I'm 20 years old and play soccer at a small school in vermont. I've been very close with my former soccer coach since I was 16. However physically nothing happened between us until after I graduated highschool and turned 18. He's 31 and single( never been married) We hooked up the first time right before i left for college and have been hooking up since, we talk on the phone everyday and almost every night, he has even come to visit me a couple times at college. Some of my teammates at school know about us, but back at home no one knows. We really do care about each other, but I'm worried how my friends and family would react if we started dating. Also is there anyway our relationship could jepordize his career. Everyone likes him as a person, my parents used to take him out to dinner ect, but i feel like it would be different if they found out about us. Please Help!!
2007-01-18 12:23:54 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as he didn't do anything that could be construed as "inappropriate" that anybody knows about when you were in high school, it's not likely to jeopardize his career. It could ruin his reputation, but I wouldn't think that is likely to happen unless you lived in a really small town, maybe, where anyone would care.
Your parents may rightfully be suspicious of his past activities and they may try to cause trouble. At 20 years old, I say if he likes you enough to take the risk, go for it. The age difference is really not that big of a deal at 20.
It wouldn't be a big deal to me at all, except for the fact that you were emotionally involved with him since age 16 when you should have been dating and growing in maturity and social skills with people in your own peer group. Hopefully, you were, and weren't unduly influenced by his affections for you.
2007-01-18 12:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u could tell people, i mean ur an adult, if you and he really like each other, go for it. you shouldn't do anything physical though until ur married.i don't think it would jepordize his career, i mean you're not a student, you didn't do anything until you graduated. it isn't illegal. it should be fine. it is your life!!
2007-01-18 13:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by England France 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship could jeopardize his career. That is what worries me, he knows this too. So why did he let you too start?
2007-01-18 12:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ron H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your both adults so dont let it bother you you love each other and you should see where it takes you both and forge what others are saying
good luck and i hope everything works out for the both of you
2007-01-18 12:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one I don’t know what to do just follow you’re hart
2007-01-18 12:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by $$$$$$$$ice man$$$$$$$$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋