Been dating 9 months, been great. He gave 3 reasons for breaking up: (1) Love. he loves me, therefore he wants to break up with me. Basically, he feels unworthy of me so bad about continuing to date me, and would break up as an act of love. (2) Time. He wants us to spend time doing other things, and grow while apart. (3) Timing. He wants us to break up while "our relations are still beautiful"/before we start disliking each other (Something I doubt will ever need to happen). I know he is being sincere, he insists that those are his reasons. From the beginning he has shown signs of being insecure about himself. He started dating me by saying "I Don't feel proportionate/worthy of you, but I want to date you." I already told him his reasons don't make any sense. He wrote back "The reasons for thinking lets break up are what I said just before. I am honestly so absolutely grateful to you. I think it is better if we break up." What should I do to stay together? He is truthful
2007-01-18 11:36:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think u should both talk about it. tell him why u think u should stay together and let him say why he thinks u should break up. maybe compromise
2007-01-18 11:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe somehow appeal to his self-esteem. You'll need to stress that you love him for exactly who he is, and how he treats you. The classic "I don't care how much money you make.... what you do....." line kind of stuff. If that's really the case, express to him how you feel. Remind him that he's human and you're human, no one really deserves to be put on a pedastal, as we are ALL great! Tell him that while you are somewhat flattered by those thoughts, it makes you humble all the more and makes you love HIM and be into HIM all the more.
Just say, "DUDE, I'M HERE WITH ***YOU***, AREN'T I????" "I LOVE ***YOU***!!! I DESERVE ***YOU***, AND YOU DESERVE ME!!! SO WHAT'S UP???
If he continues to rant and rave about how much he doesn't deserve you, then I don't know what's wrong with him. He's either just crazy, or might be cheating on you or something (hey, it could happen).
Good luck.
2007-01-18 11:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by gabound75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay he got me when yousaid that he wanted to break up because he loves you okay this guy is weird and if he truely loved you he would of never came up with those stupid reasons ok the only thing he loves is your body the only time he sees with you is when he daydreams about you and him in the bed and the only thing wrong with the timing is it s not the time he wants and what you two do together is not what he wants sorry to be so harsh but that is what i see nothing more than a manwhore.
2007-01-18 11:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should give him another chance and let him see how much he misses you before you tell him that you still want to be with him then he could see that he really does love you more than himself or whatever he said about breaking up for a better reason than love
2007-01-18 11:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by drpepper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, the first 2 reasons i could almost understand, but the 3rd makes absolutely no sense. I think there's something else going on, some secret he's keeping from you. Not necessarily infidelity, but something that he's afraid you'll dump him over when you find out.
2007-01-18 11:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's full of --it. Don't believe any of it. He wants out. If he didn't he'd stay in. No excuses, nothing more. That's one of the lamest manipulative acts I've ever seen and you've fallen for it. You shouldn't want to stay with someone who is so UN-truthful. Move on and find someone who is honest with you.
2007-01-18 11:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a load of crap to me. Honey he just wants you on a shelf so he can play around with others and come back and get you if he changes his mind. Find someone else. LOL. Really! What a line of BS!
2007-01-18 11:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a load of crap.......he is not interested in you anymore. he is trying to "let you down easy". but look on the bright side......at least he is decent enough to break up with you, than to string you along, and cheating on you.
i can tell by your question you are young, and will not appreciate my answer.
2007-01-18 11:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you have a typical man on your hands (just making up lame excuses) or you have a real weirdo on your hands. Good luck.
2007-01-18 11:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means he wants to Find more holes to plug. You can help your relationship out by inviting another woman into the bedroom.
Nothing smooths things over like hot three-way action.
2007-01-18 11:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by Taco Pete 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋