I've been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months. we were in the 'ooh your so perfect.i love you." "No your more perfect i love u" stage! now this past week we've been getting on each others nerves. i mean.. we're driving each other nuts! I still love him and he still loves me of course but.. i cant be around him for more then a half an hour without him driving me nuts! I think i drive him nuts too so.. is this just a stage? are we just getting used to each others personallatys and faults? if so what did u do to get through this stage? advice? and no im NOT breaking up with him. I dont hate him.. just SOME of the things he does! lol
2007-01-18 10:18:53 · 11 answers · asked by Sumer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like when you got out of the ooh-la-la phase you really both go to know each other and you don't have a very strong foundation for your emotions. You can't hold onto a relationship just because you have feelings. Feelings aren't enough. You need to learn how to communicate and actually have things in common to connect through. When you start to argue make it practice to take a deep breath and talk without saying anything negative, irrational or accusatory. If you can't spend anytime together over a long period of time this is a red flag you are not meant to be. Spend some time apart and trying to revamp old habits can be a good way to renew, revamp and have a new perspective on things.
2007-01-18 10:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear.
The thing with any relationships is that you are always going to be putting your best foot forward, or in otherwords, you will always be displaying your best traits to the other in the relationship. Now, as you are starting to see, the true personalitys are coming out. Now you say this has only been goin on for a week...give it time. If in a month the situation is still the same...leave. I do not know how old you are, but if you are 19-25, you shouldn't really be having serious relationships anyone, there are too many fish in the pond for you to have found the prize winning bass at that age. Now if you are completely in love, and like you said, you are NOT breaking up with him, than I would suggest talking to him about some of the things you dislike, or simply ignoring it. Continue putting YOUR best foot forward. That is the best you can do. But I honestly don't see why you refuse to break up with him if in a month it still doesnt work. Anyway, good luck dear.
2007-01-18 10:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by usmcpimp13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a stage; more like a test!
'Going out' is the mating ritual that simulates marriage for humans these days. When you first start 'going out' it's just like the way people were when they got married in olden days. At the beginning the way you speak to each other is with nothing but chewy, cutesy, hunny bunny talk. You get tired of lying like that to each other and then you start speaking the truth. Also, you stop allowing each other to perform 'faux pas' and start telling each other what they should and shouldn't do. If you can deal with this and still have interest in other at (coincidentally) 3 months then you have reached the 'make or break' stage. So chin up. That's all there is.
2007-01-18 10:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by Double O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like infatuation and it doesn't last forever! Sorry. It's possible you are both just going through a rough time now so back off of each other for a bit and see if you don't miss one another. Could also be, and I suspect that it is, you are learning more and more about one another and you're finding each other to not be exactly all that you thought each other was. And you're really not...you both know neither one of you are perfect. That's what we parents call looking through rose colored glasses. Continue to date him, keep learning about one another and you'll both come to a conclusion:you are meant to be together or you're not. Time will tell!
2007-01-18 10:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you re just getting into the comfortable part of your relationship. Do you hang out every day? Take a break from him(not like a real break) and go hang out with your girls for the night. When you stay away from him, it makes you both want eachother even more and then when you see eachother you will be so into that that you won't have time to notice all then things you're not fond of.
2007-01-18 10:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all you werent really in love with him in the first place... its just what you said... INFATUATION MEANING- you LOVED him... but youre right,,, thats no reason to give up on your man now... obviously you like him and I think now its just a matter of getting to know each other better... dont bail yet just cause youve hit the DULDRUMs... things may pick up again and you might find someday that you are IN LOVE with him.
2007-01-18 10:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how often do you guys hang out? like everyday? Looks like you guys need some alone time. Have you ever felt how it is to miss him? Sometimes when you dont see your bf/gf for a few days and start missing him, itll spark up something again. You need to go out with your girls one night, and this guy needs a guys night out as well.
2007-01-18 10:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by cesarsauce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I'm still at stage one where I'm trying to get a g/f.
2007-01-18 10:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ya thats all to familiar, just ride it out, and make fun of each other.
2007-01-18 10:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u guys hang out too much,stay away for while and u will see
2007-01-18 10:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋