2007-01-18 11:53:07 · 7 answers · asked by noyadayadayada 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. A man who is turned off by a child, with or without disabilities, would be one who is either not interested in having kids in general, or lacks the ability to think too far outside his own interests.
I would date a woman who had a child with disabilities. However, there are problems with women who are out of a recent divorce. Emotional baggage from the marriage can carry over into the new relationship with a new guy, let alone issues with your ex and visitation. Some guys do shy away from that situation, not directly because of the child. It can be hard on the child to see new guys, getting attached to them, and having them leave their lives because things didn’t work out between you and he.
Good luck, and may you find happiness and healthy a companionship. Take your time, though. Good men are out there, and it takes time to find them.
2007-01-18 12:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by Bobby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am hoping you want a real, honest answer and not just a pep talk. I guess you need to ask yourself why men want to date somone period? We date for sex and companionship. We will try to choose the person who we think is most likely to fulfill those needs for us, over the short and long term.
I'm sure you're a great and devoted mom, but from a man's perspective the financial, emotional, and time drain that a disabled child puts on you can only take away from your ability to provide the very things we are looking to add to our lives as single people with a large universe of different women to date.
This is as it should be, there is nothing wrong with you. Your priorities are to your child's well-being, first and foremost. It's just that we may look at your situation, and say "she is going to have to work so hard to provide the same type of companionship to me that another woman could do so easily without all those responsibilities...." We may even wonder if that strain contributed to the failure of your first relationship...
It's not selfish or shallow for guys to search for someone who has the best chance of being able to fulfill our needs for companionship. It's good common sense.
2007-01-18 12:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Real man won't be and if someone was would you want them around anyway? Dateing is a pain sometimes but other times it just all falls together,good luck hon,and don't worry most guys are decent and a disability isn't something that is going to put them off.
2007-01-18 12:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by chosen37 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm assuming you mean... are men but off women, that have had children from a previous marriage. Whether you child is disabled or not should not affect your relationship with any future man that may become involved with your life... if a man does have a problem with your child, he doesnt deserve you!
2007-01-18 12:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
in case you % to bypass in the process something of your life as "the different female" stay with him. he's stated you flat out that he's not getting a divorce. What greater do you ought to take heed to? He for sure would not think of you're properly well worth the cost of a divorce.
2016-10-31 11:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize that my maternal instinct is interfering with my ability to be unbiased here, but if the man is put off by a child with a disability, he isn't worth your time anyway.
2007-01-18 11:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by toolate 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would they be and if they are they are shallow. I am sorry about your past marriage btw and hope that you do find a guy that is not shallow well have a good one.
2007-01-18 11:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by shawn w 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋