what would you do if your adult children stop talking to you because you abused them while they were young?

Answer 1

That depends on the type of abuse you are talking about!
But any type of abuse can cause a child to resent, and even hate
the parent/parents who treated them this way!
Verbal, sexual, physical, and emotional abuse 'ALL' leave wounds, and some os those wounds just don't heal.
If YOU are guilty of abusing your kids in 'any' way, then you
are finally getting your just rewards..
If you couldn't love and care for them when they were young, and needed you the most, then why should they love and care for you now you're old!!
'What goes around, comes around"!!!!
Forgiveness in such circumstances is sometimes impossible,
so don't expect any changes any time soon, if ever!!

Answer 2

You get help. You change your life, you change your attitude, you grow up and you accept responsibility for the wrongdoings that you have commited. There is no excuse for abusing a child, they are helpless and look to their parents for absolutely everything in life. Your parents are the ones whom are supposed to love and care for you no matter what, and once you break that trust the entire world becomes unsafe to them.

You need to admit that what you did was wrong, you need to reflect on yourself, and put yourself in their shoes, young helpless and looking to their parent for love and comfort, and intead they were abused. You had no right to do what you did to them, and you will need to make a serious effort to show them how sorry you are, and that you are now growing and changing your ways.

Get some help, therapy, support groups, and work through your own issues. Once you have figured out why you abused your own children and heal your personal trauma, only then can you begin to attempt to repair the relationship with your children

Answer 3

he is abusive. the reason your daughter is acting out is because she's been thrown to the wolves. "that's just how he is" is no excuse. next time he does it, walk up and clobber him, then shrug and say "oh, sooooorry, that's just how i am when ppl get on my child's case". failing that, tell him if he doesn't stop, you will be forced to report him - and do so, before someone reports you for not protecting your child from abuse. and seriously: move out. financial troubles or not, you can find a one-room apartment somewhere or access social services to get help. nobody, least of all a little girl, should be forced to live under those circumstances. something for you to think about: this is stuff he's doing when you're watching. it's a common ploy by molesters to discredit their intended victim so in case they tell someone, they won't be believed. please. be a parent, not an enabler.

Answer 4

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***** NOTICE: My stepdad abused me for 5 years. When my mom found out... she did nothing. I married young to "get away". She's just as guilty as he is to me. I haven't spoken to her in 3+ years,and I don't plan on it until she accepts responsibility for my being exposed to this for all those years. I still love her, but I won't shove it under a rug anymore likes she wants me to. If she would come out of denial and offer an apology for the pain I endured & still do over this I would be eager to begin a relationship w/ her. So... DON'T expect to pick up where you left off as if nothing happened. DO admit the pain YOU caused and give them space & time to heal. He/she should be treated gently,like a puzzle that was put together w/ some missing pieces you want to put into place....just like handling a puzzle,his/her heart is so delicate right now. I have learned I'll always love my mom,hopefully they can still love you. If they choose not to ever have a relationship w/ you, that doesn't necessarily mean they don't love you. Don't push yourself ,but don't give up...this won't be fixed in a day... Happy Healing to you & your family

Answer 5

I hope your not the parent asking this question. If you are, think really hard about this, do you really need to ask such an ignorant question? Think about the damage you've caused to innocent children, YOUR innocent children. If I were you, I'd leave them alone and live your own rotten life on your own.

Answer 6

I'd be grateful that they talked to me until now. Do you understand what you did and are you willing to go to therapy to make it up to them? You can't take back what you did but you could do something to prevent ever abusing their children/your grandchildren.

Answer 7

Deal with it. U were the one who chose this for yourself. No where is it said it is good to abuse someone. be grateful they talked to u until then. Let them be or go to therapy

Answer 8

Don't know but i was abused when i was young and thats something i don't want for my kids it's just wrong and not right.i love kids even the naughty ones there just kids they still don't know what there doing.no need to hit them.

Answer 9

I would sit my a** in my lonely house and reflect on what i did when they were little, when they depended on me for everything and i took advantage of their frailty, now your getting old and you expect them to forgive you. Accept their feelings and pray that God puts forgiveness in their hearts before its too late.

Answer 10

id kill myself for abusing them. child abuse is ******* wrong. you should go to therapy. there is something wrong with you. i wouldnt talk to you either. you should tell them that ur sorry and actuall admit you did it but im not saying thats going to work.