Married 4 yrs. Currently apart. Our love went stale. We decided to start dating again. I know we need time apart to fall back in love. Theres no cheating or anything like that. How do i do this without being to pushy or giving? We both still love each other. I'm in counseling to talk about my issues. I think shes pleased i took that step. I'm doing it for me. I think eventually she'll go to. So what else do i do especially if where on a date?
2007-01-18 10:20:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-18 10:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you both still love one another but have some things to iron out I defiantly would not see other people. That just leaves room for temptation. If you open up to someone else about you and your situation or just your life in general so they get to know you then you are opening the door for a relationship to start. I would not do it. When and if it is completely over and you have had time to heal, then start seeing other people but not until then. Be honest with yourselves and fair to one another. If it is meant to be it will all work out. I wish you all the best.
I think I may have misunderstood the question, sorry. If that is the case I have other advice, you can do what you want with it but I hope it helps. First of all it is great that you are going to counseling, there are alot more people unwilling to do that than there are people dedicated to making things work out. Obviously you both still love one another so small, kind gestures are a good start. Flowers, poems if she likes them. Talking and being completely honest. When you disagree on something it is ok to agree to disagree. We are all different after all and no one thinks and feels exactly like the other one. Dedicate a song to her. Name a star named after her. Something cool like that. Sorry for the book just wanted to be sure I was helpful. Again good luck
2007-01-18 18:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by lost angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just give her time and when you are on a date with some other woman just let them know that you just want to be friends and about your situation and after a month or so plan a romantic date for your wife and take her on it and show her your romantic side adn whatever else it is that she fell in love with
also if theres is a date that she really loved that you two went on before you were married or while you were take her back to that place and recreate that date
good luck and good luck with thereapy
2007-01-18 18:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be polite, and marriage is about give and take. Proud of you for going for counseling. This will help, sometimes one has to work on their self. Learn to love yourself, then you can love all! Have a great New Year!
2007-01-18 18:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her,hold her hand,put your arm around her.theres lots of ways to show you still care
2007-01-18 18:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by starr67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋