I'm getting married September 15th, this year. We've been together for years, but don't live together. I know this is an odd things these days, but it's what we've done. We're to move in together right after we're married, and I don't really want to go on my honeymoon then. I'm more excited about the house and getting it all ready. It's going to be a lot of work, and I think it'll be an awesome way of spending our first week together married. Instead I think we should go on our honeymoon in January when it's FREEZING here in Ottawa, Canada. Well usually freezing :P ... My fiance thinks this is great. It's not that we don't have the money either, our honeymoon is to be a gift from my aunt and uncle to anywhere we want to go. Is this a weird thing though? Would you do it? Have you done it?
2007-01-18 10:19:10 · 15 answers · asked by Kass 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think if it is what you and your fiance agree to, then do it. Who really cares what anybody else or conventional wisdom says you should do!
And I APPLAUD you for not living together first. Call me a neanderthal, but in some circles (like mine) old fashioned values are still respected. Good for you!
2007-01-18 10:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We got married on Valentine's day and didn't take our 'honeymoon trip' until March, because that was when we could get reservations at the place we wanted to go. It IS your honeymoon, and as long as it's WHAT the two of you want, it doesn't matter if it's 'right after the wedding' or months later. I think that you are being 'very adult' about this ... and if 'fixing up your place together' is what you really want to do right after the wedding, then that is your FIRST 'honeymoon' and your trip will be your SECOND one ... this year we are 'going on vacation' over our tenth anniversary ... and that will also be a good 'honeymoon' for us ... even though we've already had SEVERAL. Good luck, and 'happy marriage!'
2007-01-18 18:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's weird. It's never weird to do what you feel is right for you. We took our "honeymoon" trip a couple of months *before* our wedding, this was just how our schedules worked out. It was a wonderful Caribbean cruise, and we didn't enjoy it any less because it was before and not after the ceremony. I mean, c'mon, if we're a couple already, who are we fooling by trying to tie the "honeymoon" to a formality such as signing our marriage license? I had people tell me we would "regret" taking it early, but we have yet to "regret" it - we had a blast, absolutely loved it. I think you guys should do what you're most comfortable with. There's no tradition that cannot be modified to suit your fancy.
2007-01-18 18:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to wait, because i got married in January and Prices are about 30-70% extra during that that time anyplace that is warm. However My wife's parents waited as well an never really went, and their marriage had a horrible ending after 15 yrs. (not that that was the cause, but you know) So when i made the proposal of waiting to save money and have time to get the house in order she wasn't to happy about that, so we went right away. But since someone else is paying then go in January. Just note that its expensive than if you go late spring or summer. But i do agree, i rather get settled in, than go fly away and come back home to a junky house full of boxes plus you have to go back to work as well! Its good to have that break after a few months to go on another adventure.
2007-01-18 19:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go on a holiday anytime.Enjoy your first week together as husband and wife.I have been married two years , due to illness , work committments etc we have not yet been on our honeymoon.We plan top do something "extra extravagent" on maybe our 5th or 10th wedding anniversary which will double for the "honeymoon" we never had.
Spend a week enjoying each other in your new house !!
2007-01-18 18:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by tarlia76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We got married in March 2006 and didn't take our honeymoon until June. It wasn't weird at all, in fact I'd do it again. The wedding itself and then moving were enough without going away, too . . . and by the time we went on our honeymoon we were much more relaxed.
2007-01-20 15:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to go on a honeymoon right after the wedding. If anything, take a few days off and spend at home getting settled into your place :)
2007-01-18 22:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years of marriage and still haven't gone on a honeymoon. What can i say, finances are tight----it will come but when. It's not weird at all. Take your time and when the honeymoon comes around, relax-enjoy each other and your environment.
2007-01-18 18:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by phoozball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I went on our honeymoon a month after we got married. It was great, we were relaxed, rested and could enjoy ourselves. I am so glad we waited. On this freezing night I would love to go somewhere tropical. Go to Hawaii, I hear it is beautiful. If you get a trip anywhere, go for it. But waiting is a terrific idea.
2007-01-18 22:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not weird at all. Go for it.
Usually the honeymoon is a period of rest after a really stressfull situation, but you dont have to go then. You go when you want, besides I think your idea of setting up house sounds like alot of fun.
2007-01-18 18:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋