2007-01-18 11:28:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes I have...my grandfather...it was horrible...you get so used to subconsiously seeing someone breathe, it's wierd when they don't...you keep waiting for it...i will never subject myself to that again...i refuse to go to funerals
2007-01-18 11:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was never one to stand over a coffin longer than just a respectable pause. Then my daddy died four years ago. He was nearly 90 and had Alzheimer's. My mother died when I was a baby and I'd been my daddy's shadow. He was a wonderful father. He'd finally remarried when I was in college and she was not exactly what I would have chosen to be a family member. I remained very connected to my father but she had given me a hard time for many years. At the funeral home, I wanted those last few moments as close to Daddy as I could be. I saw nothing morbid about kissing his cheek, touching his hand, whispering to him. Those were precious last minutes to look at the man who had never let me down. The disease had ravaged his mind but not his body. He was still the handsome man I'd known for my whole life. I felt such peace as we laid him next to my mother. I'd driven 500 miles to do what I knew he'd wanted all those years...to be with my mother. When I see him again, he'll be with her. I never knew her so it will be a glad reunion day for me!!
2007-01-18 11:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not exactly a family member, but probably closer. My best friend's mom who raised me since I was 13. It was the hardest thing in the world because I kept waiting for her to open her eyes, sit up and come home with us. It was her, but there was no expression on her face. She was cold, and probably the worst thing about it was the smell. It's been 2 1/2 years now, and I still can't shake it. It was enough to make sure I request a closed casket funeral after I pass away, nobody should remember their loved ones like that.
2007-01-18 11:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i have seen many many dead relatives ..the scariest part to me is right before you go in but once you see them its not too bad ... they look like they are sleeping but depending on what they died from and how good a job the mortician did they sometimes dont look natural...they could be pale ...they could look kind of hard ..their color could not be right...i guess too depends on the age of the person as well ..if you touch them they are very cold - their mouths are sewn shut so basically the lips are just straight ..no smiling - u only see the top half of the body and their hands are resting on their stomach...their fingernails are usually cleaned real nice --if its someone you are real close to it will be hard but it will be okay dont be afraid to touch him or her if you feel the need to ...i know sometimes i gently caress their hands just a way to say good bye ... dont be afraid to kiss them either if you feel a need to ...its eerie cause u look at them and think "man they were alive last week " or something like that --if they were suffering before they died then in a way u are relieved to see them no longer hurting ...i hope this helps some
2007-01-18 11:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by crap 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my grandfather. I was only 8 or 9. It was horrible, and I don't recommend it. I think it is quite morbid to view a dead body. I would attend a service, but not a viewing in the future.
2007-01-18 12:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I not only saw my grandmother in her coffin I did her make up.
My father and I showed up to preview her for her wake and the makeup person had put way too much on her face. She looked like Tammy Faye Baker! I cleaned her face & fixed it so she looked right.
2007-01-18 11:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've seen people from a distance, but I've never been very close. I like to remember people as they were, not in the coffin.
2007-01-18 11:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
convinced. I once got here living house from college and stuck my brother and his acquaintances watcing a porno video. I do advise video because it became a lengthy time period in the past. The curtains interior the sitting room were close, I walked in and stated "hi", walked out back and by no ability stated a be conscious. My mothers and fathers nonetheless do not understand!
2016-10-15 10:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it wasnt a coffin, it was the gerny thing in the funeral Parlor as my father in law was to be cremated.
I watched him, I said a couple of things to him, (he didnt answer me though)
I even touched his cheek when I said goodbye.
I remembered feeling that his soul had absolutley departed.
I'm not afraid of death or deceased people, my husband wouldnt even go in the room. (it was his father)
2007-01-18 11:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...watched? Watched for what? An eye to open or a twitch of the hand?
2007-01-18 11:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋