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so i went on this cruise, and met this guy. he was really nice and we hung out a lot, but i never really had an interest in him, until the 4th night. that night we just hung out me and him the entire night laying down and talking. he was really sweet, and i knew that i'd prob start liking him. we were talking about everything, and the topic of me being a virgin came up. i told him i was a virgin, and he didn't believe me. he wasn't a virgin, but he told me i should really wait for someone i like, and then he said "and it's not going to be me." by the end of the night we ended up making out, and he slept over my room, and he even asked me if the next night we were gonna hang out. the next night he was in the casino, so my friend went to go get him from the casino to hang out. sure enough, he wanted to and came within 10 minutes(meanwhile he had been winning a lot of money), and he came to hang out. we went to his room, and we were hooking up and everything led to sex happening naturally, he didn't ask me flat out, and it happened the way i wanted it to, in the moment. when he was putting the condom on however, i asked him what he was doing, and he said "nothing"..i made sure he had a condom on, and he was really gentle, but he didn't talk much. at one point i asked him if he still had the condom on, and he let me feel to make sure it was still on. after we had sex, we went to the casino, and then i left to go to my room to lay down. he said he'd come back to hang out, but i didn't expect him to really. sure enough, he came knocking on my door to spend the night. the next night he had been looking for me, and he thought i was with another guy,so he got upset, and didn't hang out with me for two nights. by the 8th night we met up eventually..and i explained to him that i wasn't with another guy, and we ended up hanging out the whole entire night, me, my friend, and him. he kept saying how i was his girlfriend on the cruise, and that i would be his girlfriend if we lived in the same place. it just so happened i was going to college where he lived in about a year, and he knew that. that night we were hooking up again, and everything led to sex, and this time was even better. he said to me "you said you were a virgin right"..so i said "you remember what happened the other night right?"..and he was like "yeah, we had sex"..so i guess he was asking to be reassured that i was a virgin before him? then we were doing it for a long time, and he was talking a lot more, and physically helping me out, and he constantly asked me if i was alright, and that i need to tell him when to stop or when it hurts. i was in a lot of pain, so he suggested taking the condom off to see if it felt any better, it felt a lot better and it was only for 2 seconds, but he did say to me "the only thing is..if we take the condom off you might have to give me head"..well..i didn't end up giving him head, because i didn't want to. that night he slept over again, and we had plans to hang out the whole entire day the next day. the last night, we hung out the whole night..and then he kissed me on the lips goodbye. we exchanged myspaces and aim screen names, and after the cruise he commented me right away. we had talked back and forth for awhile..and at one point i thought he was avoiding me..so i wrote him a letter saying if you don't write back then i know you don't want anything to do with me, but he did write back, so that showed me that he cared. i ended up surprising him and visiting him one day, and he was really happy to see me. he told me i need to call next time so we can hang out..and he wanted to make sure i was definitely still coming to college near him. we talked for awhile, and then i had to leave..so he kissed me on the lips goodbye, and wrote to me about a week later asking me how my trip was, and telling me to call him next time.

1.does it sound like he liked me a lot?
2.why would he ask me if i was a virgin when he knew i was already?
3.why did i need to give head if he didn't have a condom on?

Answer 1

head: my best guess is that he would not want to come inside you without a condom, therefore needing some outside help. A person can get pregnant without the big load of orgasm, just by the natural lube that emits during sex, so precautions are in orderl.

Yes, he likes you, I guess he wanted to verify the virgin thing, or of course, you were no longer a virgin the second night, so you could have said no, but you used to be.

Condoms dont feel good, but what's a person to do?

Answer 2

I can't believe I wasted 5 minutes reading all that, yes it sounds like he does like you quite a bit, but he seems a bit more interested in the sex, infact I am assuming the phrase you keep repeating 'hang out' are his own words, however the phrase in the context he uses it in seems to be mean 'have sex' - 'Its like the joke with the husband and wife who are embaressed to talk about sex so they call it 'Doing The Laundry', which makes me think if you withdrew the sex he wouldn't be quite as interested as he is - you seem like an easy target for him. I would suggest that you move on and find a person with whom you have a relationship that isn't built purely on the foundation of sex with no strings, we live and learn from our mistakes.

2) It may have been a leading question because he intended to coerce you into sex the whole time and so was just creating the setting. Also he may have considered the fact that if you had, had sex before you may have an STD which he could risk catching, if you are a virgin, you are clean - plus its true, men do fantasize about taking a girl's virginity, its just plain 'cool', plus virgins are just tighter and more appealing, feels like a bit more of a challange, could be all those things.

3) If he takes the condom of he is not going to *** inside you if he is smart, therefore he won't have an orgasm, he will have to pull out before he cums, so you might have to 'finish him off' by giving him head, so that he can have an orgasm - either that or you risk getting pregnant.


On a personal note, I would be careful who I go around having sex with, and if you are interested in this guy, make sure that the relationship isn't purely sexual, there is a strong indication that he is just using you, and contacts you on the bare minimum basis just to keep you biting. When a guy really likes a girl, he continuously tries to make contact with her, meet her in corridors, link up in places, send her emails and letters, and look forward to her replies, chat to her on msn or the phone on every possible occasion, even at the expense of other duties, so there, you think about it, if something better comes along where you are don't hold your breath for this player for a year.

Answer 3

Lets take this gradual. If he likes you he'll ask you out. If he does no longer ask depart it at a friendship. Once you date, and in the event you suppose he's the only in time to lose your virginity you then must be at a factor wherein he's letting you recognize him. Thenyou can talk about intercourse and the virgin crisis. He must no longer deal with you as he's in a race to de virginize you. If he does get critical with you and after many months of courting and also you desire to wreck the virginity then he must maintain you deeply. If he didn't permit it final and is forcing intercourse on then you definitely it must no longer subject if he does no longer wan't to stick. Just permit him cross you are going to be harm for a at the same time however feel me you are going to recover from it happier and more potent and discover a well guy who merits so that you can be with him. This is truly lifestyles no longer a television exhibit. Many younger women feel truly lifestyles must be just like the cool indicates and that's no longer how it's with well humans. I desire I waited until I was once married. As we grow older we end up smarter and truthfully wait longer now to have intercourse then we did when we had been newly de virginized considering we had been to younger to realise. This is a distinctive factor and if a person isn't being concerned or inclined to attend or no longer do some thing, he's rubbish and throw him away. You could have many relationships so be picky as lifestyles is lengthy. This does no longer imply if no de-virginizing for him, he merits blow jobs both. It isn't a women Job to try this this is a honor for a person to get it from a woman.....Remember and do not allow them to inform you some thing else...

Answer 4

sounds like you had a fun cruise but you need to move on. He just wanted to have sex. Men love virgins and they fantasize about "devirginizing" a girl.
Move on and keep your fun memories. But he is not going to be your boyfriend. Guys will say anything to have sex, and girls want to believe what they say. So sad how the world is. Next time hold out and dont have sex until you KNOW he IS your boyfriend. You need to wait longer. boys are expert at making you want to have sex. If you hold out you on giving in for sex you will save yourself a lot of humiliation and broken hearts. You will find someone better. He wanted you to give him head so he could come. He was worried about coming during intercourse without condom or you might get pregnant.If you give him head he still can get his rocks off.

Answer 5

He likes you as long as you're giving it up. Don't give him head because you don't know where he's been.
He's playing on your emotions. More times than men, women develop a bond when they have sex. Women mistake that bond for love and it clouds the memory. The next time you meet this guy, don't have sex with him and see how he responds.
If he said you had to give him head if he didn't have on a condon then that says a whole lot right there.
One more thing....don't have sex without a condon. Are you trying to get pregnant?

Answer 6

you sure were easy for him, why wouldn't he want to keep in touch if he was the first and only//? Like you alot or like sleeping with you alot. he was just trying to get you to give him head. Tha t isn't alot of respect or like. He likes indulging himself with someone that will be SO impressed by him because they have nothing to compare to. You shouldn't have given it to a basic stranger dear. I would hope you had been saving it for the right reason and the right person. Start over and ditch this predator.

Answer 7

hi,
seems to me that he likes you. may be he wanted to make sure like you said that part i don't get.if you had already told him the day before then he knew so maybe he did not believe you. the latex on the condom is bitter i would think or maybe it felt better with out. that is something you do only if you want to.

Answer 8

That is an interesting story and question(s).

My only suggestion to you is be careful what you share

Good Luck

Answer 9

oh yeha he totally like you
well i think he was just teasing you on the head part
and i think that it was just to see if you remember so yeha iono really know thta one

Answer 10

Wow to long to read! Good luck!♥