i want to marry her and she sais she will marry me, is she just playin the game
2007-01-18 11:10:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are both 33 with kid she has an 12y/o i have a 6y/o. she has had problems with trust. and i have never been faithful to a woman, but now i really feel she is the one. when we started seein each other we said we would take it slow, yeah we jumped in this pretty fast. and i just got over a relationship of 3 years that shouldnt have lasted that long. i make real good money and im scared she may only want to marry for that reason, i mean we hang out all the time. she cooks dinner for me it seems cool, she sais she dont realy show emotion but she is a woman and if you love someone you will show somethin rite because i am the same way but she makes me act like a love smittin little boy
2007-01-18 11:44:49 · update #1
we are both 33 with kid she has an 12y/o i have a 6y/o. she has had problems with trust. and i have never been faithful to a woman, but now i really feel she is the one. when we started seein each other we said we would take it slow, yeah we jumped in this pretty fast. and i just got over a relationship of 3 years that shouldnt have lasted that long. i make real good money and im scared she may only want to marry for that reason, i mean we hang out all the time. she cooks dinner for me it seems cool, she sais she dont realy show emotion but she is a woman and if you love someone you will show somethin rite because i am the same way but she makes me act like a love smittin little boy
2007-01-18 11:44:50 · update #2
So she DON"T express much emotion? Maybe she do not knows what you is saying...geesh.
2007-01-18 11:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by behr28 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need a bit more time. Maybe she s still warming up and is not ready to express her real emotions since some gurls take longer than others due to their shyness or their past experiences.. You cant accuse her of playin the game. Why dont you take it slow as well.. like chill and be more like best friends rather than a couple.. that usually works much better!
Goodluck =)
2007-01-18 19:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by Kittykaren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be playing any games. Something she experienced in her past likely has affected the amount of affection she able to display. Since you're in love, have you asked her about this? If not, you should. For your own sake, because this is a concern for you, you need to get to the bottom of what's going on. If this is just the way she is, you then need to decide if you can live with the lack of affection for the rest of your life with her.
2007-01-18 19:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by NYGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people aren't gushy and emotional. Girls don't usually talk about marrying you when they don't really like you.
Use positive reinforcement. When she says or does something that expresses emotion the way you want her to, smile and say, "I really love it when you do that," or "I love to hear you talk like that."
Mirror some of the actions you'd like to see her do (without going overboard or becoming annoying, considering that it's not what she's used to). Hold her hand, say sweet things. Eventually she'll pick up on the pattern and start to return the same.
2007-01-18 19:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, man, I thought she was a somewhat deep, spiritual, non-verbal emoter like the Cancer that I am.
Oh well, I gotta say, to some extent the game has to be played.
But on trivial things, like whether this week will include a special dinner or trip to your fave hang out, you know?
Not major things.
Anyway, look for actions. They speak a lot louder than words, espcially for women like me!
Good luck.
2007-01-18 19:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No games , she is just not an emotional person if u truly love her believe that she does love u ,until u find out otherwise u have no choice except to continue loving her
2007-01-18 19:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold it up there buddy, maybe you are scaring her with the thought of marriage. Take things a bit more slowly and see if she opens up. Sheesh....... you are only going out for 5 months!
2007-01-18 19:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Dairy Fairy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes a woman. If anyone can answer what the hell shes thinking then god has spoken on Yahoo.
2007-01-18 19:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It looks like both of you are too young.
2007-01-18 19:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by rossj12003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really too soon. Be patient or youll scare her off
2007-01-18 19:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by helplessromatic2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋