Recently i've been really depressed...but i cant seem to pin point one thing its just that i cant seem to put my mind on sumting and think positively about it...im Muslim..tried turning to the Quraan for the answers...but i feel like i've betrayed Islam tooo...as well as my family (my parents do not know) ...b/c i have a non-Muslim boifriend and i know Islam duzn't allow that...its just that we're best friends...and he's in love with me...i'd would break his heart and our friendship if i did that...WHAT DO U THINK I SHOULD DO?
oh by the way..if age will affect ur response im 18
2007-01-18 10:50:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Wow, this is a tough one. Im not familiar with your religion, and I do not know the consequences this will bring to you in terms of disciplinary actions from your congregation or family.
It sounds to me like you feel obligued to a relationship with him but you dont feel good about betraying your faith.
However you should think of this, lets say you continue this relationship and it leads to marriage. Do you think you are willing to change your beliefs? What if after you get married your husband decides to practice his religion and wants to pull you with him? What will happen when you have kids and they want to go to church with his dad and not yours? How will your family reunions be? Your situation could get worse if you only follow your heart and don't rationalize your desicion.
When do you think its a better time to leave him, now or after you have entered into a more serious relationship? The consequences will be tougher if you wait.
I may sound harsh and heartless, and a lot of people will tell you that love is the important thing and that it can overcome anything. The thing is only you know your circumstances.
Ask God to guide you in your desicions. Think what would God want me to do?
May God Bless you!
2007-01-18 11:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by veggie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should look into your heart and find out who you are and what you believe personally I am a christian but do not want to force my belief on anyone,sounds like your depression is being caused by indecision,you should never feel guilty or burdened because of what others think you should do ;feeling betrayel because of your belief is not the proper feeling you should have, the God I know and love( is love) and wants all good things for you,dont let people be the determining factor for the rest of your life
2007-01-18 11:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first things first. Religion is a myth. If you believe that. try to explain each and everything to your parents about the myth and how it is so much attached to your living style. Most probably they will not agree with you. Leave them for some time and start a new life. But do not forget to call them and keep searching information about your parents. Good luck.
2007-01-18 10:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could just be a hormonal thing. You are only 18 and female. That explains a lot. If you don't know what's causing the depression, you can't find a cure. Maybe go see a doctor.
2007-01-18 10:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The Cry of a Father’s Heart
The Father’s Love Letter
My Child …
You may not know me, but I know everything about you
Psalm 139:1
I know when you sit down and when you rise up Psalm 139:2
I am familiar with all your ways ……. Psalm 139:3
Even the very hairs on your head are numbered
Matthew 10:29-31
For you were made in my image ……. Genesis 1:21
In me you live and move and have your being ……. Acts 17:28
For you are my offspring ……. Acts 17:28
I knew you even before you were conceived …. Jeremiah 1:4-5
I chose you when I planned creation ……. Ephesians 1:11-12
You were not a mistake ……. Psalm 139:15-16
For all your days are written in my book ……. Psalm 139:15-16
I determined the exact time of your birth and where you would live ... Acts 17:26
You are fearfully and wonderfully made ……. Psalm 139:14
I knit you together in your mother’s womb ……. Psalm 139:13
And brought you forth on the day you were born ……. Psalm 71:6
I have been misrepresented by those who don’t know me
John 8:41-44
I am not distant and angry, but am the complete expression of love …1 John 4:18
And it is my desire to lavish my love on you ……. 1 John 3:1
Simply because you are my child and I am your Father
1 John 3:1
I offer you more than your earthly father ever could Matthew 7:11
For I am the perfect Father ……. Matthew 5:48
Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand
James 1:17
For I am your provider and I meet all your needs Matthew 6:31-33
My plan for your future has always been filled with hope
Jeremiah 29:11
Because I love you with an everlasting love ……. Jeremiah 31:3
My thoughts toward you are countless as the sand on the seashore ... Psalm 139:17-18
And I rejoice over you with singing ……. Zephaniah 3:17
I will never stop doing good to you ……. Jeremiah 32:40
For you are my treasured possession ……. Exodus 19:5
I desire to establish you with all my heart and all my soul
Jeremiah 32:41
And I want to show you great and marvelous things
Jeremiah 33:3
If you seek me with all your heart, you will find me
Deuteronomy 4:29
Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart
Psalm 37:4
For it is I who gave you those desires ……. Philippians 2:13
I am able to do more for you than you could possibly imagine
Ephesians 3:20
For I am your greatest encourager 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17
I am also the Father who comforts you in all your troubles
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
When you are brokenhearted, I am close to you Psalm 34:18
As a shepherd carries a lamb, I have carried you close to my heart … Isaiah 40:11
One day I will wipe away every tear from your eyes
Revelation 21:3-4
And I’ll take away all the pain you have suffered on this earth
Revelation 21:4
I am your Father and I love you even as I love my son, Jesus
John 17:23
For in Jesus my love for you is revealed ……. John 17:26
He is the exact representation of my being ……. Hebrews 1:3
And He came to demonstrate that I am for you, not against you ... Romans 8:31
And to tell you that I am not counting your sins
2 Corinthians 5:18-19
Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled
2 Corinthians 5:18-19
His death was the ultimate expression of my love for you
1 John 4:10
I gave up everything I loved that I might gain your love
Romans 8:32
If you receive the gift of my son Jesus, you receive me
1 John 2:23
And nothing will ever separate you from my love again
Romans 8:38-39
Come home and I’ll throw the biggest party heaven has ever seen … Luke 15:7
I have always been Father and will always be Father
Ephesians 3:14-15
My question is … Will you be my child? ……. John 1:12-13
I am waiting for you ……. Luke 15:11-31
Love,
Your Dad
Almighty God
2007-01-18 10:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by Chef Bob 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There was an old Christian mystic whose name was "Brother Lawrence." He wrote a book called Practicing the Presence of Christ.
The idea is that you imagine Jesus walking with you, listening to you, talking to you every step of the way every day. You do your work for Jesus, the easy and the hard together. as you give your life to Him, the walk becomes easier.
He will show himself to you as you "practice his presence."
2007-01-18 11:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time out. Go somewhere where you can be away and have some time to yourself.
Do you love this guy? Enough to date him even though your religion might not agree with it?
Talk to your parents. Email/IM might do best if you are really nervous.
Also,try therapy!
Good luck!God bless you my friend!
2007-01-18 10:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Myaloo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, when you're in your deepest pit in life, Jesus' arm isn't too short to help you out of it.
All the guilt I expierienced before being saved was too much for me too.. I turned to Jesus. I'm glad I did.
You're in kind-of a tricky situation though. I hope other people have better testimonies than I do.
Just pray.
And if you still don't get answers from Allah...well then, go to the savior of mankind :)
2007-01-18 10:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by Doug 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you are battling the things you think you should do and the things that you want to do. Start doing the things that you want to do and stop worrying about what you think you should do. That should make you feel a lot better.
2007-01-18 10:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to a book for your religious guidance. It is nothing more than ink on paper.
There was a woman who stated (I'm taking this out of context and paraphrasing, btw)
"If you take a Bible and put it out in the wind and rain, the words will fade and the pages will blow away."
Listen to your heart. Allah will guide you to what is the best thing for you.
2007-01-18 10:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by Wisdom Lies in the Heart 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋