He hasn't called because you broke the 1st rule of friends with benefits. You wanted him to be your boyfriend. Let him go if you can, and find yourself someone else who will commit to you. You knew from the beginning of the friends with benefits relationship that it wouldn't last forever. One of you would find another relationship down the road. This one sounds like it was doomed from the beginning. Sorry, but my honest answer...
2007-01-18 10:28:25
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answered by FordGT guy 3
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I know it's hurtful, but sounds like this "friends w/ benefits" thing was all about the "benefits" for HIM - and certainly none of the "friends" thing or he'd be your friend now whether you were giving him "benefits" or not. So, about the only thing you can do is keep on telling yourself you did the right thing - because you did - and know that keeping a guy by selling your self-esteem (which is what you'd be doing if you kept having sex with him) is the surest way to eventual misery (worse than you're feeling now) and soooo way beneath you. If he is honest with himself, he probably has more respect for you now that you drew the line, too.
So, to get out of the funk you're in, jump in to other activities. Take a class in something you've always wanted to do (pottery, dance, painting), volunteer in a school reading to kids or in a senior citizen's center or at any other organization that does things you believe in. Write in a journal, go to the gym, paint a room in your house - just do something so you're not sitting there missing him and second-guessing yourself. When you are healthy and happy and whole, you will meet someone who is cherishes ALL of you - not just the "benefits" you are willing to give him.
Hang in there, sweetie. It will get better, I promise. You're a strong girl and you absolutely did the right thing. Even better, you did it when it was hard (anybody could do the right thing all the time, if it was easy, eh?). So pat yourself on the back and work on you for awhile, and you will automatically find yourself keeping company with those who are worthy of you.
Hope this helps!
2007-01-18 10:33:58
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answered by Poopy 6
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First of all, good on ya for standing up for what you wanted!
I understand what your going through, it was hurting to be with him but not have him. You felt it was your right to want and ask for more, you hoped there was a chance that he had feelings for you as you do for him. Now it is hurting even more - becoz even if he did have feelings somewhere deep inside, it was not enough to keep you from walking away.
Unfortunetly, there is not much you can do. If you want, you can try and go back to being friends with benefits, but I don't recommend u do that. He may have completely moved on already and if that's the case you will only be asking for more hurt.
When you really like someone, and they don't feel the same way back, it is painful. You might never get completely over it but over time, it won't be so bad anymore.
Look to your friends and family for support and to keep you busy. If you occupy your mind with other things and try not to think about him too much, it will help.
Don't worry. Everything will fall into place.
2007-01-18 11:04:07
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answered by miss2sexc 4
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Go out and buy the book
"He's just not that into you; the no excuse truth to understanding guys" By; Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
Read it, understand it, and stop giving yourself away to guys who really do not care about you. Mr Right is out there and when you find him he will treat you right and care about you, in and out of the bed room... And yeah a "friend with benefits" is a retarded idea, there is no benefit to that and what is the point of loveless sex?
2007-01-18 10:33:18
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answered by erin 2
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if you told him you liked him and he still walked away, then forget about him. its not a good idea to be friends with benefits, because you always get hurt... time does heal and you will get over it, go out with your mates, meet new boys, if he does want you he may come back, but dont waste your life waiting.
2007-01-18 10:27:59
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answered by as 2
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Its simple....he only wanted you for the sex and he got you and now he doesnt have any need for you...sorry to be so blunt but thats what that means take it from a girl that has been in that position.....whatever you do DON'T CALL!!!!! please that is the biggest mistake that we women make.....just like he didnt call you dont call him if you call him it makes it seem like he got you whipped...play it out...only a real friend would have stuck by you....he aint ****
2007-01-18 10:27:47
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answered by Im a Survivor 1
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let him go girl. maybe he just isnt looking for a g/f right now! sounds like you need to be doing some soul searching of your own! don't call this guy cuz all hes gonna do is come over and you're gonna screw him. leave well enough alone!
2007-01-18 10:26:40
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answered by msdrdn 3
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First off .. there is nothing inherently wrong with "friends with benefits" If all partys involved can handle and understand that.
The problem here is one of you wanted something different than what he wanted.. and YES its that simple
2007-01-18 10:31:29
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answered by darchangel_3 5
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You need to move on Candy. Be strong and you will find someone that loves you as much as you love them. Someone that treat you exactly the way you want to be treated. Good Luck!
2007-01-18 10:25:58
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answered by rilindy 5
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Don't worry about it, he's moved on and you should too. It sounds to me like he just wanted to be friends with benefits, nothing more.
2007-01-18 10:25:34
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answered by lovelylittlelady 3
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