ok...i'm going through my horniness phase. i dont beleive in one night stands or sex buddies...what should i do? i feel like going crazy!any advice? and i know this is the religion section, i want religious advice to fight this cause the urge is really huge and i dont want to do anything i'll regret
2007-01-18 10:18:03 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i'm 22 but very religious
2007-01-18 10:23:46 · update #1
How about taking a cold shower?
2007-01-18 10:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by Imogen Sue 5 · 8⤊ 5⤋
Now you know how guys feel all the time. Yet their so much porn between online, tv, and movies today, their is no wonder why their is so many prblms. The only way to defeat this, is to stay focused on God. You need to read, the scripture, and pray on a daily basis. Also hold ever thought captive, don't even let your mind indulge in the thought process of lust. And try to do something, else that will take your mind away from it.
2007-01-18 10:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by ۞ JønaŦhan ۞ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not help to have me say this but, everyone goes through this. We have all dealt with it and it is not easy.
Since you posted this in the Religion and Spirituality section I am assuming that you want a "moral" answer.
You are thinking about respecting yourself when you don't want to have one night stands or sex buddies. You are the only person who will protect you. When you think enough of your self to protect yourself it will benefit you as you get older.
Now, as to what to do about it. Learn to focus on something else. If movies trigger these emotions, then protect yourself by not going to these movies. If it is books then change the kind of books you read. When you discuss something this private with "friends" then you delute your own privacy.
No one will value you if you will not value yourself.
Focus on what will be important to you in five years. Knowing that you might be in a position to make your life better in five years might help you to deal with todays problems.
If you go to church become more focused on being in service in some way. Take the focus off of you and put the focus on someone who needs your help.
No matter how old or how young you are talk to someone like your Mom. I am 50 and I still talk to my Mom about things that are bothing me. She helps me to focus outside of myself.
And the best advice I can give you is to pray. Pray that the good Lord will focus your energy on His will and doing things that make you respect yourself.
ICL
Rosa
2007-01-18 10:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by Only by the grace of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can understand what your problem is and sympathize. I would like you to ignore the people who tell to just masturbate because that isn't a solution to anything. All it does is a) make you a slave to it and b) increase your lust over time instead of reducing it. From a Christian standpoint, we teach that keeping yourself pure from all sexuality that is done with lust and out of place is wrong and hurts you spiritually. I couldn't agree more! To try and get rid of my lust I masturbated but that didn't solve a thing. So I prayed hard. I tried over and over to remain pure and every failure I offered to Christ then I picked myself up and started again. With the help of God I have been able to remain pure and honestly feel so much more happy and satisfied than all my impurities combined. Honestly, seriously and lovingly I am asking you personnally to find and investigate into Christianity. Talk to a priest, chaplain, counsellor etc. Have you ever heard of a non- christian be able to remain pure for long. All my strength has come from God and continues to come from God. If you can turn to Christ you will be so joyous and will feel more incredible than ever in your entire life. Then you can overcome any obstacle in your way. You will be so convicted and strong that you would be able to give your life to defend the Truth. It is impossible to describe my joy with my faith in Christ. But don't make this journey alone.
With all the love I can give,
Elisha
2007-01-18 10:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Elisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you get the urge try focusing on something else, maybe you have a hobby or you can find a couple of things you enjoy to do, arrange to do something with a friend outdoors,the movie place,exercising releases chemicals that will help you relax and all the activity will distract you and take your mind of the issue,it is also beneficial in keeping you healthy etc..........hope it works out and well done for being responsible and respecting yourself. prayer will also give you resolve as will reading,especially scripture, do some bible study when the temptation comes.
2007-01-18 10:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by fenian1916 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it depends on your morals. You didn't say if you were a virgin or not. If you are, wait. It's not really worth sacrificing your self worth. Everyone will tell you go ahead. But what if the guy you pick afterward is disrespectful or didn't care about you. Do you want to try it because you are being pressured, because every tells you it's cool and your curiosity is peeked and it's making you feel that way. Whatever you do, do what's right for you.
2007-01-18 10:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by kayjay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not go solo, it's safe, fun, and you don't have to worry about the situation getting out of hand. ; ) Some religions may frown on this activity and encourage you to focus on things other than sexuality - if you can do it good for you!!! I couldn't - the most important part is be safe and do what you think is right for you. No one can answer for you - I find difficult to believe that God would care very much if you pleasure yourself or not, He/She has more pressing things to focus on; war, pestilence, oppression, hunger; need I say more.
2007-01-18 10:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by drof_naes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue to fight it and it will pass. There is a tremendous amount of temptation out there today because the evil one knows he is a short timer. Fight the good fight. Some of the greatest Saints had some fierce temptations to fight off. Do not masturbate like the guy above said. That is sin too. Self gratification is just another form of lust.
2007-01-18 10:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Midge 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I got married I had to go to a religious sex ed class. They say to think about something else and if that does not work, then to pray for the urge to go away, and other prayers as well
2007-01-18 10:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by what_to_do? 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Read Romans 6. Its only 23 verses. Learn it by heart. Any time you are tempted-recite it. The temptation will leave you. Another way would be to pray for the salvation of a known wicked person. Just pray for them until the temptation is gone.
Both work!
2007-01-18 10:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by Desperado 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Masturbate. Stay away from one night stands or sex buddies, ewww. It may relieve the physical urge, but it won't do anything for you emotionally or spiritually. Wait until a long term relationship to have sex, when you can be fulfilled by it.
2007-01-18 10:22:01 · answer #11 · answered by dancin thru life 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋