my bf smokes A LOT. i used to but never as much as him and i dont how to tell him how i dont like it since i used to do it. hes out of school and stays at home he has a job and is a great job but im confused on if this is wat i want. im going to college in aug. i want someone who will become something. HELP PLEASE!
2007-01-18 11:07:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he isn't gonna go to college and he isn't planning on going anywhere except from the couch to the fridge and back... then i would say, you deserve SOOO much better- someone who can bring in enough money for a nice home, a nice car, and other things. Tell him to either shape up or you're leaving. AGAIN I WILL SAY IT... you deserve so much better. good luck
2007-01-18 11:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by WickedWest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats sweetie! Deciding what you want is part of growing up. Going to college isn't for everyone, and if it's working for you good luck. If I were you, I'd make a list of pros and cons. If the good outweighs the bad stay with him...if they don't break up with him. There's a man out there with everything you want, he'll be a college grad if that's what you want. He's probably a great guy, he's probably just not the guy for you. If you find that the good outweighs the bad, drop him. Don't give it time, if you do than it'll let you think about how much you're going to miss him, and you will. That's what caring about someone does. But if he's not the one for you all you're doing is wasting both of your times and blocking you both from other people. Just don't let the only reason you're not with him be that he's not a college grad. If you love him it shouldn't matter. Don't ever lower your standards.Good luck sweetie!
2007-01-18 11:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question hon.You want more in life then what he has to offer.You deserve it too. Go to college and you'll see how much different people are compared to your bf.I promise u that when u go to college. It will make u realize that there is a whole different way of thinking, and living out there with young people.Good luck
2007-01-18 11:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You need to focus on your last semester of high school. Most colleges provide a provisional admittance. You aren't there yet.
Besides, you will have plenty of opportunities in college. Don't you want to go to date night with a nice new college guy?
The first year of college will bring many opportunities to meet quality people. You might even meet a nice guy during orientation week.
I met my first college date in the gym during the second week of school. We are still friends. I introduced her to my room mate on date night and now they are married.
Take a breather. You have a whole new life once you get into college. New study groups. etc.
2007-01-18 11:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by Phillip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate and tell him how you feel. May be in a diplomatic way.. like say sumthin like "sooo are you going to do some extra studies or sumthin later on?" and see what he has to say. Maybe later on, both of you'll will realise that you'll want different things... and dont necessarily need each other. Just chill.. and talk to him... and think and ask yourself "is this really what i want?" I beleive that you will find the answer if you just sit quietly and think about it ...
Good luck =)
2007-01-18 11:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Kittykaren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't give in if he smokes a lot i say walk away hes stupid and he doesn't deserve your time i may be 16
but i know that someone that waste their life smoking is a worthless mother-****** that will never amount to any thing so if you want to be like your stupid friend go ahead and smoke with him but just keep in mind that you wont amount to anything either! stay strong and don't give in to pussy stuff like that!
2007-01-18 11:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then leave him. I mean you always gotta do what you want and if he is on the way I think you should get rid of him. If you really love him and he loves you then after you are done with college and stuff you can go back.
take care
2007-01-18 11:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that then tell him thats why you are breaking up with him because u dont see a future with him and its better for you if you find someone who will be able to take care of u and grow old together and not die at age 35 from lung cancer!
2007-01-18 11:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's not what you want now he's not gonna be what you want then. You can't change him and if you think that he will change he wont. You have to make this decision on your own.
2007-01-18 11:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by Candi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has a good job get with him n make him quit smoken!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-18 11:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by Jelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋