what will i do with my 4 yr old daughter who starts to talk back?

Question

my dahugter started this character when she spent sometime watching T.V. when i scold her for doing something bad she always has something to say, and always defend herself to the point of me getting irritated.

Answer 1

Smack her mouth!!!

Answer 2

My lil girl started this same thing up too! I just stand up tall, get a rather harsh tone, tell her to stop talking back, and make her say "yes Ma'am" as a reply instead of her "alright, alright, i get it" response. If she doesn't then I either take her off and make her sit still while i lecture her, which she hates, or i put her in time out for five minutes or so, no talking. Both of these she hates with a vengeance, so it works, but you may have to use a punishment that gets to her like those do my lil girl. The biggest thing, once you start you can't back down or let her talk back for even the littlest thing, or she'll be right back at the start again.

Answer 3

I give 1, 2, 3 and then a time out.

If she talks back, she gets a 1, 2, or 3.

Then we talk about it, and I say "what's another way you could get my attention?" And she'll tell me a better way.

If it's really bad, and she's having a tantrum and talking back, I ignore her. She gives up quick when she realizes it's not going her way.

Her behavior has really improved now that she knows what is expected of her.

And for the people who criticize timeout, I agree that it doesn't always work. Parent seem to blame their kids for their bad behavior. If parents followed through on time outs, and showed their child other appropriate ways to get attention, then things wouldn't be so bad.

My daughter hit for a bit when she was a little. I said, why are you hitting? she said, cause I'm mad. We made a list of things hands are for - hugging, writing, throwing. Hitting wasn't on the list. She got the point, and she hasn't hit since. Unfortunately, when parents yell back "Because I said so", or "because I'm in charge", that doesn't fly.

Answer 4

This is a critical time. You need to be firm with her. Have a chair or a place where she has to go when she talks bad to mommy. When she talks back to you you need have to have her sit for 3 - 5 minutes right away in the place you have chosen. When the time is up tell her she can get up, but she will go back to chair if she talks bad to mommy again, explain to her she is not allowed to talk that way to you.

Don't get upset, don't argue with her or get irritated, just be calm and you will find out she may fight it at first, but will do it. Good luck and good for you for being a good mom!

Answer 5

She likes the banter. She likes the attention she is getting from her act. How about you tell her that you do not like the way she is communicating with you and you will not respond to disrespectful talk. She will know what you mean.
This is what I am doing with my 4 year old son. I look at him in the eye and let him know that I mean it and even try to look a little disappointed. He is testing me to see how far he can push me. After "the look" I pretend to be as cool as a cucumber.
I think this is the same phase that my daughter went through and as with every childhood milestone in parenting, it will pass. Stay cool and stern, but never let them see you sweat.

Answer 6

You can smack her like other people say but the best thing to do is don't let her watch those type of TV shows ad talk to her before it gets out of hand and let her know that you are not going to put up with back talk and punish her by taking away things that she likes the most.

Answer 7

dont let her watch tv anymore, or block some channels. Teach her who is the parent and show her that u are the boss. If you dont do that now, she will end up being a brat and talking back even more. Tell her that u scold her because you love her!

Answer 8

Stick her in the corner with her hands behind her back on a time out until she realizes what she's done. Next time around, wash her mouth out with soap.. She'll learn real quick. Gotta break that sh|t now though before it gets too out of hand... and I'd be careful with what you let her watch on tv.. Doesn't sound like great parenting skills thus far.

Answer 9

There's a saying that goes, "Start as you mean to go on". If you want to nip this in the bud now, you have to discipline her. You may not be an advocate for spanking, but she has to learn that there's consequences to her actions. Don't put up with it. Make her stick her nose in the corner and stay there for 5-10 minutes. Kids hate having to sit still, and this is a tactic that works with my kids. Explain that she is NOT allowed to speak to you that way, because YOU are the parent and SHE is the child. Plain and simple.

Answer 10

Little ones dont know no better. Thats why it your responsibility to show your daugther her rights from wrong. Its not bad to show your child some discipline as much as it might hurt, put her in time out show her that if she so bad things that there goning to be consequences and dont spoil her after words because little ones are smart they learn what to do to make you run toward them and pick them up. I not telling you to be mean but you have to show her before matters get out of control

Answer 11

First, you need to stop letting her watch programs that will teach her to talk back. Let her watch programs that will teach her to respect her elders. Next, you need to give her a spanking, each time she starts getting mouthy with you. Not enough to hurt her or leave marks, but enough to let her know you are not going to put up with it.