I told my girlfriend that I loved her and she told me she loved me. Later that day I asked her not to mention what I said to her friends because of all the crap that my friends and her friends would give me . They are still asking what my intentions are with her (senior in high school) She walked away with one of those looks that makes you take a step back and now she hasn't responded to a call. I'm wondering should I let the matter rest until she decides she wants to talk or should I give her another call and try and get her talking. I think if I talk to her I could calm the issue down but I don't know if she is just too mad?
2007-01-18 14:16:51 · 8 answers · asked by Stewie G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's tough- you really dropped the ball on this one. Seriously, who tells a girl they love her and then adds, but don't tell anyone I said that because they're going to make fun of me. That's not the strong secure male women want.
This seems rather fruitless knowing that you will break up either before you graduate, b/f one of you leaves for college, right after one of you cheats on the other one in college- but this how you solve this one...
You have to call her closest girl-friend and tell her that "you know why your girlfriend's mad at you", but don't say what it is- it's not necessary; "if she had done to you what you did to her, you'd be upset too"; "her and i are so much alike."
Here's why this is key- everything you say will be repeated verbatim to your girlfriend. This shows you understand she's upset, you know her emotions and what makes her tick, and that you and her are so much alike- these are important factors in a relationship, but let's keep going...
You then have to add the following, this is crucial: I've never loved anyone the way I love (insert her name). Since you're her closest friend, what can I do to show her how sorry I am?
The last part is crucial because you are making your love public, which is what caused the problems to begin with. The friend's advice really is inconsequential because the success of this plan (and it will work) lies with the friend relaying the message of her lovesick boyfriend.
Good luck!
2007-01-18 14:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by toburn41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Reframe from calling her. She needs some time alone. She loves you, so if anything she's running to you to make things all better again. She'll call you. Maybe not tonight even or today, or whatever time zone you in. Get some roses and tell her "shes everything you ever loved all bundled up into one person" and say your sorry. Then give that signal for the hug. You know, arms out straight, wrists pointing at the hugging target, and arms bent towards your side so you look like a human arrow pointing up. But don't be too tight, let loose and move in. Hold on for as long as you want.
- The Date Doctor Robert
2007-01-18 14:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by Robinhood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here is the deal. If someone gave you 1 million dollars would you want to keep it secret? I think you would want to tell everybody even though most people would give you heck and want some of it. That id how she feels, she has this really awesome thing and she has to keep it secret. If you love her, you should tell everybody. You know they are going to rag on you but you should still tell everyone, like the million dollars, because you love her more than your fear of being made fun of. Call her and apologize and on the message or if you get her tell her that you were wrong and that you really want everyone to know but were scared. And start telling people how much you love her. Good luck.
2007-01-18 14:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by charley_king2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably mad because you asking her not to tell her friends seems like you're embarrassed to love her. When you do get to talk to her, be a man and tell her you don't care if she tells anyone, and just put up with the crap you'll get - people will get over it in a few days anyway. You should care more about your relationship with her than getting a bit of crap from your friends... Geez, stop being such a pu$$y! : ) kidding, but seriously...
2007-01-18 14:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hideeho Stewie. Mr Hankey thinks you sound like a nice guy. Maybe you need to send her some flowers as an ice breaker. You see Stewie, your girlfriend is so proud of you she wants the rest of the school to know. Talk to her and it will be ok - trust me, I'm the Christmas Poo.
2007-01-18 14:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a little thing to a female!
Doesnt seem like love when you want to keep it a secret because you are scared of a little ridicule :P
I say apologize for wanting to keep it a secret, and let the world know you love her!
2007-01-18 14:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by independent101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, okay.
what you basically just did was told her you loved her, but to KEEP IT A SECRET.
then she would be thinking:
'does he really love me?'
'if he really did love me, why doesnt he want anyone to know'
you see, girls are under the impression if its love, the guy wont care who knows.
so i think you should just let people know.
if you really love her.
even if you cop it from your friends.
in relationships, you need to make sacrifices, and if you really care about her.
dont make her doubt you over something so small.
just say to anyone who asks, your intentions are to make her happy. okay?
if your relationship is strong, you guys should be able to get through this..
so goodluck.
2007-01-18 14:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lor. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the girl some space and time to think.
2007-01-18 14:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Sathius s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋