Hello, for the past year I have been dating a guy, we are living together. He used to be great and affectionate, loving and supportive. But now all he does is sit around and play playstation all day. I am pregnant, 3 moths along, and he acts like he doesn't even want to support the baby or anything. I asked him to put the playstation down and get a job, he says he uses the playstation to relax and if he doesn't have it, then he will break a window, go crazy, etc. (excuses) He does not work, he would rather go out and beg money from people. All of his friends come over, mess up the house, then its my job to get it clean because he is SO lazy. I do believe he has good potential, and I want him to clean up his act to we can get married and he can father this child. He will give every excuse in the book as to why he needs to play playstation or sleep in until 3 in the afternoon (while i am out working mind you)like he is tired, sick, etc. I need to get this playstation out!! how?
2007-01-18 10:26:48 · 13 answers · asked by J B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey I hate to say it and as much as you love him see potential and are caring his child you need to kick his A## and that PlayStation of his to the curb! IF you keep on letting him get away with this behavior you are setting yourself up for hurt and disappointment. You already have a child who IS going to depend on you 24/7 once born ( I am a single mother of a three year old) The last thing you will need is another one which BTW he is being very childish,selfish and those excuses of his should not be cutting it with you. It is time to grow up or get out. If by some miracle he gets a job and wants to be a part of your and his child's life there needs to be a balance. Yes playing video games to relieve stress is OK but all in moderation. Sit him down and have serious talk with him if nothing is going to change you need to make a life chance for the sake of yourself and your unborn child. I can understand that he might be scared about being a father and in no way am I trying to justify his behavior, but he does need to face the reality of life.. I hope it works out for you and GOOD LUCK.. Keep your head up and don't let this get you down, you are STRONGER than you think.
2007-01-18 10:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
The Playstation aint the problem, honey. HE is. You found out too late that he is a lazy good for nothing, but for your own piece of mind, and the health of the baby, you need to send him, and his playstation, to the curb. He wont change, and you cant make him. If you keep him around, you will have 2 people to support, instead of just 1. Good luck to you.
2007-01-18 10:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by dkiller88 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Girl you really need to them that relationship in the dust, he is too lazy, and is not worth your time. If you are having this problem now, it is only going to get worse. Apparently your man has not grown up. If you have family go to them and tell them that you need help and move out now. If he really does love you he would get off his rear and get a job, especially when y'all found out that you were pregnant. That road is starting out too bumpy in the beginning, you serious need to turn around and start down a different road. I am sorry probably not the advice you were looking for but, you know it is the truth deep down. Good Luck, think of you and the baby, do what is best for you not your lazy childish man.
2007-01-18 10:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Contratulations on being pregnant! Second....You need to tell him to shape up or ship out. What an asshole! That is so rude of him to just sit around making his pregnant g/f clean up after him and pay his bills! You should give him a reason to be stressed out! If he isnt working or doing anything, then what does he have to be stressed about? I think if you scared him by telling him to shape up or ship out, maybe that would scare him into getting his act together, it would prove to him that you arent scared and you are serious. I dont think the playstation is the problem, he is
2007-01-18 10:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by allynas24 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right. Next time he makes an excuse for being lazy say something like "Well you sure had enough energy to make this baby! Now find the energy to support it!"
He needs to act like a man and step up to the plate. He has a family to support. Sorry to be so blunt, but it's the truth!
2007-01-18 10:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by fluffomatic24 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first make sure he would never lay his hands on you!
when hes sleeping/out/etc, take the playstation to one of your friends' house and ask her to keep it with her for a while (explain to her)
when he comes home and asks where it is, tell him to sit down
talk to him. tell him its gone too far, your not even married yet, and hes acting like a child! tell him matters will be worse once your married if he doesnt try to fix things now! tell him that if hes not supporting you now, how will he support you once you have a baby! tell him you need him!!!!!! make him understand!!!
if he still wont listen, then leave the house. stay at your mother's/friend's for a week. see if he calls or anything
tell him if he really loves you and wants to marry you he must respect you! he cant keep treating you like a servant!!!!!
good luck, and keep telling yourself you deserve better! you really do!!!
2007-01-18 10:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by sofia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oppps. Looks like you made a huge mistake by shacking up with and getting knocked up by this loser. He acts like because he doesn't want to-- it's not an "act" it's HIM. Playstation is the least of your worries. Too bad you did everything in reverse- living together, baby, and now having the burden of hoping he changes.
There's nothing you can do- consider adoption for the baby.
2007-01-18 10:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
the playstation isnt the problem....HE is.
i would suggest that you give him a good reality check and hit the trail...or ask him to.that will give him some time to realise a few things about the real world...so that when his child arrives...he will either have stepped up to the plate...or stepped off.at this stage he is nothing but a deadbeat dad waiting to happen.you and the baby deserve better.
2007-01-18 10:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by dali333 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mine are already extraordinarily darker and im purely 10 weeks... given it fairly is my 4th being pregnant. With me (i'm uncertain the way it is for all women) its the entire nipple plus the areola that gets darker. some women's nipples darken as they become previous too so as that must be your case while you're in actuality not pregnant. solid luck and that i wish you detect out whats goin on quickly. i be attentive to its so not common once you ought to play the waiting game... yet assurance business enterprise's are in no way in a hurry and you often gotta save up on them. Grr!
2016-10-31 11:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cool aint u happy with join him with the playstation and play play play!!!!!!! how could u settle with a man that is useless?now whats gon happen to that baby?
2007-01-18 10:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋