency of getting it done as soon as possible. Good luck in everything.

Answer 6

He should at 14 months old be put under anesthetic to have the procedure done, so it shouldn't be too traumatic for him to have it done at this age if that's what you choose to do. But personally if I were you I would not have it done as there are risks with anesthetic, especially if his 'bits' are functioning normally as is.
I had a male cousin who had to have his removed at 20 years old because it was too tight (no idea how he didn't find this out earlier) which was traumatic for a 20 year old!
your partner probably wants his son circumcised because he is, right? explain to him that its perfectly normal to NOT be circumcised and that his son will not notice the difference unless great attention is displayed.

Answer 7

If the skin is not interfering with anything and it can be pulled back with easy to clean underneath, then I wouldn't do it. Why put him through the discomfort if it is not necessary. Your husband probably wants it done because he had it done and doesn't know the other end of it. My youngest son was not circumcised when he was born and if he didn't end up with a problem, I would've never had it done to him at all. He told me he never wants to have that done ever again. Even though they numb the area, it's still a painful procedure.

Answer 8

I would look more into both sides. I would check into if there is a chance for issues occuring as a result of it being redone. I think this is an issure you should talk to the father with.

Answer 9

I have four boys and none of them are circumsized and it was never considered. I think this the second time around will be more painfull as he can grab at his penis and will pull at it because it will be sore and could cause more pain in doing so. My husband said with our first child he was going to be circumsized but the moment he was born it was never considered. I think unless it is medically needed I would not do it. As for your husband it is only for looks, these days the circumsised kids are the ones that look out of place because no one really does it anymore. My children were left with that choice to decide on their own, but they are quite happy with what they have and they are all teenage boys

Answer 10

I would say not to have it redone. For many reasons. Some men when they reach an age they lose there sensitivity because of circumcising. Uncircumcised men have more sensation and pleasurable sex. Plus, since your child is getting older and is getting to, or is at the age that he knows what his "pee pee" is I think it would be more memorable and a lasting impression that no little boy would want.