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I have been friends with this guy for the past 3 years. We sorta dated and then we had a big fight, because i wanted things to be more serious, but he wanted to see others. I started dating someone else and things got serious. The other guy became jealous. I asked what he wanted, he said he wanted me but still didn't want a relationship with me. He told me he couldn't stop dreaming/thinking about me and i could not stop thinking about him, even though i was with someone else. I maintained a friendship with the guy, and when things got rocky with my bf, the guy and i spent more time together, but again he wasn't interested in anything serious. I decided to go back with my bf, but throughout my relationship with my bf I haven't been able to stop thinking about the other guy. I am so torn. i don't wanna leave my bf, but I don't know what to do. There is definitely something when i'm around the other guy, but i don't know how to find out what it means. what should i do? Is this just lust?

2007-01-18 13:30:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

4 answers

Many people finds themselves in these types of situation: you are in a relationship where your heart is for another. Most people accepts the fact that love is a commodity after relationship and settle for someone less, however there are some that strives for the best, even though it meant going a few extra miles for it.

I think the center of your problem is your true guy does not want to committ in a serious relationship like you wanted, which started this whole second relationship and jealous thing. So the main problem in your situation is finding out what is it about being with you that he's relunctant to committ to.

Here is the funny thing: if he's so "in love" with you, and can not stop thinking about you, then why is he hesitant to be with you when you go back to his arm? If he is thinking about you all the time, then why does he second guess himself? These are the question you need to keep in mind when you talk to him about your relationship with him.

You need to explore and really find out what is keeping from getting serious with you. If its something it can be work out, then you should be fine. However, if its something you can't work it out with him, then its best to move on with your life because it would be just back and forth and at the end, both of you will be tire and heart broken.

Good luck~

2007-01-18 13:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by thsiung 3 · 1 0

If by way of transparent emotions you imply in need of to do bodily stuff to one another...than no! What you're feeling is hormones what he's feeling is his ought to be with kids (his inmates someday jail he'll live in will train him in any other case). You 2 don't have anything in ordinary...he has performed the top tuition factor, you have not, he long past to promenade you have not, he's capable to vote, you are not, he's capable to buy alcohol and get into bars, neither of which you'll...he has traditionally had intercourse extra occasions than the quantity of years you might have been alive...his lifestyles stories by myself make this a horrible fit...you don't have anything in ordinary except uncontrollable urges. Although his must be controllable.

2016-09-08 00:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Wow - that's a lot of issues! I think you need a new boyfriend!

2007-01-18 13:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by Hammer 4 · 0 0

ask then how they feel

2007-01-18 13:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by Restricted 4 · 0 0

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