Yeah its a repost but the original got buried, with no answers.
Ok this has just been bugging me for too long now. I started seeing this woman. In the end it ended up bad( it didn't need to). One of her complaints was that I didn't make a move in the first 5 chances.
She expressed how disturbed she was by this. Yet I got very intimate(sex) with her, about a month after first meeting her. I'll admit at first I was just looking at it as a friend situation, but then started to really like her.
So what is the correct amount of chances men should get to make a move for a kiss or holding hands or something else that just seems to be more intimate?
This isn't the whole story and I also admit that I had been out of the dating world for almost four years. We were both 28 at the time.
Am I wrong? Did I not move fast enough. I would tend to think that sex a month later would say pretty fast.
Siiiiiiiigghhhhh. Help. Help relieve my mind. Thanks.
2007-01-18 11:15:55 · 3 answers · asked by Ben B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No I'm not afraid to hold hands or anything the question asks how long is reasonable before it becomes too long. Unfortunately that relationship ended badly. I should have just stuck with the friendship because that rocked and like I said there is more.
I think I was reasonable. Yes I didn't pursue very fast. I hadn't dated in years so I did feel a little out of practice. But is a month and about a total of 6-7 contacts too long?
2007-01-18 11:39:15 · update #1
You already had sex and you are afraid of a kiss, holding hands or something else???
2007-01-18 11:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a b**** , sorry but thats my opinion. I think that what your doing is valueing your respect with her and you dont want to act desperate or seem like your getting in her pantys. Maybe she just wants to have sex with you and nothing else, no strings.
If she is desturbed then dont let her desturb you, stand up for yourself and tell her the truth. Shes already driving you mad. hehe
Good luck
Maybe just have fun sex with her and enjoy her but dont treat it like a relationship yet or head in that direction. But find out what she wants first.
Good luck
2007-01-18 19:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by Nat555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just werent ready to move to fast dont be so hard on your self youll know what to do when the time is right and why have you been out of the loop so long were you involved with someone and just wasnt happy anymore? listen you'll know when your ready and youll makes the right choice ben b
2007-01-18 19:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by cinerella19772 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋