Me and my best hav been together since God knows when!!! We both go to cinema sometimes nd buys ice cream or milkshake with chips together...but my bf thinks tht ther's somethin goin on between us! i keep tellin him tht he's wrong nd tht my best is like my big brother to me! You see i never had a brother b4 nd my havin my best is like havin a real brother!!! I told him tht we go out together sometimes to catch up with gossips! I mean i never had any hidden meetings with my best...in fact...i tell my bf every time im meeting wit my best! i tell him wer we go and wot wer doin! i even call him over the fone jus for the sake of him knowin wot we wer up too! i dnt kno wot else to do!!!! i keep tellin my bf tht i love him very much nd tht thers no need to get jelous wit my best since my best is jus my friend! i love my bf soooo much....i dnt kno wot else to do to stop him from jelousy!!!!!!! i keep tellin him tht his the only man i love!!! i dnt kno if he blieves me! wot shall i do?
2007-01-18 10:56:35 · 21 answers · asked by gizela_b90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ur friend has to get a girlfriend
2007-01-18 10:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by saab m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie I know exactly how you feel but I also understand how your boyfriend feels. My boyfriend has a girl best friend, but I am confident that he's not doing anything with her. But sometimes in the back of my mind it's always there. Especially when he told me that she had just broken up with her boyfriend. I didn't say anything to him, because he's always telling me that I am the only one for him. But yeah, I think about that all the time. Jealousy is normal in a relationship. Though too much can cause a problem. You're doing all you can. At the same time, maybe if you start including your boyfriend in some of these activities with your best friend than he wouldn't have so much of a problem with it. If he's the one you want to be with, than you should be spending every chance you have together. Though giving each other space when needed, is needed. If you're not doing anything wrong, than let your boyfriend go with. Your best friend shouldn't have a problem with you wanting to do that. I'm sure if he were your brother he wouldn't. Your boyfriend may always have a problem with it....there's another man out there that you love, that knows you better than he does. There's always a chance, at least that's what he's thinking. You won't be able to convince him of that. Another thing you could do is let your boyfriend and your best friend spend some times together.Good luck sweetie.
2007-01-18 11:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a natural part of relationships and to a certain extent understandable. So long as your BF is not being totally unreasonable and causing arguments with you over this or demanding you stop seeing your best friend I would try to be as understanding as possible.
Explain to him that you understand his jealousy and so long as he can keep it in check it wont interfer with your relationship. Give him all the reasurrance you can and give him lots of kisses. Relax and take it easy - if your not to stressed out over it then hopefully he will follow suit and in time come to accept your friend.
Make sure you invite your BF out with you guys fairly often so he can get to know your friend and see that he is not a threat.
You can't control his jealousy only he can do that. Just do all you can not to make the situation harder and remember there is nothing wrong with a small amount of jealousy so long as your bf doesn't become too posesive.
2007-01-18 11:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by Starkitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they way i see it is guy friends are fine when you are single but once you are in a relationship your man should take centre stage.
how would you feel if he was going out with another girl.
the bottom line is being close friends with the opposite sex is always going to carry the chance of crossing the line somewhere down the track. maybe you and your boyfriend might have a huge fight or you and your friend might have too much to drink one night. there are many scenarios that can happen.
if you truely love your boyfriend as much as you say you do then respect how he is feeling.
your boyfriends instincts are right.
2007-01-18 11:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by elly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfriend what HIS perfect chum is doing. provide up being in places and circumstances that places you on my own with him. don't be performed for a fool, have more effective appreciate for your self and do not provide in to his stupid interest. the perfect chum is making an attempt to make certain once you've adequate low shallowness that you may want to bypass for all his less costly communique and words. he receives you and your boyfriend to interrupt-up and then drop you want a warm potato. ask your self this, did the bf have any interest in you earlier you and his bf began relationship? although the answer, that is too previous due now.
2016-10-15 10:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know there are some male/female platonic relationships out there but i would say the majority usually have one or the other having some kind of romantic feelings (if that makes any sense lol) so its kind of understandable that your b/f feels like that. I guess you just need to see if you can all stand the test of time.
2007-01-18 11:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf should believe what you say, especially if you are being honest. If you two are just friends take your bf with you sometimes so that he can see how you act towards each other.
In the end it is your bf's own insecurities, if he doesn't trust you - get out of there or spend most of your time explaining everything you do to him.
2007-01-18 11:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we have the "When Harry Met Sally" argument that men and women can't be friends, as the sex always crops up. So I can see your bf's POV.
So unless you can prove your friend is not a predator, (ie Gay or has no genitalia) You are always going to have trouble convincing any romantic partners of his innocence.
2007-01-18 11:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him along a few times when you go to meet your friend and let him see that there is no threat. it sounds as though maybe your boyf has been hurt in the past and needs a little bit more assurance that he can trust both of you.
2007-01-18 11:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT stop seeing your mate... odds are he will last longer then bf.
Just whenever around boths... be all affectionate with bf saying hes mate im with you.
How about you and bf help him find a gf... or bf and mate go on the pull or check out pole dancers etc.
ie other girls
2007-01-18 22:37:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me, my partner was jealous of my mate and got a shitty on whenever he came around, he even accused me of sleeping with him! and told me 'he just wants to get in your knickers'. His jealousy is his problem not yours, you can tell him your faithful until your blue in the face, if he doesn't believe you that's his fault, he might of been cheated on in the past, but that's his past not yours!, if theres no trust then why bother with the relationship, give him a choice and let him live with it.
2007-01-18 22:58:04 · answer #11 · answered by mummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋