I was a single mom therefore, I allowed my son to sleep in the same bed with me. No perversion in any way. I am completely covered. he has just always slept with me. For a while we had no choice had a small one bedroom apartment. he is a young teenager now. My mother has told me from day 1 this was just wrong that it was going to warp him. He is perfectally normal. I have raised a great child, but mother stays on my case constantly about it. What do you think?
2007-01-18 12:31:19 · 22 answers · asked by no time to feel this way 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no it don't warp them. my brother used to do the same with my mom. actually it made them closer. my mom was all we had, him having no dad to look up to i think it was good for him to be able to have that strong bond with her. he trusted her, he told her everything, great communication. today he is completely normal. he has plenty of normal relationships with women. he is good to them, he respects them, very considerate of their feelings. he is also very much a macho man too. plays sports, boxes, football etc.if it keeps a good relationship and closeness with him dont worry about it. he needs to know that someone is always there for him. no one elses opinion matters, you are raising him, and if he is a good kid then you are doing something right, right?
2007-01-18 12:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by reddawnmt 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-15 10:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are family. And if all you can afford is a one bedroom apartment, then I don't really see the problem.
The people who think you are messing him up need to just chill. You aren't being nasty and neither is he. Talk to him about it though and if he wants, maybe you guys can buy an air mattress or have him sleep on the couch.
I agree with the girl who said that she and her brother slept with her mother because they had no dad to look up to. She is right too.
Tell your mother kindly that you would like it if she would just please drop the subject and stop bringing it up. Explain to her that you fully grown and you believe that you have raised a great child and he's a good kid. If she doesn't stop talking about it, act as if it doesn't bother you or change the subject-hopefully she will soon get the hint.
Good luck!!
2007-01-18 12:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it will effect his mentality. Maybe he feels like he should protect you by sleeping in the same bed. He is definately at the age of having his own bed to sleep in though. You should consider getting him his own bed. The hardest part will be explainng to him the reason why he can't sleep in the same bed as you. Just explain to him that he is old enough to sleep in his own bed and that if he needs you you will be in your room and that you will be okay. He needs to learn independence and this should be a step towards that. He will get used to it after a while, and who knows? He might love having his own room.
2007-01-18 13:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong (under those circumstances) as long as nothing "weird" went on. I recently went to visit my grown son who only has one bedroom. When it was time to go to sleep, we both slept in the same bed. At first I had reservations, but then I thought, what's he gonna do, rape me, LOL!
2007-01-18 12:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not a good idea. i dont think it has warped him, but there is absolutely no reason for him to still need that kind of connectedness to his mother. he is learning autonomy now.and im assuming that fear of the dark, monsters etc. is not a factor. not to mention the social climate in which we live. you may find the need to have someone else in your bed (?) at some point ,as well. time to wean him out. im sure that you are a good mom, and mean no harm. theres just to 2 of you. but hes becoming a little man now
2007-01-18 12:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's just not right.
A child has the right to have his/her own bed. A child needs to develop the independence of having their own sleeping space.
I think that this is more for you so you don't have to sleep alone. You need to work out your own issues and take the alone time that you have once your child is sleeping in his own bed to think about it. Think of his well-being. When will it stop? When he's 18? When his friends continue to make fun of him?
There are things that he shouldn't see or experience in your personal life. He is at the age that he is getting curious about the female body. This is natural for him. It shouldn't be you he is looking at. It's time to break this sleeping pattern.
2007-01-18 12:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Dont go over your limit. For now you can only afford to live in 1 bedroom apartment. Go ahead and share your bed with your son. Nothing will happen to him. You are family. when you are able he can have his own bed.
You are a good mother. Good luck.
2007-01-18 13:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by lou 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The last time I was in my parents bed I was 3, and scared silly at a thunderstorm. When it was over, my dad carried me (asleep) back to my bed.
I do not think it is right, and there was NO WAY i would have done this myself. I would have had the couch, or let him have it. I agree with your mother.. cause if it was me, I'd be warped if I let it happen.
I hope he's fine with it in 2-10 years when he looks back..
I'm sorry, I feel rude in what I have said. But you asked, so I have answered.
2007-01-18 12:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Once any child gets to be a certain age, they should sleep alone. I say about 4yo should be the cut off point.
2007-01-18 12:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jack P 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋