I am 3 months pregnant today and I have been so depressed. I have not decided what i should do as far as keeping my baby. i have been going to the obgyn regularly so my baby is ok. I am 24 and will graduate from college in may of this year. I am basically a single parent already and still want to pursue my career further. I am so confused about my situation. please give me so advice. PLEASE KEEP ANY NEGATIVE COMMENTS TO YOURSELF I AM GOING THROUGH ENOUGH ALREADY.
2007-01-18 15:02:34 · 16 answers · asked by Bee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Whatever you decide, remeber the CHOICE is yours to make and it will be the right one for you. Don't listen to anybody's crap about murder. If you are able to place the baby for adoption, that's wonderful and one of the most beautiful gifts you can give a childless couple. If not, abortion is another option. At the end of the day, it is your decision and your choice. Whatever you decide, it will be right for you. And really, that is all that matters. Nobodys opinion here does. We are not in your position.
2007-01-18 15:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't agree with Abortion because of many reasons . I do think the best thing to do if you don't want the baby is to adopt it to someone that is desperate to have a baby and can not have children ! There are so many that would love to have a baby and can't. I don;t think it would be wrong , I think it would be A special Gift to give someone a baby !! A rare gift ! And often times the new parents can sign an agreement with you saying they will send pictures to you and keep in touch with you and let you know about the baby if you would want that!! They can even tell the child when it's old enough all about you and could even tell them were to find you if that's is something you wanted. Cause alot of kids are told the truth now and its better that way ! Just because you give them up doesn't mean you didn't love them, sometimes your just too young or not ready to have a baby! Like you wanting to go to school and stuff. But you may change your mind this could be those hormones working in you right now. So give it sometime and only you can make the right decision ! No one should judge anyone, its hard now days to raise a baby on your own but i say PLEASE DON"T have an ABORTION!! It's not the baby's fault ! Also i just read here on yahoo questions someoone asking if anyone wanting to adopt or give up there baby !! Good luck sweetie!
2007-01-18 23:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please find someone to talk to. I totaly understand what you are going through. There are plenty of couples looking to give a baby a great life. Adoption is one of the hardest things you will ever do if you decide to give the baby up for adoption. Single parenting is extremely hard but can be done w/ the support of friends and family. I don't believe in abortion as an option. A lot of people think it's an easy way out but it usualy ends in extreme depression and post abortion regret.
2007-01-18 23:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to take the time to pray long and hard about this. I personally cannot make a decision for you, and no offense, but Yahoo Answers is also NOT where I would be seeking counsel for a situation like this. If you are not sure about the decision you are making, you really need to take the time to talk to a professional about this. Talk to BOTH sides. Don't just take the time to talk to Planned Parenthood or other such agencies. ALSO take the time to talk to an adoption agency, as well as a minister. I think by talking to people from every side, you will be able to make a better decision. Just please don't forget that there are MANY MANY people who try for years to have children and will never be able to, If you don't feel that you are able to care for the child, let someone else have a chance. You are in a tough spot, but don't let career aspirations make the decision for you. Sometimes things happen to us for reasons, maybe you are supposed to "redirect" your goals and plans. I truly believe that there is a reason behind everything that happens to us. God Bless you in your time of confusion.
Month One
Mommy
I am only 8 inches long
but I have all my organs.
I love the sound of your voice.
Every time I hear it
I wave my arms and legs.
The sound of your heart beat
is my favorite lullaby.
Month Two
Mommy
today I learned how to suck my thumb.
If you could see me
you could definitely tell that I am a baby.
I'm not big enough to survive outside my home though.
It is so nice and warm in here.
Month Three
You know what Mommy
I'm a boy!!
I hope that makes you happy.
I always want you to be happy.
I don't like it when you cry.
You sound so sad.
It makes me sad too
and I cry with you even though
you can't hear me.
Month Four
Mommy
my hair is starting to grow.
It is very short and fine
but I will have a lot of it.
I spend a lot of my time exercising.
I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes
and stretch my arms and legs.
I am becoming quite good at it too.
Month Five
You went to the doctor today.
Mommy, he lied to you.
He said that I'm not a baby.
I am a baby Mommy, your baby.
I think and feel.
Mommy, what's abortion?
Month Six
I can hear that doctor again.
I don't like him.
He seems cold and heartless.
Something is intruding my home.
The doctor called it a needle.
Mommy what is it? It burns!
Please make him stop!
I can't get away from it!
Mommy! HELP me!
Month Seven
Mommy
I am okay.
I am in Jesus's arms.
He is holding me.
He told me about abortion.
Why didn't you want me Mommy?
Every Abortion Is Just . . .
One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak.
2007-01-19 00:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by amsmithatc 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Don't do it. Just find ways to work things out while your in school and perusing your career. My mom graduated from S.F. State university with 3 kids. I remember many times going to school with her waiting in the hall. But she did it.
Don't hit that easy button. And have regrets later on. Ask for help from family and friends. And if you truly decide not to keep the baby. Consider adoption first.
2007-01-19 01:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest an adoption, there are thousands of couples out there wanting to adopt a baby because they can't have one of their own. Adoption is a win/win situation because you are still giving the gift of life to your baby and you are bringing the joy of a child to some lucky couple.
If you are a Christian I might also suggest reading these verses,
Jeremiah. 1:5, Proverbs 6:16-19
2007-01-18 23:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by ScareCrow26 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok let me tell u some thing, abortion is bad! u know that god has a plan for that baby??? and maybe some day when it getz older it will be like the new paris hiltion and u killed it! ok here'z some thing i learned-
This is just a thing i heard on abortion:
a woman is pregnant with her 15th child only 6 of her children r alive, the other 8 have died in infancy. they are very poor.
would u reccomend an abortion?
yes?
u just killed gwen steffani who grew up 2 become a great singer and make millions
A woman is pregnant, he husband is an alcholic, they have already had a child who died within 6 days.
would u reccomend an abortion?
yes?
you just killed Ludwig van Beethoven, the classical musicain who composed the timeless hymn "Ode to Joy" aka "Joyful Joyful"
a 13 yr old black girl has been raped and is pregnant, she is extremely poor and has no envisionable way of taking care of the baby.
would u reccomend an abortion?
yes?
you just killed Bill Gates who grew up 2 be the worlds greatest computer person...
A young teenage girl is pregnant, she is not married and her fiance is not the father of the baby.
would u recommend an abortion?
yes?
you just killed Jesus Christ
you never know who your child may become..things works in mysterious ways
u can make ur own choses, but stay strong! i know it probly hurts some times! and when u went off and had sex, and ur bf leaves u, ur thinking i have no one to help me raise this baby and i cant do this all on my own! just take the rist and and enjoy life u NEVER know who this baby might become....
hoped this helped! ~jordan
2007-01-18 23:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by g00d_kiss3r_1992 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is a very hard decision that you are facing. Please go and talk to someone as soon as possible about it. I am anti-abortion but could never tell someone what they should do in this situation. As others have said, adoption is a beautiful option. It has personally touched my life and has been a very positive experience for all involved.
2007-01-19 00:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by LaraSue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dont abort, put the child up for adoption, the child could be great and touch many lives, many great people have been adopted.
i was in church a couple of weeks ago. the preacher told a story of a lady who was giving a speach that he heard. the preacher said that the lady giving the presentation was a very powerful speaker and has touched thousands of lives. she would go city to city helping people. i will try to keep it short.
the lady said that a lady was raped and struggled with the decision of abortion or adoption. the lady wasnt ready for children she was afraid. she went to several christian groups looking for advise. finally the young lady made a decision. the speaker then said, mom thanks for not aborting me. she then tells the story of meeting her mother , she said that they are great friends today.
2007-01-18 23:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by D M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nononononononononono
mii opinion is no
abortion is the same
thing as murder. b/c ur killin
the baby.
one of mii bff's...
when she was 3 months
was thinkin bout gettin an abortion
b/c she was rly depressed and ever
and was in college also and she thought
the baby would make her life a total
hell hole...so she went and had that
done and felt so stupid b/c she killed
a living being......so committed murder...
so she killed herself the next day.
you don't have to listen to anything
i say...i mean this is just mii opinion...
but mii opinion would be keep the baby...
and continue w/ what you can in life bby...
things works out no matter wat.....
it may seem like it every now and then....
but God [srry if im gettin 2 religious or ne thing]
wont give ne body a mountain that they cant
climb. there is always always always another
side of a mountain.....and goin down it is way
easier than goin up......going up it may take a lil
while and things might get bumpy along the way
and u might then u wanna turn round and go back
.....dont do that....just keep living you life
the way it is.....dont change ne thing bout it....
just goin hun.....
2007-01-18 23:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋