Is it ok to have sex before marriage?

Question

should i feel guilty if i have sex before marriage? Would God still love me if i have sex before marriage? Is that something wrong?

Answer 1

i wouldnt encourage it. theres a way higher risk u will get stds from ur partner or vice versa. and if u are doing something that u think will affect the way God feels about u, why do it in the first place?

Answer 2

It's ok to have sex before you are thirteen just not with another person. You should be at least sixteen before you have sex with another person. You shouldn't have married sex until you are at least eighteen and I would recommend a little older. Sex has absolutely nothing to do with God, just don't tell him. If God loved you before you had sex he will even love you more afterwords. You were given the joy of sex to enjoy. Enjoy it. What if you wait and you find out you are sexually incompatible. That only means divorce or misery the rest of your life without the joy of sex. Go have your sex and enjoy. Make him use a condom. You cant be to careful these days. OO

Answer 3

It appears that you are female and my answer is from a male perspective.
Fact 1: Male and female all want and NEED sex equally (generally) and at an age where commitment to marriage is inappropriate.
Fact 2: Men are designed to mate with as many females as possible. It is an evolutionary design factor and programmed into our brains. Thus, no apologies from me.
Fact 3: Women generally prefer sexual contact to be within a loving relationship - most men don't care about that.
Fact 4: Although all women are more or less built the same way, they are all different in detail. Sexual activity with girl A can be a very different experience to that with girl B. Even virginal girls CAN be uninhibited once they 'let go' and relax but to wait until you have committed yourself to another person in a marriage before trying each other out is a potential error of huge size. While sex is important, and remains important throughout most of a marriage, the two consenting participants should surely gain some experience prior to commitment.
Equally as important, the avoidance of pregnancy and sexually-transmitted diseases. Be protected against those as much as being protected against emotional hurt.
Choose a sexual partner carefully but use the experience and learn from it, so that, once your 'life partner' is found, you are not a 'failure' in bedroom athletics.
Ignore the god aspect totally.
There is no such thing.
Do not feel guilty from any religious angle whatsoever, just from your own moral principles, which don't need a fake god to reinforce.
Enjoy, learn, experience, improve ... give and receive.

Answer 4

It all depends on how your decision is based. If coming from a religious point - yes it's a sin. If your not totally ready to have sex then don't. Some people after having premarital sex regret it after they are married- why- because your chances of marrying this guy is more unlikely to happen and they wish they would of "saved" themselves for the one they end up getting married to. Then some don't regret it. If you feel that it is wrong then don't have sex. It's your life, it's your body, it's your own personal decision and this is one thing that you have complete control over - the when and with who.

Answer 5

Of course it's okay. The bible was written in Hebrew and translated to English by persons of power who used beliefs to control populations before there were actual national borders. Also, do you really think that "back in the day", English was written and read the way we read and write it now? But for some reason, in the 1400's in Shakespeare's time, it just happened to be "different" and then someone decided we should go back to the way it "was"? (ENGLISH AS WE KNOW IT DID NOT EXIST WHEN THE BIBLE WAS WRITTEN). The bible was NOT 1 book that was written by many people, it is a collection of scriptures and only the ones that were deemed appropriate by the "people in power" were edited and accepted into this "Holy Bible". There is no better way to have laws that are self-governing than to go right the core and tap into humanity's need to believe in something. Religious leaders were simply trying to promote a more organized family structure which in theory would produce a more organized and productive society less reliant on the 'State'. Feel free to explore and learn about your sexuality. You are a loving, breathing and naturally affectionate human being. Go enjoy what life has to offer!

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with it as long as you feel ready.

At the origine GOD had nothing to do with marriage. It was more an act of theft under the Roman Empire. The man litteraly stole the woman and the marriage became effective after living together for 1 year. I don't think GOD would have approved of such an act.

It is your life not GOD's life. And it is nature. As long as you do it with the person you like, it is ok. But be sure to be ready for it and be protected.

After it also depends on where you live and your religion. For some country being a virgin is the rule before getting married. For some it has become a dream.

Answer 7

Well, for most people it depends on what influences them most. God, for example is one of them. And I'm quite sure that he will love you no matter your sins; he is all forgiving. Wheather you feel guilty or not is up to you. For some poeople it is all about the intimacy with the significant other. For others it is all about the experiance or thrill otherwise known as casual sex.
Only you can determine if it is "right" to do so. Does that person make you TRUELY happy? Do you TRUELY love them? What are your reasons for wanting to have sex with that person?
If you can answer with confidence . . . then there is your action.
Always use protection :-)

Answer 8

After having read the first 22 answers before I came here to answer, I still have the same answer, so, here goes. I have copied the Bible by ball point pen onto looseleaf paper, and it took me 7 and 3/4 years to do so, and I have to say that I am either ignorant and illiterate as helll, OR, I can say authoritatively that NO WHERE in the Christian Bible, of any translation or version or whatever you want to call them, Old or New Testament, was I able to find ANY proscription against sex before marriage. Now, that seems to fly-in-the-face of everything I believed for decades, and all that I had been lectured in those same decades, and even in what Doug said or inferred by his citation of First Corinthians, chapter 6, verse 9, BUT, it is the fact as I can see it. The word "fornicators" is used in said verse, but NEVER, ANYWHERE, have I seen the word "fornicators" or "fornication" defined as "sex before marriage". My understanding of that word is similar to what Bender R said in his answer when he said, "God just doesn't want us getting obsessed with sex. A sexual obsession distracts us from God." Once that is said, the condition of whether one of the sexual partners is married, and therefore committing adultery is the key issue. I have been a mental health counselor, now retired, for 20+ years, and I've studied sexual addiction as well as a lot of other areas, and I'm SURE God forgives us for that as well, so long as we claim Him as our Saviour. That's not to give us an "easy out", but, in a way, it does, because God understands the human condition which He created. As Rafael answered, "God loves you, not your behaviors". So, in conclusion to my long-winded response, don't-sweat-the-small-stuff. Just keep it under control, and God will always love you, and there's nothing wrong. As other respondents said, just don't get pregnant unexpectedly, or get any sexually transmitted disease. God Bless you, and enjoy a good sexual life, without adultery. God Bless you.

Answer 9

yes, early religious beliefs made it "evil" to have children out of wedlock, and there are still some traditionalists who believe this. There wasn't really any great way of guarding against pregnancy, so the best way to not have kids is not have sex. However, nowadays, the majority of people just DON"T CARE. Its your life. If you don't want to have sex, use protection. If you want to have a child and aren't married, thats your choice, go ahead. Just gotta make sure you're prepared for the baby, financially, mentally, and any other way.

Answer 10

There's nothing wrong with sex between consenting adults in a committed relationship. Your gods don't care. What's wrong is trying to deny your sexuality, or worse, repress it. Repressing the second strongest drive in human nature leads to obsession, which leads to aberrant behavior, which is what got the Catholics in trouble. Enjoy each other, and practice safe sex. And how many bible quotes do you think will appear in the answers? I can hear the pages rustling now...

Answer 11

If you truly love someone and you both want to have sex with each other then go ahead, you may feel guilty if you took an oath of abstinence in which case I would advise you to keep the oath so you just avoid the guilt. Then if you do have sex, of course God will still love you, he is ever-forgiving and never stops loving. Also if you think that having sex before marriage is wrong then don't do it, NEVER go against your personal values unless they are destructive.