Repeat Relationship: What should I do?

Question

I was in a relationship with a guy for 3 years. (We lived together the last year). One Fri. he left for work and nver came back. He called me 2 days later and said he loves me but he's not in love with me and had to go. I was crushed, I really thought we had something real. Later I found out he had been seeing someone else for a year and had decided to marry her. I went on with my life and later met someone else (ironically this guy wanted to marry me). After 6 months tragedy struck, which separeted me and my new guy. The previous guy came to my aid and started hanging around from then on. Finally he decided that his new relationship wasn't going to work and figured he could just take up with me again like nothing happened. He says he didn't realize how much he really loved me until he saw me with someone else. Now he says he's in love with me, but he still won't commit, or promise fidelity. I love him. Should I wait for a change or just dump him while I'm ahead?

Answer 1

ohk.. so correct me if i m wrong.. u were in a relationship for 3 yrs and you lived together the last year.. the year he had been cheating on you!! u certainly have feelings for him and even after going through a devastated state you still have feelings for him, which means you really are into him.. there is nothing wrong in trying the relationship again but if you decide to do that... make sure you ask him or i would say rip him off with all those questions on why , how he cheated and after that how does he expect you to behave?? I know it sounds really meeaaan but before taking a second chance I would make sure the guy doesn't take my feelings for granted. He needs to respect you as a person and give consideration to your feelings.. because in the end it is Also Your Life!! and not just His!... Or else, the past is past, its about time to try new things and figure out the remaining puzzles of life..learn from the past and prepare for a better future! .. what ever you do.. put a smile on and life will hug You :)

Answer 2

My suggestion would be that the two of you see a counselor ~ first alone, then together (or as the counselor recommends) to see if there is anything left so the two of you do not get hurt more than you are already.