She is 17. I knew there was something wrong when I came into her life 8 years ago but my husband thought she was going through some type of phase and would grow out of it. She would hurt little animals and said she wanted to see her father dead "like road kill". She also tried to kill another child at a skating rink. I was told she would bite herself until she bled from the time she was a toddler. I never knew a child quite like her. I raised three of my own but I could usually talk to them and they would feel ashamed of what they did if they hurt others. This did not work with her. She does not feel shame or remorse and this approach was no use. She usually tells her father what she thinks she wants him to hear to get on his good side. She admitted she enjoys manipulating others and does not like it if I try to discipline her. She is living with us now because her mother is on drugs and cannot care for her. Someone that knows something about this disorder please give us some advice?
2007-01-18 12:55:28 · 7 answers · asked by Marie 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
She has been in and out of mental hospitals but she was only diagnosed with anti social disorder before. Now we have a new diagnosis of Sociopathic disorder. I have tried to get her mother and father to see she needed intervention early on to no avail. I don't even fully know what this new diagnosis is yet.
2007-01-18 13:12:47 · update #1
I believe that antisocial disorder and sociopathic disorder are pretty similar - you'd want to check with whoever diagnosed her for more info. Manipulative children are often very hard to work with. How does she respond when you discipline her? Does she become violent or aggressive? I have worked in a residential treatment center for violent/aggressive children for 8 years and have come across this type before. Treatment generally includes parents not hooking into the manipulation (as incredibly hard as this is) and therapy working on establishing some kind of sympathy/empathy for others. Family counseling might be needed to help you as parents learn how to work best with this child. Did the family receive therapy while she was hospitalized? If not, this is something that definitely should be looked into. This sounds like a very tough situation and I hope the best for you and your family.
2007-01-18 15:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by kaliluna 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 19:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope she is not a danger to your children...... she needs to be on medication perhaps... she also needs serious pshiquiatric help before she harms someone or herself and ends up in jail or dead. There is obviously a serious problem in her brain to not feel remorse. check out the Charles Linden Method online and maybe they can direct you to where you need to go.
2007-01-18 17:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by sista-soul 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs a good mental health care professional. She should have had one starting about age 10 to 12. Do not try to discipline her. This will only make her resentfull of you. Please try and get her some help.
2007-01-18 13:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anne2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should really see a professional about this. I doubt there will be much usable advice on this forum other than that. Good luck, I feel for you. It sounds like a very stressful situation.
2007-01-18 13:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is best left up to a professional who has personal contact with her. Don't look for on-line therapy when it comes to your daughters well-being.
2007-01-18 13:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by laniebug1023 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really sucks one of the reasons it that she has a hard life with her parents divorce and her mom on drugs and maybe she doesn't have any friends at school. Take her to a siciatrist and help her pull her life together
2007-01-18 13:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by nicky b 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋