Is it unreasonable to ask someone who is hosting a girl slumber party to make sure that the males of their household be separated while the girls are present in their home?
2007-01-18 11:02:32 · 22 answers · asked by Univgurl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If they are males who live there- yeah, not cool to ask that they go away. More polite to not allow your daughter to attend if you don't trust the other males. Whether it's other adults in the family or brothers- if they live there, you cannot ask that conditions be set on your child's attendance. If every parent put some kind of restriction on the party, it would cease to be fun from the get-go.
Generally most parents will try and unload their sibling boys, or plan a separatist activity for the boys. I had three boys and frankly, their sister would have happily murdered them rather than let them interfere in their slumber parties.
If you feel at all uneasy letting your kid go- don't let her go! Tell the host you have family plans, and do something more spectacular that night with your kid to make up for it. You don't necessarily need to even tell why- to the kid or to the host.
We had acquaintences whose kids went to the same school as mine, who invited my youngest for a sleepover. Since the dad had been a little odd on a playdate, I declined, citing family plans, and took my son to a movie. Turns out he planned a scary activity- for six year olds- that frightened the hell out of everyone.
Use your gut in terms of decisions for your kid- you are the parent and presumably know best.
But etiquette-wide- no, you can't ASK them to send the boys elsewhere.
BUT- you can politely inquire- "And where will the boys be during this activity" and get better clarification- and THEN Make your decision.
Good luck!:)
2007-01-18 11:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by CYP450 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it really POSSIBLE for all the males to be 'somewhere else' while there are girls in the house? Make sure that no males can come into the 'party room' and if you have two bathrooms, make one 'girls only' and you should be fine ... if you're not then should you be going to that party at that place in the first place? Girls should NOT be allowed to 'run wild' or take over the WHOLE HOUSE during a 'slumber party' but SAFETY should always be your FIRST PRIORITY.
2007-01-18 11:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is. It's not your house, you don't get to make the rules. It's fine to ask if the males will be there and if you don't like the answer, then just don't attend. But no, you don't get to dictate how someone else runs parties in their home. And if you don't, just throw a slumber party yourself in a month or two, invite all the same people and make sure there are no guys there.
2007-01-25 08:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the boys live there, than they should definitely sleep in another part of the house (or better yet, the girls should sleep in a different part of the house, since they are the ones having the party and putting the males at an inconvenience). If the girls are okay with it, I think its okay for the guys to maybe hang out with the girls for a little while, if they're playing games or watching movies. But once it gets to "girl" time or sleeping time they should part ways.
However, it's an unwritten rule that, if a brother, or brother's friend or whatever is doing his own thing a girl comes on to him, he can have a go at it and it's all on her. Sorry, just how it is.
2007-01-18 11:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Personally, I don't think it's appropriate to have boys sleep in the house for a girls sleep over. No one can guarantee that someone doesn't wake up, sneak over and who knows what - it leaves the situation vulnerable for potential problems. Just the mere idea of having young people sleep in the same house with opposite sexes is exciting and can make for restlessness.
Just think... are you prepared to deal with the consequences? You are not only responsible for your own kids; but also, the other parents will hold you accountable for their children's protection.
When I was a kid, I'd have mixed parties, but after the activities were over, the boys went home and the girls wound down, late night chit chat and then crashed.
2007-01-18 11:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boys should not be at slumber parties (involved, etc); however, if they are members of the household where the gigglefit is being conducted they should not be banned from the household.
2007-01-25 13:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Donald W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at an all girls slumber party, boys should be sent elsewhere. younger or older brothers, and any other male member of the household should not interfere or try to be cute with the girls.
it's called common sense.
2007-01-18 11:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
No its not unreasonable to ask. Any siblings or friends of your brothers shouldn't be there. But if its your father, then, thats different, he could careless whats going on. He'll be in other parts of the house.
2007-01-18 11:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question answers itself.... "a GIRLS slumber party", I don't see any mention of boys here
2007-01-18 11:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mike S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly reasonable to make sure that boys and girls are not sleeping in the same room.
2007-01-18 12:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋