How would you feel if your kids teacher (grade 2), had a negative opinion about your daugther?

Question

My daughter is sensitive and cdan over-exagerate... she is a little bit aobut drama. She also listens well, tries hard, and likes shcool, and has good manners. The teacher seems to think negative about her because she can tale or think she is being picked on and over exagerates when she is upset. I realize that the teacher is surrounded by these kids all day and has no maternal instinct to think they are amazing little people... but I don't apprecaite it when she thinks my kid is making up stories... Life is a journey and all kids, including mine, will figure it out, they are in grade two only and will figure out this whole 'how to handle conflict thing'.. how would you feel if your grade two's teacher seeemed not to enjoy your kid?

or just 'get' that your kid is great... not perfect.. but still great

Answer 1

I seem to be in the exact same place. My daughter, grade 2, is very dramatic and one little comment to her and she thinks that person is being mean. I have trouble knowing what is exaggerated and what is true. I have had a conference w/ her teacher but not much has changed. I'm trying to give my daughter more attention at home, because most people think that's the problem. But these problems at school are spilling into our home too, and this is hurting her confidence. Reassure your daughter that sometimes people won't like her, and help her to not take it personally. Also watch your reactions. At first I would be mad when Josi would repeat things about her teacher, and I would say things I shouldn't have, which also influenced Josi's behavior. it also encouraged her to keep going on about how mean everyone is. When she has a bad day I make her write about it in her journal to get it out, and then try to drop it for the night. good luck

Answer 2

Being a parent is not easy. Especially when your child seems to be hurting. As parents we tend to have that mother bear instinct and want to defend them to the end...even when it may not be the best thing for them. I have been a teacher for twenty years and I can tell you that teachers don't go into teaching for the money or for the summers off. They are teachers because they love children and want to help them learn to be the best that they can be. When a child exagerrates, it is for attention. The teacher is playing it down and teaching your child that it is not good to exaggerate. Exagerrating is lying in a sense and can cause serious problems if she continues to exaggerate. Other children will not want to be around her if she stretches the truth etc. I am sure the teacher knows how great your little angel is. That is why she is trying to teach her what is the best way to handle conflicts.....It's kind of like the boy crying wolf....if you keep exagerating and telling stories....who will believe you.

Answer 3

Perhaps your pride is blinding you.

I'm going to be very honest with you - I'm Stay-at-home mom, but before that I taught.

It is it possible that your daughter just wears out the teacher. There is only so much drama and exaggeration that one person can take from a child.

Have you EVER asked the teacher her version of things? I didn't think so!

I thought that all my students were amazing little people, I think my children are amazing little people, but that doesn't make their annoying behavior okay.

YOUR daughter needs to learn to get over the drama. I"ve had students just like her, and the mom always thinks they are wonderful, which is part of the problem. She isn't the victim here.

You need to teach your daughter to be a strong confident young girl. I know as a single mom your plate is full, and from the sounds of it and your name - you are very proud of your daughter. But don't let pride blind you to who and what she may be that could be negative. I ADORE my children, but I am very clear on who and what they are...good & bad. And it could also be that because it is just you and your daughter that you are spending too much time and energy into her. Not that your children should be your priority - OF COURSE they are, but with so much direct focus it can make them a bit more needy then you would want.

And cut the teacher some slack.

Answer 4

Your daughter is doing something to make the teacher not like her. No teacher will tell you exactly what that is because of your reaction. Most teachers like most students. You are looking at your daughter through your eyes and it is hard to see her faults cause you are the mom. She may not have the same traits in class as she does with you. Consider having her transferred to another room if the principal will allow it this late into the year. It will make everyone happier. Tell the new teacher you will help her in the classroom by xeroxing or anything else of which you are capable. Good luck

Answer 5

Have you talked directly to the teacher? I have a daughter in kindergarten who seems to have a similar personality- she feels the slightest injustice and tends to be a little dramatic. At first, my reaction was to see about switching her to the other kindergarten class, because I wanted her to have a teacher who felt compassion for her. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that tough love IS compassion of a sort- the sort that might sting a little in elementary school, but gives you exactly what you need to be an adult. Have you ever met one of *those kids* whose parents over-protect them, fix any mistake, and who believe their child can do no wrong? Please, God, don't let me be that parent, and don't let my daughter be that kid. So now, when Suzie q cuts in the lunch line, instead of falling on the ground and wailing like someone punched her, my daughter knows to politely remind suzie not to cut, and to ask an adult for help from there if she needs to.
Arrange a meeting with the teacher and talk to her about the situation, because you need to get a feel from her whether she has your daughter's best interests at heart, or if she really doesn't have compassion her.

Answer 6

To me, if the teacher thinks negative of your child, in some way, she will come across negative to your child. I would talk to the teacher. Kids are kids. They need to have an imagination. Just like the deal with ritalin. Perfect baby sitter for a teacher that has a roomful of kids and one or two are a little hyper.

Answer 7

U know, when i was in grade 2 my Teacher didnt like me either...i was a good kid and for some reason she made me stay after class everyday...i couldnt read in my head, so i would lip the words at silent reading time...she said i was talking and disrupting the class and gave me detention, when i wasnt even making a sound just moving my mouth..she would tell me i was stupid and even on the last day when we got our report cards she a told the whole class that i had failed...when in fact i didnt...i hated it and had major trouble in school, but back then there wasnt much we could do...talk to the teacher and if it doesnt change, for the sake of your child, remove her from the class...it isnt good for her mentality to be in that environment, especially at her age...take it from me....i had a lot of trouble in school after that due to confidence problems...i hope this helps and good luck with your daughter.

Answer 8

Well I think you have warrented feelings. I know sometimes though it is hard for the teacher, but she does need to see the individual child and take each day as it comes. Children tell stories all the time and they have issues all the time and this does need to be addressed, but if you feel that your child is being picked on you need to look closer to the situation you may be right or you may be wrong but just pay attention to what is going on.

Sorry this is happening.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

She sounds to me like a normal little girl. Some teachers need to take a breather if they're not enjoying their job anymore. Keep close contact with the teacher and, if possible, volunteer as a parent helper any chance you can get. This boosts your daughter's self esteem and lets the school know by your presence that you're keeping an eye on what's going on.