First and foremost I'm a very beautiful female with high self esteem but I got to admit It bothers me when I can walk around naked in front of him and he never even flinches. Prime example I said are u going to take a shower with me and he said in an aggravated voice I guess so. Before I didn't even had to ask everytime my daughter was sleep and I went to take a shower he would usually sneak in about 3 min. later. So I undressed to take my shower and here he comes, So I told him I changed my mind he wasn't needed anymore so he said o.k. in a relieved voice. I admit I've gained about 30lbs since we've met (4 years ago) but I haven't changed other than that, I still dress sexy when we go somewhere special and everyday a guy is trying to see if i'm single or not. Why has he become less interested in me?? Am I reading too much into the situation? Should I talk to him??
2007-01-18 14:45:44 · 13 answers · asked by Niinnaa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sexi, gurl please u didn't even read the whole question, I have high self esteem and I learned a long time ago that people who have to put others down just need a boost in there own self esteem. I am far from ugly and beyond sexy so try another approach with me next time, OKAY sweetie!!!
2007-01-18 14:56:25 · update #1
After the first 2 years the passion dies down. It is how it is with everyone, it is the natural order of things.
That is why most divorces happen around that time.
2 years is the time that a couple gets to know each other and work out the personality differences so they can co-habitate without killing each other ( fight-make up sex- fight- make up sex, etc etc)
After the first 2 years, the passion fades and is replaced with actual LOVE.
How much you want to bet he barely notices the 30 pounds?
You are in "married mode" plan and simple.
He doesn't want to go in the shower because he's been there before. Go somewhere else.
There are tons of things you can do to "spice things up" Changing the scenery usually does the trick.
P.S. Ever seen the movie "Fried green Tomatoes"? The main character was in the same bind and she met her husband at the front door wearing nothing but a saran wrap (kitchen plastic wrap) and a bottle of whip cream.
In the movie he didnt' react the way she wanted him to- but do something crazy to get him out of the rut.
2007-01-18 14:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something that may have seemed sexy to him like seeing you naked may not excite him as much because it's something he is used to. Try dressing up in sexy costumes to get his imagination rollin. Test his reactions and also try talking to him. Ask him what his needs are and express your concerns. Always try the last resource before thinking about other guys.
2007-01-18 22:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Chaquita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should defintely talk to him. Sometimes my bf does the SAME thing, he just plays my advances off as no big deal, but you want to know what ALWAYS works? I let it go for a day or two (no matter how hard it is!), and act like his flirting and advances are no big deal. By the next day, he is BEGGING for my attention. Maybe your guy is stressed out or just tired. But no matter what you do, talk to him and see what's going on. Good Luck.
2007-01-18 22:52:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ash_082 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to go is to ask him. He would maybe give you the answer "yeah of course i still think you are attractive" but sometimes that just for your feelings. But ask him in a serious way and look straight at his eyes for truth or lie. But he might just be tired of you cause men do sometimes get tired and bored off things they had for a long time.
2007-01-18 22:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by franckoboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about what you're feeling, see what he has to say. It could be a number of different things, job stress, he's worried about something, etc....
Men can be moody, if you think it's a permanent change maybe it's time to sit him down and have a chat.
2007-01-18 22:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can try acting more appealing talk to him whisper sexy things to him in his ear then maybe he will see what he is missing you never know he might go wild again
2007-01-18 22:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by tiger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's agravated about something. Stop acting like men are supposed to be 24 hour sex machines and realize that.
2007-01-18 23:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ben B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't expect things to be as hot as they used to be at the beginning of the relationship, things slow down. If it bothers you that much I think you should talk to him.
2007-01-18 22:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by Zarahel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and how his actions are affecting you. You should be able to judge by how he responds. Don't confront, ask him in the midst of a normal discussion.
2007-01-18 22:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by Luminating Essence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're completely overreacting. He probably used to you nudity by now and maybe he's stressed.
2007-01-18 22:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by katnap20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋