there's this guy who i've liked forever, i can never get him out of my head, he is amazing....anyway, i never though he liked me, until the other day he kissed me, with his tongue half way down my throat...LOL....but thing is he's asked me to go out with him....but it's really weird, i don't want to...but still i really really really really like him....i don't get it, why don't i? i've never had a bf before. what do i do? what do i say!!!?
by the way, he's 17.
2007-01-18 11:54:40 · 11 answers · asked by Annie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
simple your still under age u need to go out with adults.
2007-01-18 11:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by luvu4ever14344 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, you remind me of ME when I got my first boyfriend. Imma tell u the story and see if you relate. I was 16 (now 24) never had a bf before...guys would ask me out, and I would like them but I couldnt say yes.
The reason that I see now, is that I was insecure. I felt like I couldnt keep a boyfriend...sorta like I wasnt girlfriend material, but in the way that I wouldnt know what to do as a girlfriend, like when to talk to him, when to go out, hang out at school or not, all that stuff.
The best thing you can do, is just give it a shot, if you like the guy, take it little by little...one step at a time. Just say yes, and take it from there....none of us are born experts....we all learn through experience, and I think you're old stuff to experience what it is to have a boyfriend. Dont be scared :)
Good Luck
2007-01-18 20:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously not ready yet, either emotionally or physically.
This may be difficult for him (and you) to understand.
I have a female friend who is geourgeous, sexy etc. and We love each other madly but we just don't work as bf/gf.
In this sort of situation, follow your heart.
Your heart is saying no even though your mind doesn't understand why.
If he got a girlfriend, other than you, could you still be friends with him and be happy for them?
If you could then you truly love him and all you need to do is be happy and enjoy his company when he's there.
If he has difficulty with this then that is unfortunate but if he's worthy of your love he will learn to live with it and, who knows, next week, next month or next year you may suddenly feel that it's the right thing to do to go out with him. THATS when it IS right, but for both your sakes don't make him hang on waiting for you, if he chooses to that's up to him but don't you tell him maybe.
As for him being 17 and you 16 that's an ok age gap.
2007-01-18 20:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know WHAT the other guy is saying...but I think the fact that you mentioned about him kissing you and it not being quite the romantic thing you hoped it would be seems to have turned you off. It sounds like you still really like this guy but are letting this kiss overcome the rest of the relationship. It's important to keep that in its own compartment and know that even though it wasn't what you envisioned it to be, it can only get better. Let it happen naturally and I'm sure you will be fine.
2007-01-18 20:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by odieman42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. Its like you REALLY like a guy but you dont wanna go out with him.. lol I cant explain it but I'm that way too. I think its because youre insecure about never having a bf before and you think you're gonna 'mess up' or do something wrong. Just tell yourself to take a chance and have fun with it.
2007-01-18 19:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably scared of being in a relationship. So go out with him, experience it so later you might not be so afraid of being in a relationship. Good luck.
2007-01-18 20:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by Questions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say yes! You are just overwhelmed by this whole situation! Your a little scared and overwhelmed! You will get over it!
2007-01-18 20:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by Floopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem with this girl,..i know we cant go out, not becouse of her or anything, but i can never imagine my self holding hands with her, or walking on the beaches. but i still really like her, and be super jelous if she goes out with some one else
2007-01-18 20:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're probably just scared of him not living up to your expectations. Maybe you're not ready to date yet. It's ok, take your time.
2007-01-18 20:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by Bacnmia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't date someone if it's not going to mean anything to you...it's unfair to both people.
2007-01-18 20:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋