I was invited to an anniversary party. No gifts please was on the invitation, but there will be a basket for cards. It was also stated the couple will be going on a vacation after the party. Is this a hint for money?
2007-01-18 12:03:04 · 14 answers · asked by dominion410 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Money is expected and I think you should with regard to your income be generous. Indeed for them to state no gifts but a basket for cards was a disguise for solicitation. That reflects on them - if you don't put any money in the card it reflects on you.
I don't know if it this is a good thing or not but any time I give a card money is enclosed, it's expected. When I receive a card it's the same thing all over again.
2007-01-18 14:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like a hint for money. Tacky. It's up to you, personally I'd put $10 or $20 in the card just to keep in good rapport with these people. If they're mad you didn't put money in the card, they have no right to be because they asked for no gifts.
Another option is to state in the card that you've made a donation to their church, favorite charity, whatever in their honor instead of giving a gift directly to them. That may do it.
2007-01-18 12:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does sound like a hint even though they said no gifts. I would put a $20 in the card and call it a day. It's not to much but enough to cover your a**.
2007-01-18 12:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Attending a party does not mean you're supposed to provide a gift....ever.
It is always up to you....so put money in the card if you want and don't if you don't want to.
If they're paying for the trip with money from the party....that's in very bad taste.
2007-01-18 12:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just give them a card, and write in it "Have fun on your vacation!" You don't need to give them money for an anniversary. A wedding would be one thing - but not anniversary.
2007-01-18 12:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by Julie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a hint for money. That is really tacky. Give them a card with nothing in it.
2007-01-18 12:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by twinmom 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yep. It sounds like a hint for money. Shame on them.
2007-01-18 12:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Don't send money in mail. You risk losing it).
It is a hint for money, so why not humor them and give them $20.
2007-01-18 18:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No money. Money it is still considered a gift.
2007-01-18 14:49:45 · answer #9 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally up to you if you want to include money. If I were in your position, since they want to act like they don't need anything, I would keep my money in my pocket.
2007-01-18 14:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋