ok i'm a christian...and my mom's and familys goals for me have always been purity abstinence if u will well lately my bf and i have been engaging in some....not so pure things....like oral stuff.... i like how it feels but later i feel guilty it's so hypocritical... i hate myself...my bf isn't pressuring me...in fact i trust him with my life...it's me i dont trust...one of my good friends jumped on my case and told me that people like me are the reason why he doesnt worship God it hurt so bad...what do i do...i wanna stop it...but i dont wanna stop it..
~~Cat~~
2007-01-18 14:26:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You feel bad because you know the ABSOLUTE TRUTH! what I mean by that is you know GOD IS WHO HE SAYS HE IS!! You have to remember that it is hard to do the right thing and very, so very easy to do the wrong thing. You are struggling with the sin known as lust... pure and simple. We all suffer from our secret sins... This is yours and you have to admit it to yourself and GOD, and ask GOD'S forgiveness and renewed grace everyday so that he can begin to deal with you and your sin. You are not a bad person because you have sinned, it just makes you a sinner and as we all know HE will and does FORGIVE you and your sins.
Continue to be blessed!
2007-01-18 14:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by pitbullfitness97 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Cat, you know, it's just sex. It's a natural, wonderful thing and you shouldn't feel guilty about it if it's with someone you love and trust and you're both ready. You can still believe in God and have sex too... plenty of people do. I don't think it's a good idea to get married to someone (I assume you feel guilty because you're doing all this stuff before you're married?) before you have discovered whether you are sexually compatible. Sexual problems can lead to huge rifts between couples - it is a big issue in relationships, believe me. It is the one thing my boyfriend and I have regular arguments about and we have nearly broken up over it. The thing is, if you can't satisfy your partner sexually, or vice versa, chances are if you can't resolve it then eventually it will come between you. And anyway, sex is great and brings you tegether in a way nothing else can, I say go for it and don't feel guilty, it's natural. Why were we given these instincts to mate if we're not allowed to use them?
*Remember to be safe!
2007-01-18 14:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone isn't going to always agree with every choice you make in life, whether it's religious or not. You shouldn't hate yourself over this. It is perfectly normal for you to feel this way. Your friend can't hold you responsible for the reasons he chooses not to believe in God. He makes that decision for himself, not you. Don't let anyone else tell you what is right for you because you know yourself better than anyone does! No one can tell you what is right and wrong because we all have our own opinions of virtues. If it is in the Christian belief not to judge each other, then no one is in a position to judge you about this. Look inside your heart and do what you feel is right. And remember to love yourself!
2007-01-18 15:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you are feeling this way is because it is wrong and you know it is wrong.You say that your boyfriend is pressuring you then he does not truely love or respect you .And you doing what you are doing you are not respecting yourself or what you claim to believe in.Yes you absolutely are being a hypocrit.I suggest you take some time and do some real soul searching and figure out exactly what your morals and values are and then start practicing what you believe in.God is speaking to you but your not listening.Also this boyfriend of yours he is not the one for you.Good luck to you.
2007-01-18 14:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to follow your heart, not your religion!! God wants this to happen!! Dont' worry about what anyone else says. If you want it, then let it be. You shouldn't have to change because of what your religion says. Religion is just a way to controll peoples beliefs. Just do what your heart says, and don't listen to anyone else. God will forgive you!
2007-01-18 14:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by .:Feliciano:. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should probably talk to your bf about how you feel. maybe go back to just kissing and cuddling, because that always feels the best!
if you think it feels good now, imagine how you'll feel after you're married and know you didn't give yourself away
it'll be way better later
2007-01-18 14:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tala 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Assuming a divine creator, why would it be made to feel so good (before marriage) if it was so wrong?
Enjoy life.
2007-01-18 14:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by Dethruhate 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is not a physical fight but spiritual one. I suggest you drop on your knees and cry out to jesus with all your heart and mind and ask for his forgiveness and ask him to help you. As you can probably tell, i am a christian to and i pray for breakthrough for you in this situation.
2007-01-18 14:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by leona 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i exchange into with Safia as much as the 2d "and" :) doubting is an element of the human difficulty and so is perseverance in figuring out to purchase information, its similar to, the greater you prepare the luckier you get, as a effect greater information much less doubt.
2016-10-31 12:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel bad, stop until you feel comfortable.
2007-01-18 14:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋